Wiil your kids be able to have sex at home?

I think its pretty damn easy to SAY what you WOULD do, but every person I have talked to tells me, when they are your kids you will look at it different.
I will cross that bridge when I come to it.

I HATE HATE HATE your third choice though, it really pisses me off, damn double standard.

Heck No...who thought it is OK for boys and not girls...C'mon

I wouldnt ALLOW them to have sex in my home...I mean how would this even come up...Hey____ you can have sex here! But there is an age factor, and relationship factor that would come into play regarding sleeping over the home ....Right now it is an EASY NO

I know that I slept at FH's house(lived with parents) as a college student and we did not have sex(at first)....but his parents were pretty easy going and allowed us to stay in the same room after a while of dating

At my parents home...even now...engaged and living together we are not suppossed to sleep in the same bed... i dont think really makes sense, but it is my parents wishes and we understand and its ok!

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Posted by Jan05Bride

absolutely not. If they are responsible enough and mature enough to handle a sexual relationship then they should be responsible enough and mature enough to get their own place. Sorry, that's just how I feel.

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i feel the same way...may answer is definetly NO

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Posted by Jan05Bride

absolutely not. If they are responsible enough and mature enough to handle a sexual relationship then they should be responsible enough and mature enough to get their own place. Sorry, that's just how I feel.

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I feel the same way.... but hopefully we will raise them to be respectful enough to respect their bodies, I mean sure, I'd love them to wait until marriage..

I think all children have done it at their parents house even if it was not allowed....

I'm really not sure. It really would depend on a lot of factors, not the least of which being age. I really hope I ca ahve an open relationship with my children and so I will know when they're hvaing sex, and I also hope that I'll be able to teach them enough so they'll wait until it's right for them and it's the right person in a committed and loving relationship. If they're college age or older and I already know they're haing sex, and I think that they're in a good relationship with a good person, I guess I might be a little bit liberal with them. If they're going to do it anyway, it's better that it be in a safe place. I mean certainly if they're engaged or something I don't anticipate a problem. I just want to make sure they're smart and safe about it emotionally and physically. I don't want them to be damaged psychologically or emotionally from sex, or to get pregnant or STD's. But if they're college age or older, mature enough to handle it, then I guess so.

I mean somsone mentioned they're mature enough tog et their own place, but emotional maturity doens't = the money to get a hotel room or your own apt.

I definitely don't understand 'the boys yes, the girls no' and how many people responded to that!

NO WAY!!
**they will probably do it behind my back, but I don't want to know about it!

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Posted by Janice

How many of you would go to your boyfriends house when you were in high school, rather than your own parents home?

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not me

hmm I dont know about this one, but FH said definitely yes he would allow it.

Remembering back I've done it both at my house and my ex bf's house and The same goes for my FH and me. I dont really get the whole 'it being disrespectful' statement.

People claim that they want their children to respect their bodies, yet at the same time they make it seem dirty to have sex, its giving them a totally hypocritical view. I am sure I wont want to hear it, so as long as they are discrete about it, I wouldnt mind. I certaintly will not come right out and say that they are allowed to have sex in my house either. I would also never make them sleep in separate rooms.

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Posted by Janice

wow is everyone that shocked at the 'boys can but girls can't' choice? How many of you would go to your boyfriends house when you were in high school, rather than your own parents home? Boys that I went to high school with had so much more freedom than girls.

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actually i mostly hung out in my house....
and i think that is irrelevant...

on your theory, you want your child to be 'safe' so it really wouldn't matter if you had a boy or a girl...

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Posted by RedHead

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Posted by Janice

wow is everyone that shocked at the 'boys can but girls can't' choice? How many of you would go to your boyfriends house when you were in high school, rather than your own parents home? Boys that I went to high school with had so much more freedom than girls.

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actually i mostly hung out in my house....
and i think that is irrelevant...

on your theory, you want your child to be 'safe' so it really wouldn't matter if you had a boy or a girl...

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I don't think it makes a difference, I know in the past boys parents are a lot more open to a boy having a girl in his room, then a girl having a boy in her room. Boy or girl, my kids will be able to be in their room with the door closed after age 16. it is about being safe, I did not want poll to seem so black and white, and obviously plenty of people feel that for their sons it would be different, so to those people it is relevant.

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Posted by Janice

wow is everyone that shocked at the 'boys can but girls can't' choice? How many of you would go to your boyfriends house when you were in high school, rather than your own parents home? Boys that I went to high school with had so much more freedom than girls.

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Well I never experienced that - perhaps there is some truth to your statement, but its not the way I see it firsthand

In high school , my boyfriend's parents were as strict as mine.. as were my friends' boyfriends. I was NOT allowed to hang out in his room, in the basement with him .. anywhere we could 'get into trouble' behind closed doors so to speak

And my older brother was NOT allowed to have his girlfriend spend the night , or hang out with her in the basement, etc. at our parents house either!

I have 2 much younger male cousins.. one is 18, the other is 20. And my aunt and uncle are pretty open with their kids, yet even THEY do not allow their girlfriends to hang out in the house unsupervised!

Heck when my family booked hotel rooms for my wedding , they actually had my cousin's girlfriend stay with my aunt and my female cousin , as to not encourage any 'hanky panky' .. they did that out of respect to the girls' parents, who was already reluctant to let her 17 year old daughter go to an out of town wedding!!

So bottom line, I still dont see how ANYONE can vote 'ok for my son, not my daughter' It's absurd

I voted no, that's how I was raised in my house.

FH's parents are very liberal about the whole thing - sometimes when they leave, his Mom winks at him and says 'have fun, kids!' (ew.)

i will give them privacy if they are over 16 and in a 'realtionship.' What they do is up to them - I will trust that my boys and girls will have heeded my advice on waiting for the right person and protection - but I won't try to control them after this age.

I had too much unsafe sex in cars, woods, and seedy motels - even after I was out of college and home visiting! No way do I want that for my kids.

FH and I are not allowed to sleep in the same room when we are at my parents - I respect their rules, but we see them less than his parents - who have made the guest room 'ours' and we are allowed to do what we please in there.