why do i f'n bother

XFINALLYX Posted: Dec 29, 2006 03:54 PM

why do i f'n bother

so im in NY for a few days so my FH can go finish up all of the paperwork to become NYPD and I decided to go to davids bridal today to show my grandma my oleg cassini gown and i ask FMIL if she would like to go cause she was surrounded with no car for today and had nothing to do.. her response.. 'no thank you' who says no thank you?? seriously.. and then i find out that my FSIL (FH's sil) went to go order the bm dress and his mom begged her to let her go with her and FSIL told her no (she doesnt care for her as much as i dont).. how effed up is this?? i tell FH and he sees nothing wrong with this. i try so hard to be nice to her for his sake and she is a cold hearted ***** like always and yet i still get yelled at from FH for making a 'big deal' out of this. sometimes i wanna bash FH in the head. :(

MichLiz213 Posted: Dec 29, 2006 03:58 PM

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Men are like that with their moms sometimes. I say stop trying to impress her/involve her and just let her be bitter. It will get her in the end.

Pinkiegirll07 Posted: Dec 29, 2006 03:58 PM

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I'm so sorry your FMIL is such a PITA!!
Have you tried talking to her about being this way???

danielle19755 Posted: Dec 29, 2006 03:59 PM

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Yeah I get yelled at too sometimes by FH for things I dont agree with that FILs do.... Its very frustrating especially when U know ur right..

XFINALLYX Posted: Dec 29, 2006 04:05 PM

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i refuse to tell her cause she's not the type of woman to talk to. she's very condescending and she tells you what to do. i lived with them for about 2 years because i got kicked out of my house and she made it known that if it werent for her i'd be on the streets like i should be kissing the ground she walked on. f that. i was a big girl i could've moved out but i wanted to save more money. she does nice things like that (or give us a huge check for xmas) but then is such a biyatch when it comes to stuff like that. or the fact that she has no idea my bday was 2 weeks ago and doesnt care. i mentioned it to her and she didnt say anything. and it'll only get worse with time. my fsil is one of the best people i know, and her and fbil just had the most amazing baby in the world in march and fmil goes over there, smokes and then tries to hold her, and tells fsil what to do with the baby.. i just dont want this in my life. i just cant

nifheim Posted: Dec 29, 2006 04:05 PM

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I feel so bad for you. To be honest my mom is pretty much like that and she is my mom. So people are just cool and from the sounds of it she will be very cold to you for sometime. I would just keep being the better person and ask and when she says no know that you did the right thing.

FH should agree with you on this one... some men as stated are just oblivous.

RGV07 Posted: Dec 29, 2006 04:09 PM

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oh gosh,,,does she like you? Has ever been mean to you? MAybe she is jealous that your FH is getting married to you!!!! At least you tried to be nice, and incliude in things. Dont worry much about that!!!! Men are alaways very protective of their mothers.

XFINALLYX Posted: Dec 29, 2006 04:56 PM

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see FH says she likes me but she never makes me feel like she does :-/ then again she's a very cold person and doesnt show any emotions (wonder where FH got that horrible quality) i kinda just dont wanna ask her anymore for anything that has to do with this stupid wedding. FH and i fight all of the time cause of his parents. i hate them

AMGBride2008 Posted: Dec 29, 2006 05:18 PM

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sounds like a lost cause.... you said you can't talk to her, so your only option is to just not include her or ask her to be more involved... obviously she won't be too upset because she always turns your offers down.

Marchbride07 Posted: Dec 29, 2006 05:40 PM

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AAARGH! FMILs!

My FMIL is actually a saint...and I must be the devil because she still pisses me off

SoulMates422 Posted: Dec 29, 2006 09:37 PM

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Honestly as long as you know you have given an effort to be nice and include her, you can keep your head up and keep it moving.

TheMrandMrsof2008 Posted: Dec 29, 2006 09:42 PM

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Men and their moms.... ahhhhh

PegaLega Posted: Dec 30, 2006 02:12 AM

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Next time you try to be nice and she says NO or she isnt interested just say ok, thought it would be a nice gesture.
Maybe she will see that you want to include her and she is being an ***

luvabul Posted: Dec 30, 2006 02:32 AM

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MillerFord742008 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 04:53 AM

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Awww I'm sorry u feel like that and she's acting up. FH's never see any wrong by anyone EXCEPT U! Thats how my FH is until someone does wrong to him! AWww dont be to mad just dont set urself up to be open like that anymore.

angnick Posted: Dec 30, 2006 08:25 AM

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my mil says no thank you.. to just about everything i ask her..
lol

i'm sorry that she is that way..

TLC1018 Posted: Dec 30, 2006 07:48 PM

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sorry you're going through so much with your FMIL. That is really hard, b/c I know you'll get upset when he defends her, b/c she is not doing the right thing. You know it, but it's probably hard for him to admit.

TakingtheLongWay Posted: Dec 30, 2006 08:16 PM

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Posted by MichLiz213

Men are like that with their moms sometimes. I say stop trying to impress her/involve her and just let her be bitter. It will get her in the end.

couldn' t have said it better myself!