FH's brother is one of the GM. Brother lives upstate, about 4 hours away. He has a GF (of about 4 months) who is coming with him to the wedding. The night before the wedding, FH said he wants to stay in our home - have a guys night, which is fine with me. I will be staying in a hotel with at least some of my BMs. But when I asked where his brother's GF was staying, FH said he didn't know, maybe she would hang out with the guys. That really bugs me - am I wrong? I've met her a couple of times and she's very nice, but we didn't 'click' as friends (not that I mind hanging out with her at all), but I still am not happy about her hanging with the guys the night before (not for any reason that I can point to - just doesn't seem right). I said she could stay with us in the hotel, but I don't know her well at all, and don't think she'd be too comfortable with that - plus, she wouldn't be part of us getting ready and everything, the next morning. Any ideas on what would work?
TIA!
itbroi805
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I would def be annoyed. I'm thinking your brother and gf can get their own hotel room the night before and brother can drive to your house to hang with FH then go back to hotel with gf. Or she can hang out with you but she would still need a room to sleep in. It's not right that this new gf gets to hang out with your FH the night before the wedding. At least that's how I feel.
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yeah - it would def bother me too but i wouldn't do anything about it.
DH invited 2 of his lesbian friends to his bach party and it annoyed me a lot ... i think it was just jealousy that other girls could be there but i couldn't ... i got over it though
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i would def be annoyed....but not sure how to handle it. maybe email the gf (or the brother) with a link to the hotel you are staying at and say something along the lines of...
not sure what your plans are, but I know FH plans on having a guys night the night before the wedding so if your GF wants, she can book a room at xx hotel which is where I will be the night before the wedding....
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Posted by itbroi805
I would def be annoyed. I'm thinking your brother and gf can get their own hotel room the night before and brother can drive to your house to hang with FH then go back to hotel with gf. Or she can hang out with you but she would still need a room to sleep in. It's not right that this new gf gets to hang out with your FH the night before the wedding. At least that's how I feel.
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Id be bothered. A guys night is a GUYS night. Honestly if I was the gf I would offer to stay at a hotel and let them have their guy time. I think def they should get their own hotel room and the brother can just come hang out w ur FH until its time to sleep, then he can go back to the hotel.
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i guess im the odd ball, but it wouldn't bother me at all....it would prob bother my FH who would just want it to be the guys I try and think of it from her perspective as she's driving down 4 hours ...where is she going to stay? I think as the girlfriend, I'd feel more uncomfortable crashing the bride's party than staying with my boyfriend and his brother, idk... It seems like it would be a lil uncomfortable for her to stay with you at the hotel, but it would be nice of you to offer like one of the other girls said..then she'd feel included and she wouldn't be staying with the guys
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Posted by dCa51899
i guess im the odd ball, but it wouldn't bother me at all....it would prob bother my FH who would just want it to be the guys I try and think of it from her perspective as she's driving down 4 hours ...where is she going to stay? I think as the girlfriend, I'd feel more uncomfortable crashing the bride's party than staying with my boyfriend and his brother, idk... It seems like it would be a lil uncomfortable for her to stay with you at the hotel, but it would be nice of you to offer like one of the other girls said..then she'd feel included and she wouldn't be staying with the guys
I did offer for her to stay with us in the hotel - I wouldn't mind at all if she did. But I haven't gotten an answer yet - so far its just been, 'we'll see what happens'- but the vibe I'm getting is that she will stay with the guys - but no one wants to tell me that because they know I won't be happy about it. I can understand her being more comfortable with her bf, but -- and this is not my normal way of being at all -- but, for this one time, too bad - this day is only about me and FH. Its not at all a jealousy thing, but it just makes me uncomfortable to know that she'll be hanging with the guys.
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It would bother me because if I, as his almost wife, can't be there....why should another girl? It is no longer a guys night, then...KWIM?
I would voice it to FH, that you think she should chill at the hotel with you guys
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Posted by IrishAli
It would bother me because if I, as his almost wife, can't be there....why should another girl? It is no longer a guys night, then...KWIM?
I would voice it to FH, that you think she should chill at the hotel with you guys
Totally KWYM - thats it exactly. And I have said it to FH, but he just keeps saying he doesn't know what they are going to do. He knows I'm not happy about her staying with them but he doesn't think its a problem if she does. He doesn't know what the solution is either - (but he does know he doesn't want me to be unhappy the night before our wedding )
itbroi805
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Posted by IrishAli
It would bother me because if I, as his almost wife, can't be there....why should another girl? It is no longer a guys night, then...KWIM?
I would voice it to FH, that you think she should chill at the hotel with you guys
