So, my SIL and I are not very close. I never much cared for her, and now even less.
She has never been respectful to my family. I could go on and on with the details - but just trust me. I was a BM in her wedding - not really because I or she wanted me to be but because she honestly had no friends (I am being truthful). Both my sister and I, as well as her two sisters were in her wedding party.
So, even though I didn't like her, I paid over $200 for a hideous dress, $50 for ugly silver shoes (with a plastic heel - mind you) and ordered a size ten dress (at her request even though I wear a size 4), and paid over $80 for alterations.
Anyway, when it comes time for my wedding, I was planning on ordering my dresses from NetBride - I found a great price and deal. I want to put the orders through at the same time, so all I need are the girls sizes and shipping info. I had no idea that this would be such an issue.
She is a little heavier, so she tells my brother she does not like my style of dress because it will make her look 'fat.' She can't wear satin and won't approve of the dress until she tries it on. She also complains that the dress looks cheap. So, she dragged him to a bridal boutique, and the dress is OK, but she does not want to give me her size. She wants to order it for herself.
BUT.. I was told the dresses needed to be ordered together to all be the same color?? I already had my other girls cut me a check for the dresses, so I don't want to have to change my plans and order from the shop she went to just so she doesn't have to tell me her size.
Such unnecessary drama!! I thought I was extending an olive branch asking her to be my BM...she never changes...
Seriously, what do I do. Let her get the dress ion her own, or stand firm?
kaluvsjk
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As I VERY well know it's easier said than done to 'do what you want, it's your day', without causing FIL drama. I would call your FMIL and explain the situation--try to get her to see your side and how irrational her daughter is--maybe she'll be embarrassed and talk to her. Also, keep your FH involved--it is his sister. If things don't change explain to her your ordering the dresses with or without her.
JulyBride728
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honestly --tell her this is YOUR wedding and YOUR vision, and that u would really appreciate it if she could stand by your side on this one. tell her that you're not changing the dress for anyone and she's more than welcome to be apart of the wedding some other way if wearing that bridesmaid dress will make her uncomfortable all night. Again, keep ur bridesmaid dress, and if she disagrees give her 2 options: 1. wear the dress you've chosen and suck it up or 2. not be a bridesmaid and help out some other way. perhaps do a reading, help be a coordinator, etc....
