Who pays for the Rehersal Dinner?

mrszg2be Posted: May 27, 2006 04:00 PM

Who pays for the Rehersal Dinner?

I don't think I'm having a rehersal dinner because If we have to pay for it . I think we have paid for enough stuff.

BlueTulip Posted: May 27, 2006 04:08 PM

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It depends on what, if any, arrangement you made with your family. DH's parents offered to handle it which was great. If they had not, we would have paid for it ourselves. Good luck!

superkat Posted: May 27, 2006 04:14 PM

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Usually it is the groom or the groom's family.

CTarantino Posted: May 27, 2006 04:16 PM

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Posted by BlueTulip

It depends on what, if any, arrangement you made with your family. DH's parents offered to handle it which was great. If they had not, we would have paid for it ourselves. Good luck!

Same here! DH parents offered to pay for flowers and rehersal. That was a BIG help!

waterspout4 Posted: May 27, 2006 04:37 PM

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Traditionally it is the groom's family.

October Bliss Posted: May 27, 2006 04:39 PM

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Traditionally, the groom's parents pay for it. However, everyone's circumstances are different, and in today's day and age, many couples pay for it themselves (as we are doing).

EmberLynn Posted: May 27, 2006 04:45 PM

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I feel the same way as you feel. We've covered enough stuff. My traditional FILs have yet to offer. I've asked FH bring it up. He has yet to bring it up. I don't see why they wouldn't. Heck, their the ones so big on tradition.

mrszg2be Posted: May 27, 2006 04:48 PM

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EmberLynn same here. My 'traditional' Fh parents have offered zilch. Now Fh was married b4 at city hall with out them even being there. Maybe they feel since he has been married b4 . Screw it. But he was married when he was 20 years old with no real ceremony or reception. I am a little annoyed they yet have to offer that much. They should know the drill they have two older married sons.

ewickens Posted: May 27, 2006 05:47 PM

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The arrangement we made with Future IL was we would choose a place that wasn't that expensive - which was perfect b/c FH and I chose the restaurant he took to after he proposed and it's family run and the food is great. We opted to not do an open bar though!

Mrs.A2006 Posted: May 27, 2006 05:52 PM

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My FIL's offered to pay for our RD. They had spoke to FH about it and I said great! We are very thankful for what they are doing for us.

EJSD2006 Posted: May 27, 2006 06:55 PM

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we never discussed it but FIL's just kinda assumed the 'host' title. it's traditionally the grooms family.

lipglossjunky73 Posted: May 27, 2006 08:53 PM

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FH's parents are paying for it - thats traditional...

suzybilly819 Posted: May 27, 2006 09:07 PM

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Really depends. I think protocol is the groom's parents.

I wsa lucky that my FH's mom offered before we had to ask.

sami Posted: May 28, 2006 12:19 AM

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I thought it was the grooms family..

blueyes678 Posted: May 28, 2006 12:20 AM

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FH's parents are paying for ours...

Tria1110 Posted: May 28, 2006 09:43 AM

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We are paying for ours. I don't think his mother knows of the tradition (she's older and very flakey!) and I certainly wouldn't have us bring this to her attention. But maybe your FILs are assuming they are paying but haven't mentioned it to you as of yet.

Honestly, for lots of reasons I don't think there is a lot of 'traditional' weddings anymore. First and foremost - they are so freakin' expensive! Lots of brides on here are paying for the whole thing themselves. One plus to this is that we get to do exactly what we want.

As I see it - its our wedding and if we accept help from someone else than we have to consider their requests - and that's a non-starter for me.