Would you be mad at me ?

Skeeter Posted: Jul 21, 2007 08:47 PM

Would you be mad at me ?

One of my bm's is getting married in Oct . ( I am not in the wedding party ) she had her bridal shower today and I couldn't attend I had work.
I called and lm and sent her an email to explain and she has not responded. I feel bad but I couldn't get off from work.
Would you be mad?

PreshusSmurf Posted: Jul 21, 2007 08:50 PM

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Honestly, yeah, I think I'd be a little .... and not too to do things for you & your wedding next year.

Didn't you know about the shower at least a few weeks in advance, if not longer?

Espo22 Posted: Jul 21, 2007 08:51 PM

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the first thought i had was, you emailed her? did she know about her shower?

PreshusSmurf Posted: Jul 21, 2007 08:51 PM

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Posted by Espo22

the first thought i had was, you emailed her? did she know about her shower?

Oh wow, I didn't even think of that!

Espo22 Posted: Jul 21, 2007 08:53 PM

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Posted by PreshusSmurf

Posted by Espo22

the first thought i had was, you emailed her? did she know about her shower?

Oh wow, I didn't even think of that!

well maybe she was out of the house by then and didn't read it yet

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Jul 21, 2007 08:55 PM

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maybe alittle at first..but i'd get over it..i would definately apologize to her!

Soon2beAlberti Posted: Jul 21, 2007 08:56 PM

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well does it suck? yea...but **** happens and people can't just up and leave their job no matter how much they would like to. I am a retail store manager so I work ALOT and my schedule needs to be flexible to meet the needs of the business and sometimes even the needs of other stores besides my own in the district...so I totally understand how sometimes its just not possible.

Skeeter Posted: Jul 21, 2007 09:01 PM

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Posted by Espo22

Posted by PreshusSmurf

Posted by Espo22

the first thought i had was, you emailed her? did she know about her shower?

Oh wow, I didn't even think of that!

well maybe she was out of the house by then and didn't read it yet

I waited until I knew she was home from the shower.

Espo22 Posted: Jul 21, 2007 09:18 PM

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Posted by Skeeter

Posted by Espo22

Posted by PreshusSmurf

Posted by Espo22

the first thought i had was, you emailed her? did she know about her shower?

Oh wow, I didn't even think of that!

well maybe she was out of the house by then and didn't read it yet

I waited until I knew she was home from the shower.

Oh ok lol. I would be upset and feel bad they weren't there but if they really couldn't take off of work there would be nothing i can do but get over it

alymikewedding08 Posted: Jul 21, 2007 09:25 PM

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yea.. I would be mad.. I would feel like if I was important enough to be your bridesmaid.. I should be important enough for you to MAKE SURE you had off on a special day for me. JMO

MsPotterhead Posted: Jul 21, 2007 09:34 PM

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I'd be upset at first, but I would understand. Make sure you get her a really thoughtful card and gift.

chrispar Posted: Jul 21, 2007 09:38 PM

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I would understand if you couldn't get off of worked. In the past I have had to miss things because of work..it stinks. I'm sure she will understand

Skeeter Posted: Jul 21, 2007 09:43 PM

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Posted by ShariPaige

I'd be upset at first, but I would understand. Make sure you get her a really thoughtful card and gift.

I sent her flowers .... they should be there in the morning and I sent a nice card. I am seeing her next week so I will give her the gift then.

I feel really bad and now reading the replies I feel worse.... I work for Geico and we are always open even on xmas ! Is super hard to get off.

MyLobster Posted: Jul 21, 2007 11:11 PM

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Not everyone can just take off of work when they feel like it. I would NEVER be mad because someone had to work. I think it's inconsiderate to expect everyone to just put their lives on hold for you. Don't worry if she is a real friend she will get over it by tomorrow. Hope it works out!

Snowflake08 Posted: Jul 21, 2007 11:30 PM

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you had to work, that is a valid reason NOT to attend, especially because if you need to take days off, im sure you want to save them for your own wedding

people have to understand these things and realized that just because one person is getting married, the rest of the world does not stand still

i would not be upset

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Jul 22, 2007 01:06 AM

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My Aunt and a GM both work for Geico and put in NOW for our wedding next April. So, I know it can be a pain and I probably wouldn't be mad. My BM couldn't make my e-party b/c her god sons communion was the same day and I understood. Sometimes things come up or you can't get off work- it happens

ZCHM08 Posted: Jul 22, 2007 01:49 AM

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I would be disappointed but not mad. As for her not calling you back, maybe she was just really busy. After all, she probably has a lot of persents to go through and unpack into her house/apartment/etc.... I wouldn't stress about it. Call her tomorrow and apologize once again and offer to make it up to her by taing her out to lunch or something like that.

luna bride x Posted: Jul 22, 2007 03:16 AM

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i would be disappointed too.. but not so mad. i'd get over it. especially if you're sending her flowers and getting her a gift.. as long as you show her you wanted to be there but couldn't.. thats all that matters!