Who Pays

Jumbles Posted: Mar 12, 2007 08:26 PM

Who Pays

For my Bridal shower????

hmpena Posted: Mar 12, 2007 08:30 PM

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It really depends. Nowadays, many MOBs pay. However if she cannot afford it, the bridal party may pay for it. My bp, mother, and MIL paid for my shower.

Munchkn16 Posted: Mar 12, 2007 08:33 PM

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My parents are probably paying for it. I don't think they'd be comfortable asking my BP for money, especially since two of my BMs are in grad school. My FIL's may help, byt I'm not holding my breath.

Jumbles Posted: Mar 12, 2007 08:33 PM

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Thanks cause we aren't sure ..and FH says his mom doesnt pay

snowcat Posted: Mar 12, 2007 08:36 PM

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I was in my friend's wedding, and the bridal party played for the shower. I know my BP is paying for my shower.

Munchkn16 Posted: Mar 12, 2007 08:39 PM

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And if you stick to tradition, FIL's didn't pay. It used to be the MOH paid for/hosted the shower, but it's not always feasible. Traditions have changed. I personally think the Moms and the BP should divide it, but that's me.

angl2001 Posted: Mar 12, 2007 08:53 PM

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Posted by Munchkn16

And if you stick to tradition, FIL's didn't pay. It used to be the MOH paid for/hosted the shower, but it's not always feasible. Traditions have changed. I personally think the Moms and the BP should divide it, but that's me.

i agree

july06bride Posted: Mar 12, 2007 09:03 PM

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My parents and dhs parents split the cost of the hall-each paid for their guests

My mother paid for everything else - centerpieces, decorations, cake, wishing well, invites, Favors, games/prizes...

MOH had some minor things to pay for that she chose to-

the rest of the BP did not -but the bridesmaid did a joint gift- on top of their indiv. gifts

MrsQ-in2007 Posted: Mar 12, 2007 11:49 PM

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I've always heard and experienced that the MOH and BM's plan and pay for everything with help from the MOB (either planning help or some monetary help). BUT nowadays anything goes. Although I've never heard of the FMIL paying.

snydl40 Posted: Mar 13, 2007 12:15 AM

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My mom, BMs, and FMIL are chipping in-I think-I don't ask questions-I want to be completely surprised.

Mandyin2007 Posted: Mar 13, 2007 12:24 AM

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My mom paid for most of it. My BP is paying for the Bachelorette party.

danniegirl Posted: Mar 13, 2007 08:22 AM

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Bride's parents

cuteauburnininny Posted: Mar 13, 2007 08:29 AM

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every wedding i been in the bp party had paid for the shower.

shopaholic07 Posted: Mar 13, 2007 08:53 AM

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It depends......whoever is hosting it pays. My mom is paying for mine.

nifheim Posted: Mar 13, 2007 09:39 AM

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depends it may even be you depending on the financial status of parents and/or bridal party.

Traditionally its the brides mother (mine is paying for it). My parents are not paying for my wedding so I was very happy that my mother offered to pay for the shower entirely since most of our bp is poor.

Usually the BP pays for the shower in today's age.

Personally my opinion ( and certain opinions expressed in many articles on etiq i have been reading lately) its really odd to have the brides parents pay for everything but the rehersal dinner especially since we are marying much older and parents are typically in retirement. I would not ask my parents to pay for both shower and wedding with out chipping in or having bp chipping or even both chipping in. It maybe something to consider for brides today.

angnick Posted: Mar 13, 2007 09:42 AM

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my mom payed for my shower.

Sometimes though the bridal party pays for a shower.

Espo22 Posted: Mar 13, 2007 09:44 AM

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Posted by Jumbles

Thanks cause we aren't sure ..and FH says his mom doesnt pay

if she wants to help she can...theres no well this one HAS to pay or doesn't have to pay...Its who offers i guess and willing to do...Now its so different, either the MOB, bridal party, in-laws or a combo of all of them

Aug06 Posted: Mar 13, 2007 09:49 AM

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For mine, my mom is paying for most of it because my BP doesn't have a ton of money to spend (a lot of them are in school or entry level jobs and two of them are under 18). However, she is planning with the the MOH so my MOH will be hosting it technically and the girls will throw in where they can.

malagian Posted: Mar 13, 2007 09:52 AM

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Ive heard usually either the BP or MOB. My Mom is doign mine.

milerose Posted: Mar 13, 2007 09:58 AM

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Well my mothe paid for my bridal shower and my bridesmaids paid for the decorations and my MOH paid for my invites.

That is how we always do in my family.

I feel asking the bridal party to pay for the entire shower is too much. They already have to pay for a dress, hair, shoes, make-up and a gift.

JMO