Why do I have to have a mom who only has negative things to say about everything I do! I showed her a picture of how I want to wear my hair and she says 'you know no one should wear their hair all back its not flattering on anyone' and you saw your cousions hair on her wedding day and it looked horrible!' First of all my cousion had her veil on the whole night no one even saw her hair. I told her are you crazy! Everyone at work saw my hair when I was doing a trial ( I work in a hair salon) and even clients commented that it looked great all back.She just never has anything positive to say to me and I can't stand it. AHHHH only 2 1/2 months left. Then she saw the necklace that I want to wear. She said ' thaatss whaatt your wearing ? ITs a little gaudy don't you think. I couldn't belive it. I like the necklace I picked out and yes its a little large but my hair is going to be all back and my earrings are going to be tiny. My dress is a little girly and I am just trying to make it a little more sophistacated. I can't belive what an a** she is. Shes now slamming dishes around upstairs so I know that shes mad that I don't agree with her. OH well I don't care! I got my veil today and that makes me happy. Thats what started this whole thing anyway. Well thanks for letting me vent ......again! I attached the pics of hair and necklace.
I think you will look beautiful! It's your day - do what makes you happy! I'm so sorry she's giving you such a hard time!
kathleenmarie
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I think the hair and jerlwry are great! Do what makes YOU happy on YOUR day!
butterfly20
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you will look beautiful! i love what you picked out
sarahthegreat
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sorry to hear what you are going through. hang in there for 2 1/2 months, I'm sure it will all work out.
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I know what you mean!! My Mom and I have been fighting it out as well. What you have to do is give a little on the things you dont really care about and what really matters stand your ground. Give a little, take a little. If you are happy that is what matters. For instance my mom wanted to make rice roses to throw outside the church, I didn't want it but I let her do it and in return I got tiara, veil and jewelary I wanted with no complaints!
Good Luck!
janwinterbridejoy
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its your day not your moms do what you think will make you look and feel your best!!!
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Posted by kathleenmarie
I think the hair and jerlwry are great! Do what makes YOU happy on YOUR day!
ditto!
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i think your necklace and hair will be just fine for you sweety! i know what you are feeling! i made my candy wrappers and programs and my mom just took it and changed them they way she wanted with out even asking me what i think! it's to late now! i have 17 days left till my wedding and when all is said and done i will be saying wait can i do this overagain cus this was not my wedding it was my mom's. i just got tired of the fights!!!! and i should have not but emotional i could not deal with it anymore! just stick to your guns!! and you will be fine!
I think the hair looks lovely, and the necklace is absolutely breathtaking!!! BEAUTIFUL!! You're mom will regret what she said once she says the whole thing together.
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Is your mother crazy (please don't take offense) but I LOVE the hair style you posted a pic of and the necklace is stunning. I am going to wear my hair very similar to yours--I guess your mom would think I would look ugly too. So, lets look ugly together!
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hi karen,
i know it must be hard to hear such criticism from your mom, especially when you need her support. have you had a chance to speak to her about how you feel when she makes those comments to you? maybe if you told her that you feel insulted by her comments and then give her examples she will understand and be more aware of her own behavior?
suven
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You must be related to me. She sounds like my mom!!!!!
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girl, i hear you!! i have the same issues but it's with my MOH. everyone's been telling me not to pay attention to her b/c it's MY day. and you know what... it is. you are going to be the one with the final say. Although, i do think you should probably talk to your mom over this and let her know where you are coming from. It's your wedding, and you need her support and it's not gonna happen by her putting you down.
GOOD LUCK.
jpdagame
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You will look beautiful anyway!!! Besides its your day... Do whatever makes you happy!!!!
Jax430
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You're going to look beautiful. I love the hair style. I think your mom, and many of our moms, criticize not because they don't like something, but it's a way of expressing some of the negative emotion they feel about 'losing' their little girls. Try not to take what she says to heart and realize that she is probably just nervous about your big day and doesn't know how to express it.
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I think they are both beautiful. My mother and sister keep telling me that I am wearing my hair half-up/down. Time will tell!
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The hair AND the necklace are LOVELY and elegant. I see NOTHING gaudy about the jewelry AT ALL! Don't worry. I think it's hard for moms...they always envision their little girls wedding the way THEY want it to be and it's hard for them when they see you doing something else entirely....just let it blow over. She'll cool off. I had a MAJOR blowout with my mom the first month I was engaged and now SHE'S the one who's going out and buying me bridal magazines every day! haha And try to include your mom in some things and let her do some thigns so she doesnt feel TOTALLY left out. I am sure she would like to know that her opinion is good for SOMETHING.
