Why do parent intros?

For a number of reasons, I'm leaning against parent intros -- and my dad is all for this. It was actually his idea. My logic (JMO) is that the people who are in attendance already know who the parents are. So if that's the case, what is the point of introducing the parents?

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there are likely people who don't know your parents....at the 3 weddings we attended in the last year, i didn't know ANY of the parents prior to the big day...so this way i knew who they were at least....but if you have your own good reason to leave them out, go for it...i've seen that done as well.

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yeah there will be a ton of people (my work friends, FH's work friends, etc) who do not know my parents-- and for me, it's more about recognizing them and how amazing they are (i mean, i have a tuff time with my FMIL sometimes) but she and FFIL are really helping us out and support us very much-- and my parents, i can't say enough about-- they are amazing so i want them to be intro. for that reason.

if you are not into it tho, don't do it-- it's your day.

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truthfully, i just don't want to do it to spite my FMIL. She thinks the day is about her and wants to be in the spotlight. I don't want to give her extra attention because she doesn't deserve it after the way she's carried on for 10 months.

My father doesn't want to do it either...

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Because no matter how much hostility there might be, they still gave life to us, and it's a matter of respect.

A parent seeing their child getting married is one of the biggest events, if not the biggest (birth of a grandchild is close) of their lives.

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We are not doing this. We have too many parents and it's too awkward for my mom who's not remarried but bringing a date.

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Do what makes both sets of parents comfortable. Out of respect for my parents, they asked not to be introduced. My mom especially, is a naturally shy person and wants no attention on her, nonetheless being in the spotlight. My father agreed.
My FIL's are divorced and also asked that they not be introduced to avoid ackwardness that still exists between them.
I respected both sets of parents and did not include them in the intros.
There were many guests that didnt know my parents or his parents before the wedding. But they did have the opportunity of being thanked by each parent on the receiving line at the conclusion of the ceremony.

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

Because no matter how much hostility there might be, they still gave life to us, and it's a matter of respect.

A parent seeing their child getting married is one of the biggest events, if not the biggest (birth of a grandchild is close) of their lives.

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yeah i agree- there is serious stuff between my FMIL and i b/c of the way she acts sometimes but underneath it all-- i gotta do what's right and what my parents raised me to do... so that's how i feel but again, it's up to you.

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I'll be honest with you, the only people at our wedding who were introduced were us. No parents and no bridal party. In our families and most of the weddings we have gone to, parental and BP intros just aren't/weren't done. I assure you that nobody felt slighted. Since we got married and had our reception at the same place, nobody missed the ceremony and everyone saw who my mother was and who DH's parents were.

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Posted by STBMrsDaniRella

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

Because no matter how much hostility there might be, they still gave life to us, and it's a matter of respect.

A parent seeing their child getting married is one of the biggest events, if not the biggest (birth of a grandchild is close) of their lives.

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yeah i agree- there is serious stuff between my FMIL and i b/c of the way she acts sometimes but underneath it all-- i gotta do what's right and what my parents raised me to do... so that's how i feel but again, it's up to you.

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i agree. i HATE my FFIL--but i will still have him introduced; since i want my parents to be intro'd. sometimes u just gotta be the bigger person!

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

Because no matter how much hostility there might be, they still gave life to us, and it's a matter of respect.

A parent seeing their child getting married is one of the biggest events, if not the biggest (birth of a grandchild is close) of their lives.

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I totally agree!!! PLus my parents have done A LOT for me!

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I am not doing parent intros. I don't feel it is necessary.

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if we dont have the parent intros I guess only the bridal party walks out?

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My advice is do whatever the hell you want! It's your wedding. That may not be P.C. but whatever! Do what makes YOU (and FH) happy on your big day. I know people may not agree with that, but that's JMO.

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Id say some people do not know the parents and saw no harm in including them.

I introduced them and the parents loved it.

I had a problem with Anthony parents being divorced and remarried so I just introduced them as :
The parents, and then had the DJ list their names all together.

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i think its an respect thing! i mean my parents are paying for a nice portion...so why not have them honored and introduced....plus later down the rd when you look back you can see them on video its just a nice jesture. his parents even though they havent done crapola id never not include them! These are our parents and id never not do it!!!!

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Posted by Goldi1021

I'll be honest with you, the only people at our wedding who were introduced were us. No parents and no bridal party. In our families and most of the weddings we have gone to, parental and BP intros just aren't/weren't done. I assure you that nobody felt slighted. Since we got married and had our reception at the same place, nobody missed the ceremony and everyone saw who my mother was and who DH's parents were.

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ditto on all accounts.

ETS: My father requested no parent intros. My parents are divorced, my father is remarried my mother is not. My father did not want to walk in with my mother b/c he felt it was awkward for everyone (my mother, step-mother, him...) My step-mother did not want any recognition that day because she didn't want to take any part of the day away from my mother and my step-mother did ALOT to help with the wedding. So, we nixed the whole thing.

Like Goldi said, everyone at the reception had been at the ceremony and they knew who the parents were. We honored our parents in other ways.

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Im doing the parents & bp intro , ,y god if it werent for the parents , this whole wedding woulndt exist , in terms they gave me life, brought me up right, they deserve 5 min of fame too,,