why are they all coming?

I am probably the only bride complaining about this. EVERYBODY is coming!!! Oheka is SMALL!! I only wanted to end up with 150 - we invited 190 and the RSVPS' are rolling in (jen and matt it's so much fun!) - but only three people aren't coming!!!! I still have TONS to hear from - but my RSVP date is Oct. 9th - what was the percentage everybody promised me? It doesn't look good! People are going to be dancing in the hallways and bathroom!

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A lot of people must really care about you!
You'll manage. Everything will be fine.

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i know it is because they all want to be there - and care so much....and deep down I am so flattered...but GOD I wish I had chosen a larger place!!!!

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i would go just because it is at oheka, even if i didnt like the couple. HA!

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most of the no's come at the end, so you may still be ok.

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oh THAT is good to know!

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We invited 221 UGH!!! My ideal would be 185.
I think I am dreaming. We only have 2 no's so far. My RSVP date is the 14th. So we shall see. The girls are right the no's come at the end. Why do people do that?

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From experience I can tell you that the people who don't respond by your RSVP date probably aren't going to be attending. Wait and see Oct. 9 and then start worrying.

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I had the same problem. they say about 20% say no, and that's exactly how many said no for me. Most of the no's didn't roll in until the very end, and most of the ones I had to call were no's. you'll be fine, just enjoy! and keep us posted!

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Well Ladies,
I have to tell you this post is kinda upsetting but I can see what your complaint. I never understand this problem though because if you don't expect them to come, why are you still inviting them is just for the check? Because technically you could just send your church announcement (in those circumstances) and not include your reception card.. just so they know you are getting married and the day.
Sorry, if I come across harsh. I truely don't mean to. I am just getting married on Friday and we are paying for 30 people who aren't coming because naturally our wedding was only reannouced only 4 weeks ago and between my fiance's friends who are military and family out of state we are now under and orginally we had about 200 guests now we have 110 including vendors. It is just hard to see people complaining about 'why are they all coming' when the answer is simply that they love you and want to share your day and were invited and could make it! Naturally, our guests who ended up being no are very upset they can't and as are we.

But I just never understand these posts because naturally you invited all the guests and picked your vendors so with vendors included you knew you were a high amount. I wish we were to be blessed with the opportunity of not having alot of no's!

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anybody who knows me from this board knows that by no means did I intend a rude post. I don't know half the people we had to invite. If I had it my way (and my FI's ) there would be 30 people coming - all of which if one said no I would be devastated and would change the date.

You are misinterpreting what I am saying. It was a 'light' post - sort of tongue in cheek ya know?

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I'm having the same problem. My RSVP date in october 10th and I've only had 2 no's so far. My list was huge not because we wanted all of them invited, but because our parent's did. So we had 275 invited. I only wanted around 225 invited. I'm not confined by my room size though. It can accomodate 300. So I feel for you.

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My response date is October 30th. We invited about 275 people. We expected 200-220....at least that's what we wanted and budgeted for. (There were alot of people who we felt we had to invite - at least parents did who probably won't come).

The first couple weeks we got about 35 yes's and 3 no's. We being the geeks we are were figuring out all these crazy percentages...you should see my spreadsheet. We thought everyone was coming. We starting hoping for no's. Only because we were going over budget (our place can hold them). Well then 2 people died! We stopped wishing for no's after that.

Now with 5 days left. We are at about 135 yes's and 35 no's. I think we are only gonna wind up with 165. FI thinks 200. So we shall see..... We had to guarantee 150. It was very exciting at first to get all yes's..now I hate the no's...even from those I expected as a definite no!

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I feel bad saying this, but we also are hoping for some declines, I really want to invite everyone on the list and then if someone can't attend then they can't but I would love to send them ALL out at the same time, money wise I don't think I could do that or be daring enough too! Anyone else feel that way? We wanted 140 now the guest list has EVERYONE on it that I want to invite (including 'B' list) and is 205. It is also holiday weekend, so that may mean more people not being able to attend that already have prior engagements, we didn't send save the date cards or magnets or notify everyone about the wedding, most now but definately not all.

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I am in the same boat jenny11.9. We are going to end up inviting more then will fit in our place.

Of course in a perfect world I would want everyone to come and they all would fit, but in my budget I picked a place I loved that was priced right and end up being smaller then I wanted. Cant change now.

and said by many others, our parents are inviting people we dont even know. Its not about the money, its about principle, they feel they need to invite certain people. Also I didnt want to have a A and B list, we have been on the B list once, and it doesnt feel good.

Hopefully everybodies different situations will work out.

Good Luck Jenny, I know how you feel, or will know how you feel in a few months time.

Kimberly

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We invited about 130 and expected about 90 (maybe 100 if we were lucky). We were really surprised when realized our count was about 115. Im so happy everyone can come - and we don't have any space issues - but it just goes to show you that you can never tell who is going to show.

PS: Most of my few no's came at the end.

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I'll give you the revearse of Stef's....

we invited 240 and 150 came...

granted a good 20 were not in the country

the rest came from the enormous amount of people who did not come with guests!! I was shocked!! make sure you think about that...we had about 30 singles at our wedding...

so that brings my numbers to 190 and 150 showed...see Jenny...it will all work out