Why must I be like this?!
So I dont know about anyone else who might be having the same problem...but how would you deal with this situation??
To make a loooonnnggg story short, Fh and I are having out epart at the end of April at a catering hall...the room only holds 120 people. When fh and I got the list together we asked both sides of our families who they would like on the list (1st Mistake)
Both sets of our parents are divorced, and my family is no problem...We are pretty small, but my Grandmother annoyed me because she wanted to invite everyone she knew. But it wasnt that big of a deal because most of the people are close to us but not necessarily family.
My fh's father kept changing his list one day he wanted to invite certain people, others he didnt. So we eliminated the people he wanted BECAUSE HE SAID THAT WE COULD, and invited more friends (who I would rather there anyway!) Now heres the problem...fhs dad doesnt talk to one of his sisters and I thought nobody else did in the family. But apparently they do. (BTW This aunt met me once in 5 1/2 years and doesnt keep in touch with fh or his family)
we didnt invite her to the epart because FFIL said not to and it wasnt necessary.
So today I am at work and FFIL calls me...and asks if it would be ok for her to come! And I asked him well who would you want to come, he alone or her with her 3 kids (who I dont know) SO I am annoyed because now I feel obligated to invite her because she is his aunt...but at the same time I would rather have friends there...we know them better and they are more involved in our lives.
I dont get it...I feel like im a ***** if I say no she cant come...and if she does get invitied Ill be annoyed because I have to pay for her and am already overbudget and dont really have the space in the room!!!
Not all of our rsvp's have come in yet and only 7 people said that they would not be able to make it.
Sorry its long...but I needed to vent and Im really upset about this!![]()
To make a loooonnnggg story short, Fh and I are having out epart at the end of April at a catering hall...the room only holds 120 people. When fh and I got the list together we asked both sides of our families who they would like on the list (1st Mistake)
Both sets of our parents are divorced, and my family is no problem...We are pretty small, but my Grandmother annoyed me because she wanted to invite everyone she knew. But it wasnt that big of a deal because most of the people are close to us but not necessarily family.
My fh's father kept changing his list one day he wanted to invite certain people, others he didnt. So we eliminated the people he wanted BECAUSE HE SAID THAT WE COULD, and invited more friends (who I would rather there anyway!) Now heres the problem...fhs dad doesnt talk to one of his sisters and I thought nobody else did in the family. But apparently they do. (BTW This aunt met me once in 5 1/2 years and doesnt keep in touch with fh or his family)
we didnt invite her to the epart because FFIL said not to and it wasnt necessary.
So today I am at work and FFIL calls me...and asks if it would be ok for her to come! And I asked him well who would you want to come, he alone or her with her 3 kids (who I dont know) SO I am annoyed because now I feel obligated to invite her because she is his aunt...but at the same time I would rather have friends there...we know them better and they are more involved in our lives.
I dont get it...I feel like im a ***** if I say no she cant come...and if she does get invitied Ill be annoyed because I have to pay for her and am already overbudget and dont really have the space in the room!!!
Not all of our rsvp's have come in yet and only 7 people said that they would not be able to make it.
Sorry its long...but I needed to vent and Im really upset about this!
