feel obligated to ask a friend to be in your bridal party if you had a spot in hers? My friendship with this girl just isnt what it used to be. We never see each other anymore and never speak on the phone. Lately our only means of staying in touch is texting and thats how its been for over a year now. Although I was honored to be a bm in her bp, I am just not sure if I belonged there and vice versa because the friendship just feels so strained to me. Please tell me what you think.
not necessarily, esp if your friendship has changed since you were in hers
I'd say no.
no... thats one thing ive learned from my sister and her friends..
Don't feel obligated to..from personal experience.
never feel obligated to have someone in your BP. A BM or any member of the wedding party for that matter, should not be chosen out of obligation. They should be chosen solely on the fact that you want them to stand up for you on your wedding day.
I was in the same situation. FH's friend is in our wedding party & his wife [who will not be in my wedding party] had both of us in theirs but mine & her relationship isnt as close as we were for her wedding so I refused to put her in mine. But her husband [FH's friend] will be in ours.
Posted by FallBride2012
I was in the same situation. FH's friend is in our wedding party & his wife [who will not be in my wedding party] had both of us in theirs but mine & her relationship isnt as close as we were for her wedding so I refused to put her in mine. But her husband [FH's friend] will be in ours.
Posted by xela
Posted by FallBride2012
I was in the same situation. FH's friend is in our wedding party & his wife [who will not be in my wedding party] had both of us in theirs but mine & her relationship isnt as close as we were for her wedding so I refused to put her in mine. But her husband [FH's friend] will be in ours.
Any idea how she took that?
You should never let anyone pressure you, or allow yourself to feel pressured to put anyone in your bp just because you were in theirs. It's suuuuuch a hard situation, but if your friendship has changed, and you can't see yourself asking her or her being a great, supportive role in your bp, then don't ask. The last thing you want to do is have regrets like that on your wedding day. Good luck!
If you really don't want her to be a BM, I would say No.
I'm in a friend's bridal party, but I didn't ask her to be in mine. It's not because I'm not close with her, but rather because we're keeping our bp limited. I would have preferred to have only MOH and BM. It was really FH that forced me to up the number to 3 on each side. I definitely don't feel obligated and like I said we are good friends.
Things change and you shouldn't feel obligated to have her if the friendship isn't what it used to be. I had the same problem and I choose not to have her in mine. She was fine with it!! Do what feels right to you, that's all that matters
No you are def not obligated... dont feel bad hunn
Posted by xela
feel obligated to ask a friend to be in your bridal party if you had a spot in hers? My friendship with this girl just isnt what it used to be. We never see each other anymore and never speak on the phone. Lately our only means of staying in touch is texting and thats how its been for over a year now. Although I was honored to be a bm in her bp, I am just not sure if I belonged there and vice versa because the friendship just feels so strained to me. Please tell me what you think.
Posted by xela
Posted by FallBride2012
I was in the same situation. FH's friend is in our wedding party & his wife [who will not be in my wedding party] had both of us in theirs but mine & her relationship isnt as close as we were for her wedding so I refused to put her in mine. But her husband [FH's friend] will be in ours.
Any idea how she took that?
