Would You.....?

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Posted by laurenandmike618

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Posted by FutureMrsKuehne

i think that because she said she is still having a probelm coming to terms with the fact of actually leaving, she may be looking for that confirmation from other women that shes been able to talk to thus far.

i know that in those types of situations not everyone has the same level of self-esteem, or will power to be able to just walk away and know they should be doing it. she seems to think that his apology actually means something, n may be considering staying because of it.

personally, no i wouldn't post it, its way to private and shes not even sure if shes leaving yet...because then if she DOES stay with him, and shes still on here posting about her wedding a month of so from now, it is just going to look silly because everyone will be thinking about his trustworthiness, etc.

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ITA.

To be quite honest, I'm more bothered that THIS thread was started. Please don't take offense - I think you girls are all great. But why start this thread?? Obviously this girl is going through a lot so I really don't think we should judge. I have NO IDEA what I would do if I were going through something like that and fortunately, 99% of us don't, which is why we are all excitedly posting away about our wedding plans. She probably has nowhere to turn because her family and friends don't know anything, PLUS she definitely seemed like she needed validation to know she was doing the right thing, and we were all glad to give it to her. I'm glad she could talk to SOMEONE about this major issue which is affecting her entire life and future and I never even questioned why she would do it or if I thought it was weird. I swear I'm not trying to lecture here, but I just think we should take a step back and think about what she's going through, and not worry about whether or not it's 'creepy.'

I wish there was a group hug icon... Oh well.

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Posted by laurenandmike618

ITA.

To be quite honest, I'm more bothered that THIS thread was started. Please don't take offense - I think you girls are all great. But why start this thread?? Obviously this girl is going through a lot so I really don't think we should judge. I have NO IDEA what I would do if I were going through something like that and fortunately, 99% of us don't, which is why we are all excitedly posting away about our wedding plans. She probably has nowhere to turn because her family and friends don't know anything, PLUS she definitely seemed like she needed validation to know she was doing the right thing, and we were all glad to give it to her. I'm glad she could talk to SOMEONE about this major issue which is affecting her entire life and future and I never even questioned why she would do it or if I thought it was weird. I swear I'm not trying to lecture here, but I just think we should take a step back and think about what she's going through, and not worry about whether or not it's 'creepy.'

I wish there was a group hug icon... Oh well.

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It's all good. To me it's creepy to talk about leaving my FH with a bunch of strangers under an assumed name. If I were going to come to that kind of decision it would be a personal one, not one for all of LIW to read. I was just wondering what other people's opinions were.

I understand what you're saying, that she may not have anywhere to turn, etc., but I try to keep those 'deep issues' to myself -- it's the internet you never know what might come back and haunt you, and its my experience to keep the personal stuff close to the vest not to throw it out there on the world wide web.

Again, I wasn't pointing fingers at this particular poster, only used the thread as an example. It's not something I would feel comfortable discussing.

Girlies, whats going on here? Do we need to hug it out lol. No really, it was prob. a girl venting her feelings. We all vent. However, we do not have to comment. I vent all the time, I mean, i'm not airing my dirty laundry, but venting sometimes works better than bottling up the hurt and anger.

We all give good advice. Maybe she was looking for some helpful advice to help get through her situation.

I haven't seen the post, but I read all of yours. And I'm not defending anyone. But see, we were just venting now about a post! We are a very expressive bunch :)

Like I said, if it bothers you, than pay no mind to it. Sometimes a girl needs to vent and seek advice.

Hug it out????

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Posted by JoanneAndJustin

It's all good. To me it's creepy to talk about leaving my FH with a bunch of strangers under an assumed name. If I were going to come to that kind of decision it would be a personal one, not one for all of LIW to read. I was just wondering what other people's opinions were.

I understand what you're saying, that she may not have anywhere to turn, etc., but I try to keep those 'deep issues' to myself -- it's the internet you never know what might come back and haunt you, and its my experience to keep the personal stuff close to the vest not to throw it out there on the world wide web.

Again, I wasn't pointing fingers at this particular poster, only used the thread as an example. It's not something I would feel comfortable discussing.

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Oh I agree, I wouldn't do it either... but I just felt like it wasn't our place to judge, since she is obviously desperate for some advice and for someone to talk to. Thanks for not being mad at me for being honest though!! I def. like to speak my mind.

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Posted by laurenandmike618

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Posted by FutureMrsKuehne

i think that because she said she is still having a probelm coming to terms with the fact of actually leaving, she may be looking for that confirmation from other women that shes been able to talk to thus far.

i know that in those types of situations not everyone has the same level of self-esteem, or will power to be able to just walk away and know they should be doing it. she seems to think that his apology actually means something, n may be considering staying because of it.

personally, no i wouldn't post it, its way to private and shes not even sure if shes leaving yet...because then if she DOES stay with him, and shes still on here posting about her wedding a month of so from now, it is just going to look silly because everyone will be thinking about his trustworthiness, etc.

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ITA.

To be quite honest, I'm more bothered that THIS thread was started. Please don't take offense - I think you girls are all great. But why start this thread?? Obviously this girl is going through a lot so I really don't think we should judge. I have NO IDEA what I would do if I were going through something like that and fortunately, 99% of us don't, which is why we are all excitedly posting away about our wedding plans. She probably has nowhere to turn because her family and friends don't know anything, PLUS she definitely seemed like she needed validation to know she was doing the right thing, and we were all glad to give it to her. I'm glad she could talk to SOMEONE about this major issue which is affecting her entire life and future and I never even questioned why she would do it or if I thought it was weird. I swear I'm not trying to lecture here, but I just think we should take a step back and think about what she's going through, and not worry about whether or not it's 'creepy.'

I wish there was a group hug icon... Oh well.

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I really couldn't have said it better myself, I know someone very dear to me that went through a similiar situation with her fiance and it is absolutely devastating, and sometimes you can't speak to the people that are closest to you, sometimes you just need to hear it from an outsider. It may sound strange to some people that haven't gone through it, but thats exactly why nobody has the right to judge this poor girl.

Sorry to be blunt here but the start of this thread was totally uncalled for, it really is like an attack to the poor girl and she really doesn't need that.