Who is walking me down the isle...(LONG...SORRY)

Original post by Chloegirl

May 21, 2003 12:48 PM

This is a really tough topic for me but I need some opinions. My dad passed away 2 1/2 years ago so he is not here to walk me down the isle...we were especially close so this really upsets me.

My aunt has expressed interest in her and my uncle walking me but I just dont feel it is what i want..it doesnt feel right. But, I feel like if I dont have her and my uncle....and have someone else she will be really hurt.

My cantor suggested my FI come get me and walk me down...so that is an idea...and i think my aunt wont be so offended. But I dont love this idea....

But after a weekend with my FI family, I really feel a bond with his grandfather. We are not really really close...but i really care for him and feel so good when I am around him and would like for him to walk me. My FI thinks its a great idea but i know my aunts and uncles will be so offended.

What should I do? I feel like I have to settle this so I can get past it...it upsets me so much so I just want to decide and not think about it anymore.

mv1003 Posted: May 21, 2003 01:38 PM

Re: Who is walking me down the isle...(LONG...SORRY)

Actually, I may disagree with it has to be someone from your side. Perhaps someone from his side can be walking you as an acceptance into their family? Just to play devil's advocate for a moment.

I grew up w/out a Father. I really wanted my Grandmother to walk me down the isle, but she passed away in December. I asked & am thrilled about having my Mother's life partner walk me down the isle. He's been more of a Father to me than I have ever known. My Aunt is a little bent out of shape, as she assumed I would ask my Uncle. However, it was my decision, and I'm happy about it.

Whatever your decision is, make sure you're happy about it and don't second guess it. It's very kind to try & take other family members feelings into consideration, but it's your wedding. You have to look out for #1.

regina2 Posted: May 21, 2003 01:39 PM

Re: Who is walking me down the isle...(LONG...SORRY)

The more I think of it if you are not thrilled by Aunt and Uncle walking you down then go by yourself.

Think how symbolic...start off by yourself and FI meets you half way to begin your life together. Sounds nice!!

Chloegirl Posted: May 21, 2003 01:48 PM

Re: Who is walking me down the isle...(LONG...SORRY)

Thank you all for taking the time to respond. I really appreciate all your thoughts and ideas.

I think I am going back to the idea of me walking alone and meeting FI half way. This was my original plan! I guess its nice...me this indpendent single women giving myself away to my life partner half way down.... and us walking into the next phase of our lives together.