so my cousin had twin girls over the summer- theyll be almost a year for the wedding
obviously were not having children at the wedding, let alone 10 mnth old babies that are going to scream and cry
i thought it wasnt something i wasa going to worry about until i got a message that said:
were so excited for the wedding its going to be the girls first big party
uhh their first what? no thank you!
so i didnt know what to say and i wrote dont you think its going to be too late to have them out
and she wrote no my parents will come get them
uh no, the babies arent invited!
what do i say to her without starting a war?
the only little kid wre having is my flower girl i mean, really
*** ppl?
Tomsbride
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Just say, oh that's so nice of them. We are planning on having adults on at the wedding. I'd love to see them at the ceremony though!
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Thats very unfair to just assume and invite their kids...Im not trying to be mean at all but we arent having kids either. Its adults only. We are only having our flower girls there.
Did you ask your parents for some advice? Maybe someone else can mention to her that no kids are invited...?
hiswifey2011
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tell her its simply not appropriate to have two babies at a wedding ... she NEEDS to understand!!!
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Just say, oh that's so nice of them. We are planning on having adults on at the wedding. I'd love to see them at the ceremony though!
this
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Ohhh Lord... I feel your pain, I'm sure I'll be going through that very soon. I'm not having kids, I think your best best bet is to simply let her know it's an adult affair only.
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Ohhh Lord... I feel your pain, I'm sure I'll be going through that very soon. I'm not having kids, I think your best best bet is to simply let her know it's an adult affair only.
yea but what do i say without starting a problem?
itbroi805
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I would say....
well we're actually not inviting any children to the wedding, it's not really the type of event for them. It will give you guys a great adults night out
legalchef
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Ugh... I don't have any advice for you other than what others have already said, but... ugh....
Why would she WANT to bring them!
amandamichael
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hows this:
hey sweetie, hope things are well and the girls are good, cant wait to see them im sure they got so big! anyway, just wanted to touch base with you about the wedding, as much as Mike and I would love for the girls to be their with us, the wedding reception itself is adults only, if you want to bring them to the church thats absolutely fine and we'd love to see them there. but there is no children at the reception-beside it will totally give you and stefano a night out that you 100% deserve!
i hope you understand! see you at the shower give the girls a kiss for me<3
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Posted by legalchef
Ugh... I don't have any advice for you other than what others have already said, but... ugh....
Why would she WANT to bring them!
THIS!
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hows this:
hey sweetie, hope things are well and the girls are good, cant wait to see them im sure they got so big! anyway, just wanted to touch base with you about the wedding, as much as Mike and I would love for the girls to be their with us, the wedding reception itself is adults only, if you want to bring them to the church thats absolutely fine and we'd love to see them there. but there is no children at the reception-beside it will totally give you and stefano a night out that you 100% deserve!
i hope you understand! see you at the shower give the girls a kiss for me<3
This is perfect!
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Posted by Cataverri
Ohhh Lord... I feel your pain, I'm sure I'll be going through that very soon. I'm not having kids, I think your best best bet is to simply let her know it's an adult affair only.
yea but what do i say without starting a problem?
I would just tell her as nicely as possible that your not inviting any children because it's just what you prefer... no matter how you say it she's going to react the same way. If she's going to cause drama she will do it no matter what.
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Depending on how close you are with her, you can just say it very casually and be honest with her ...'Although I would love the girls to be there and to see them, we're doing an adults only reception - although, not sure how much my flower girl will like not having anyone to play with haha. So sorry!'
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Someone did this to us as well. We told them flat out that we were sorry but there would be no children at the wedding (except our FGs and RB). They then responded that they wont be able to attend but the way I look at it ... is anyone can get a babysitting 6+ months in advance. I would never bring my children to a wedding, never!
To each their own! Stand firm!
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Just say, oh that's so nice of them. We are planning on having adults on at the wedding. I'd love to see them at the ceremony though!
Love this response!! I don't know if you want them in the ceremony though in case they are sleepy or cranky or just having a bad day and cry the whole way through?? That makes me nervous!
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hows this:
hey sweetie, hope things are well and the girls are good, cant wait to see them im sure they got so big! anyway, just wanted to touch base with you about the wedding, as much as Mike and I would love for the girls to be their with us, the wedding reception itself is adults only, if you want to bring them to the church thats absolutely fine and we'd love to see them there. but there is no children at the reception-beside it will totally give you and stefano a night out that you 100% deserve!
i hope you understand! see you at the shower give the girls a kiss for me<3
i think thats perfect!!! dont worry, she will understand!!
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hows this:
hey sweetie, hope things are well and the girls are good, cant wait to see them im sure they got so big! anyway, just wanted to touch base with you about the wedding, as much as Mike and I would love for the girls to be their with us, the wedding reception itself is adults only, if you want to bring them to the church thats absolutely fine and we'd love to see them there. but there is no children at the reception-beside it will totally give you and stefano a night out that you 100% deserve!
i hope you understand! see you at the shower give the girls a kiss for me<3
That sounds great!!!!
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Posted by Tomsbride
Just say, oh that's so nice of them. We are planning on having adults on at the wedding. I'd love to see them at the ceremony though!
Love this response!! I don't know if you want them in the ceremony though in case they are sleepy or cranky or just having a bad day and cry the whole way through?? That makes me nervous!
i dont think 10 month old twins belong at any of it
but i also know this is going to start a war
i do nottt want them screaming through a reception i spent two years planning its not acceptable not allowed and i spent too much money
why would anyone assume their infant children should come? uhhh fml!
