Why does nobody seem to care about my wedding except for me??

Sorry, I just have to VENT...

I am so sad that nobody seems to care about my wedding...specifically my bridal party. Nobody asks me questions or shows any interest!! If I mention anything, I am looked at like 'bridezilla' and it just really hurts my feelings.

I recently rode home to PA with my MOH and we barely spoke about the wedding except for when I mentioned it....there is just NO interest....why??

I'm just really upset about this....while I know that nobody will ever care about my day the way I will, I expected that some people would care just a little

Anyone else feel like this?

I think that in April things will change. Right now to other people, your wedding seems far away. And if the members of your BP have already been married, they are the ones who are more likely to be asking wedding questions as opposed to the single ones.

But I did feel the way that you did a couple of months ago

You'll see things change by spring.
And you know that we all care very much about your wedding day.

People care.... its just not in the forefront of their minds, like it is with you. For us brides to be, right now the wedding is at the center of our universe, and I think sometimes we forget that its not the same for everyone else.

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Posted by JanuaryBride06

I think that in April things will change. Right now to other people, your wedding seems far away. And if the members of your BP have already been married, they are the ones who are more likely to be asking wedding questions as opposed to the single ones.

But I did feel the way that you did a couple of months ago - I still feel that way about my FMIL who doesn't care that her only son is getting married and likes to pretend that the rehearsal dinner is the real party.

You'll see things change by spring.
And you know that we all care very much about your wedding day.

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You're right...thank you :)

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Posted by johnsae

You're right...thank you :)

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I think that you need some

I feel the same way,,, One of my BM i have to call her 100x before she even gets back to me. I understand they have ther elives as well, but like one onther girl mentionded they dont even ask how things are going...they should be helping us. I am sure that once your date gets closer they will be more interested. Remeber they have ther things going on also and dont alway talk wedding with them, becasue they dont understand ya h=know what I mean?.

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Posted by JanuaryBride06

I think that in April things will change. Right now to other people, your wedding seems far away. And if the members of your BP have already been married, they are the ones who are more likely to be asking wedding questions as opposed to the single ones.

But I did feel the way that you did a couple of months ago - I still feel that way about my FMIL who doesn't care that her only son is getting married and likes to pretend that the rehearsal dinner is the real party.

You'll see things change by spring.
And you know that we all care very much about your wedding day.

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Well said!!!

You're not alone in this. I feel the same way, but like she said as it gets closer I'm sure at least the BP will be more interested, with fittings, last minute accessories, Bacholette Party!!!

Remember you have us as your surrogate BP!!!

Sweetie.. This is why I continue to log onto this website day after day after day. I totally understand what your feeling. However, my problem is kind of the opposite. I feel funny talking about my wedding in front of people(especially those who are NOT married or engaged) because I dont want to come off as being a 'bridezilla'. I try not to be one of those brides that are talking about their weddings 24-7. Dont worry. We care about your wedding. Thats why we are all here.

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Posted by SIBride06

Sweetie.. This is why I continue to log onto this website day after day after day. I totally understand what your feeling. However, my problem is kind of the opposite. I feel funny talking about my wedding in front of people(especially those who are NOT married or engaged) because I dont want to come off as being a 'bridezilla'. I try not to be one of those brides that are talking about their weddings 24-7. Dont worry. We care about your wedding. Thats why we are all here.

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Thanks....as usual my LIW girls have made me feel better...I called my MOH tonight and we had a long talk. She told me she is very excited about my wedding, but that she's just been too exhausted to express it (she is a lawyer and she works crazy hours and she is looking for a new job during her spare time)...so I realize I have been selfish...not realizing that people have lives besides my wedding. Anyway...I feel better now, so thanks for hearing me out

You always have us!

Everytime I vent about my wedding people always say..oh its 6 months away..don't worry about it.... It really pisses me off

Same here in a way. I try not to talk too much about it because 99.9% of my friends are single... it's to the point that some of my friends didn't even know the date was set until recently! But I do get this awkward feeling whenever the wedding comes up with my BP...I don't know if its me or what...? I sent my BMs a newsletter early last month and have gotten no feedback...I am even scared to solicit it because I don't want drama..

It's so funny that I see this post because I was just thinking about the same exact thing. My mom is trying to work on my BS and my MOH seems as if she could care less and that really bothers me. I know if I were the MOH I would be asking questions, seeing what the bride needs help with, what kind of BP she wanted etc. and I'm not getting that at all, not from my MOH anyway and she's suppose to be planning these parties. I don't understand. It really bothers me and I don't know how to approach the subject.

I feel you completely.

I have 3 months left now, and have I heard from ANYONE in my BP?? No. With the exception of seeing my SIL at Christmas, nothing.

I have been very laid back the past few months or so. So I have been trying not to bother anyone except for the occasional email or call to my parents or his parents. But anyone else? Nothing. Not even my MOH. I've been trying to reach her since before the holidays and she still has yet to get back to me.

I know everyone has other priorities right now, which is why I have not bothered anyone. But damn, is a phone call really too much to ask? I have people who aren't even invited that I hardly know asking me how things are going, which is more than I can say for my family!!

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Posted by BKtoLI

I feel you completely.

I have 3 months left now, and have I heard from ANYONE in my BP?? No. With the exception of seeing my SIL at Christmas, nothing.

I have been very laid back the past few months or so. So I have been trying not to bother anyone except for the occasional email or call to my parents or his parents. But anyone else? Nothing. Not even my MOH. I've been trying to reach her since before the holidays and she still has yet to get back to me.

I know everyone has other priorities right now, which is why I have not bothered anyone. But damn, is a phone call really too much to ask? I have people who aren't even invited that I hardly know asking me how things are going, which is more than I can say for my family!!

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EXACTLY! My Mom keeps telling me about RANDOM friends of hers that are 'so excited' about the wedding and they ask her questions about it everytime they see her.....but then there is nothing from my BP!!!!

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

People care.... its just not in the forefront of their minds, like it is with you. For us brides to be, right now the wedding is at the center of our universe, and I think sometimes we forget that its not the same for everyone else.

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I agree in what you are saying. When both my sister's were planning their big day, I was excited at first but jealous because I wanted to get engaged with my FH at the time. I was still apart with the planning. When the wedding is coming close then you will get the attention you deserve. I am going thru it right now. Right now I have to share the attention with my sister who is having a baby two months before my wedding. So the spotlight for me isn't there. Don't lose the fun in planning your special day, you still have your FH on your side.

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Posted by BKtoLI

I know everyone has other priorities right now, which is why I have not bothered anyone. But damn, is a phone call really too much to ask? I have people who aren't even invited that I hardly know asking me how things are going, which is more than I can say for my family!!

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It's shocking to see who cares enough to ask. You'll be more surprised as it gets even closer.
There's always LIW.