...this woman then said to me 'You must have done something really wrong in life for God to point his wrath at you like this' At first I was really ticked off, the confused, then so deeply hurt. Just wanted to let you know why I had three posts up there and to vent a little about this.
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and does this stupid excuse of a human being have a black eye right about now and wishing she never said the dumbest thing ever said on the planet?
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That was INCREDIBLY rude of that woman!!!
Who does she think she is?! There are all kinds of reasons that people can't have children, and there are some people that SHOULDN'T HAVE CHILDREN, like that witchy-tongued HAG.
UGH I hate people sometimes. I am so sorry for you.
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that is the most cruel and horrible thing to say!!! Like I said on OT...God is NOT spiteful nor does he do things to punish people!!!!
lilmrs
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Honestly, when she said it, it was like the wind got knocked out of me. I couldn't move and for one of the few times in my life I was speechless. She's got me thinking about every little thing I have done in my life though.
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OH DEB don't even go there... THis woman should never ever use God's name in such a way
THAT IS ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTING...
I like to chalk it up to the Florida sun fryin the brains of sad human beings
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That woman's a moron, and that's putting it nicely. If there's one thing I truly can't stand, it's people like that who inflict pain on others because they feel that they're so holy and without sin. They don't get that whole thing about not judging others. Hypocrites.
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UGGHH!! Who is she to speak to you like that? I hate when all of these 'religious' people push their beliefs and reasons on other people. I would have smacked her. (where's the smackdown e-mote?)
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Oh my GOD, that woman is a complete and total IDIOT!
My friend recently lost her 10 day old baby, and she is the sweetest, nicest person in the world. They have had horrible horrible things happen to them, her husband's father committed suicide when he was 10 in their basement. What could a 10 year old possibly have done to deserve finding his father dead in the basement??
And what could poor Owen, 10 days old, have done to deserve the suffering that he went through?
I don't understand why these things happen... but Owen didnt have enough time in his short life to have done anything to be punished for. Neither really, did his parents.
The woman who said that to you is a FREAK and an insensitive A$$ as well.
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Do not let people like that ruin you... Miscarriages don't occur because you are 'good' or 'bad.' 'Bad' people (drug addicts, murderers, etc.) have healthy children so I don't truly believe that G-d distinguishes... Don't question your goodness or badness over a person like that...
Sometimes people don't think and they say hurtful things... If you said the same thing to them you would have gotten an earful.
I just told my best friend that I had a miscarriage last week and she told me that she feels sympathetic but 'can't really understand what I'm going through because she didn't go through it herself...' Thank G-d she has two healthy children and if g-d forbid she went through what I did she would have been a basket case for a while and who would hjave been the person to comfort her????????
Sorry to hijack your post wityh my vent but I can't stand people who say stupid, hurtful things...
Keep your chin up and don't let stupid people bother you!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I hate when people say dumb things. Unfortunately, sometimes people just don't know what to say when times are tough.
I often say to people 'I wish I knew what to say that would make you feel better, but I don't except that I am here if you need me.'
I think people respect that more than trying to pull something philosophical out of your wazoo, ya know?
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What a stupid, ingorant, thoughtless woman!! What an awful thing to say to someone! I know what she said upset you, but just realize that it's coming from someone completely stupid and ignorant. I truly don't believe that G-d distinguishes what happens to people in such a manner.
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I am SO sorry you had to hear that. That is an AWFUL thing to say. of COURSE it isn't because you're 'bad' or you've done something to offend God or anyone else.
I think everything happens for a reason. Maybe you're not supposed to have kids right now because of some reason only god knows and they'll come later, or maybe you're meant to adopt a child.
My parents had trouble conceiving and they were not 'bad' people at all. I was adopted, and we all agree, that I was really 'meant' to be their child, so all of the misfortune of them not being able to have children led them to doing something that was a great 'good' I think in God's eyes. Or maybe you're meant to have children in 2 years because then the timing will be right for some great discovery your child will make. Who knows?
Don't let anyone treat you that way!
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Deb - I am absolutely FURIOUS that this woman would have the AUDACITY to say something so cruel, thoughtless and downright HEARTLESS , invoking the name of God as the reason behind her jibberish
I am so sick at what this person said, I swear if I were anywhere around her I would have slapped her silly for her insensitivity
As so many other ladies have said, I truly believe within my heart that God does not 'punish' those for the things they have done wrong in their life to the extent in which this woman described.
I truly feel as though your time will come.. when, and in what fashion, well that remains to be seen. I don't 'know' you but I feel like I do .. and from everything you've posted , you are so thoughtful , intelligent, sweet, funny and warm hearted. I just know that motherhood will happen for you in due course..and that while it might not make sense to you why this is happening to you the way it is, that GOD is not punishing you by denying you the chance to be the wonderful mother you will be someday!
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OMG - what an ignorant BEYOTCH!! I'm so sorry you had to deal with such a thoughtless moron!! You should've decked her - she probably wouldn't have been surprised since you're such a 'bad' person!!
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Thanks Ladies, I should have just posted in the first place and saved myself hours with this one. You all make me feel a ton better!
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That lady was a moron. How could she say something so stupid. My mom died when I was 15. Does that mean I did something wrong in life for god to do this. Of course not. It was her time to go. I believe in god . I use to go to church all the time. But I don't like when people will use god's name just to try to get a point across. Tell her if she needs to talk to someone about god, come talk to me. I went to catholic school, and all that good stuff. I was even an alter boy. I'll set her straight.
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omg, please don't let this get to you. Unfortunately people should learn to think before they actually speak. Don't lose faith okay?
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Posted by lilmrs
...this woman then said to me 'You must have done something really wrong in life for God to point his wrath at you like this' At first I was really ticked off, the confused, then so deeply hurt. Just wanted to let you know why I had three posts up there and to vent a little about this.
That was a horrible thing to say...I'm not sure what she believes, but I was always taught that God was a loving, kind, and forgiving God.
