why I've been ***

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No i am really unhappy. On top of this i have all this medical stuff and i dont need the drama ya know?

I really would like the inlaws and Ant to talk. At least I'd feel better that they get what upsets us. I mean imagine your parents never never never calling you? W t f is up w that? I have the opposite prob. My parents are up my azz 24/7. Maybe that evens us out.

Anyway now I feel like an imposter bc im wavering especially since he made that comment. Hes since apologized on his own and said it was low and untrue and had no right saying it.

Im going to talk to my FBIL about it later. And fyi...he never calls or texts him either but talks to me every day. Weird right?

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you have FM

Amy, I am so sorry to hear all this

Planning a wedding is extremely stressful and puts a huge financial burden on everyone involved.

Please know you are not alone. FH and I have been fighting a lot about money too, when we never really did before being engaged. So I know how you feel when you say that you miss you two being best friends and being happy.

Just remember the reason why you to are getting married, and have the type of wedding that you two want and can afford. Either way it is going to be beautiful and all that matters is at the end of the day you two will be happily married.

Amy darling..
what does fh mean by girls on here having it together and you not? I dont understand the words coming out of his mouth!!

Your happiness is the only important factor here. Not the wedding, not FIL, your parents , YOU.

Come out tomorrow with us- well make you feel better!!


BTW- YOU ARE NOT ALONE WITH THESE ISSUES!!!

Oh Amy I wish I could help

Trust me, there have been times where I wanted to call off the HUGE wedding and just run to town hall because it's so stressful!! You need to worry about yourself and no one else. If you aren't happy something needs to be changed. I hope everything works out and I know that we are here for you no matter what!!

Oh and tell FH he doesn't know what he's talking about - I don't have my sh*t together either! I'm sure a lot of us don't, that's why we all come on here to support eachother!

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Posted by MrsTarricone2B

Oh Amy I wish I could help

Trust me, there have been times where I wanted to call off the HUGE wedding and just run to town hall because it's so stressful!! Y

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I hear ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by MrsTarricone2B

Oh and tell FH he doesn't know what he's talking about - I don't have my sh*t together either! I'm sure a lot of us don't, that's why we all come on here to support eachother!

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I agree, I sure as hell don't have my s hit toggether! My house is a mess and I haven't booked a vendor in 5 months!

i'm sorry amy

i think the other girls have said it all...but we're all here if you need to talk. and i don't think you need to 'have it all together' to be on LIW...cause lord knows i haven't gotten it all together yet. don't leave us!

Sorry dear.

it'll get better..

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Posted by allornil

Ok so ever since we got engaged i've been unhappy. I'm supposed to be happy right? FH and I have been fighting non stop mostly about $.

I never expected to have to drain my savings account for a cesspool, window and reframing the house, all these drs and meds and the car which is dead in my driveway and the biggest argument lately.

On top of it, his parents are so uninvolved. I love them but would it kill them to ask about the wedding? And his mom is so annoying about her little Nonyo (crybaby) but never calls him? It really upsets me. You'd think she'd try to help us even if its not money related and i think she should give him $ truthfully since she supposedly wanted a wedding so badly.

Yesterday i told his cousin how i felt and she was like id be so mad! Yeah so that was a dig i hope gets back to fmil.

On top of this i almost deleted my profile bc FH said, 'youre hiding behind that stuff on that site but everyone there has their sh*t together.' yeah that killed me.

I dunno. I was happier just living together.

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i think its a really stressfult time in everyones relationships-- FH and i fight about a lot lately, stupid stuff that ends in 2 minutes, but its a lot of stress- try to work through it-- i think the future and marriage and kids bring up lots of stress--- and who doesnt fight about money!

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Posted by MrsTarricone2B

Oh and tell FH he doesn't know what he's talking about - I don't have my sh*t together either! I'm sure a lot of us don't, that's why we all come on here to support eachother!

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I certainly don't have my **** together my life is not all rainbows and roses either!!!!!!!! What I do know is that not being healthy is mentally and physically draining. I know you have been dealing with a great deal of health issues lately and I know that doesn't help the situation!!!

I can so relate to your Issue with the in laws cause mine really show no interest either!!!! I know what it feels like when no one inquires about the wedding or when no one asks who if you need help and I am sorry you have to go through this. Suddenly you start looking at yourself and saying 'do they think I am not good enough for their son' or 'maybe they don't like me.' It is very stressful when a wedding is only one sided.

Financially, there is never a good time to do anything and I feel like if his family really wants a big wedding, then they need to shell out the cash!!!!!!!!! Honestly, I just want you to be happy again, I'm here for you if you need anything!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by futurestevens

i'm sorry amy

i think the other girls have said it all...but we're all here if you need to talk. and i don't think you need to 'have it all together' to be on LIW...cause lord knows i haven't gotten it all together yet. don't leave us!

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ITA.. I dont have half of my sh*t together thats why Im on here..For help and sanity LoL.. WE LOVE YOU AMY!!!!!!!!!

Your not the only one hun...hang in there things have to get better

sorry your going through this. Try to take a break from the wedding planning- hopefully that will help make things a little better.