why do we care? and if you don't, tell me why and/or how you don't please?!

Original post by JessicaM.

Aug 02, 2006 11:45 AM

so, I have been going over my body with a fine-toothed comb lately and I am very unhappy.

I really like the shape of my legs, but the backs of my upper thighs have the dreaded bumps and dimples. I am so self-conscious about it, I don't know what to do with myself. then I see people that don't have it...with 'perfect' bodies and I just about die.

the thing is...why do we as a people care? why are we so hung up on looks and beauty to THIS extreme. I am b/c honestly, I see the chicks in FHM and Maxim and stuff that my dh likes and I look NOTHING like that...I get the whole 'love no matter what thing' but it just kills me that they look so much better.

I guess this is a bit of a downer, but I am consumed with this at the moment. doesn't help that pms is setting in...

how do you ignore your flaws and enjoy the skin you are in?

JessicaM. Posted: Aug 03, 2006 12:35 PM

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Posted by BJandDan

Have you seen these lately?????!!!!!!???????!!!!!!

You're crazy to not like any inch of you!!!!! You are gorgeous!!!!! Stop with all the crazy talk!

Bonnie Jean, thank you so much. that is so sweet. I feel stupid sometimes...and Laurie is right...I should cut myself a break. I will try.

thanks again.

and iamvocal...thanks to you too...I'd gladly lend you my body, but I am sure your future husband wouldn't trade you in for anyone.

itslaurie. Posted: Aug 03, 2006 12:44 PM

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Posted by JessicaM.
and Laurie is right...

music to my ears.

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Aug 03, 2006 12:57 PM

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My big thing is that I'm so fair that veins show through my skin even though they are no where near the surface of my skin. They are all over my legs, arms, chest, boobs and they show through green. I hate it. Most of the time I try to ignore it by not examining myself in the mirror. i know my DH doesn't care and doesn't find it ugly, but I do. I know how you feel. But I guess they are the things that make us who we are and make us individuals.

johnsae Posted: Aug 03, 2006 09:32 PM

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Posted by glinda_goodwitch

My big thing is that I'm so fair that veins show through my skin even though they are no where near the surface of my skin. They are all over my legs, arms, chest, boobs and they show through green. I hate it. Most of the time I try to ignore it by not examining myself in the mirror. i know my DH doesn't care and doesn't find it ugly, but I do. I know how you feel. But I guess they are the things that make us who we are and make us individuals.

I have the vein problem too

StreetDoc6531 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:17 PM

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I am a LARGE Woman and I can HONESTLY say I DONT CARE!!! I used to be shy and very introverted. Then I married an idiot who only made me feel worse about myself. Once I got rid of him and took a hard look at why I was miserable it had nothing to do with my weight and how mybody looked. Once I realized that I am a good person that works hard to help other people it was amazing how people responded to me. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but it starts with yourself. Once you can accept yourself and you feel sexy~you will show sexy and be sexy!!!

I am a plus sized girl but as long as I can still wipe my own butt, get up and walk on my own, and not be constantly out of breath Im doing ok.

lilqtpie2181 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:44 PM

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I get very very self consious...
I can point out so many things about myself that I dont like. I guess noone is ever happy.
I do minor things to help myself feel better... but i still don't feel like I am where i SHOULD be.
I go to the gym on a regualr basis... i used to have gaps in my teeth and I got that issue corrected ( it was an insecurity of mine since i was 10)
I try to eat right....
anyhoo... FH get upset with me because he tells me that other girls would kill to have what i have but like i said.... we are never satifsfied.

lipglossjunky73 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:47 PM

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The more you develop yourself INSIDE, the more it reflects on your outside - plain and simple!

Its all about confidence, and that comes from developing yourself from the inside out!!!

lcherian Posted: Aug 08, 2006 03:54 PM

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omg, i have a HUGE list of things i wish i could change about myself. i used to obsess over my nose. i wanted a nose job for a long time, but i eventually got over it. i also have cottage cheese, which grosses me out every time i look in the mirror, but i've come to accept it. there's not much i can do about it because it's genetic and my skin will never appear as firm or tight as carmen electra's or some other swimsuit model. i also have veiny legs, and again it's genetic and i've learned to deal with it---i just wear pants and long skirts all the time!