Posted by kkss1419
Posted by Future Mulligan
its just worrying me that FH is afraid she will be upset and he doesnt want to make her cry.....he said he doesnt know how she will react........i told him that i cant see how she could be that upset - its a night out for her and its OUR wedding and they should respect that AND they didnt have ANY children at their wedding either - so they should be understanding.....i think FH thinks its bad b/c its his nephew/godson and i think he is afraid of what his parents might say about it.....
I don't know how your FH or his family is, but my FH felt there would be people that would be upset about not inviting kids to the wedding. He was most afraid of his sister's reaction. The resolution for us was to put the kids in the BP (they are older, will be 6 & 9). As it turns out after speaking to FSIL myself, she would have been totally ok if we had not invited her children. I am sure FSIL will understand. I assume based on your wedding date that your godson is under a year old. By the time he hits the 'terrible twos' they may really be looking for an adult night out!
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by kkss1419
Posted by Future Mulligan
its just worrying me that FH is afraid she will be upset and he doesnt want to make her cry.....he said he doesnt know how she will react........i told him that i cant see how she could be that upset - its a night out for her and its OUR wedding and they should respect that AND they didnt have ANY children at their wedding either - so they should be understanding.....i think FH thinks its bad b/c its his nephew/godson and i think he is afraid of what his parents might say about it.....
I don't know how your FH or his family is, but my FH felt there would be people that would be upset about not inviting kids to the wedding. He was most afraid of his sister's reaction. The resolution for us was to put the kids in the BP (they are older, will be 6 & 9). As it turns out after speaking to FSIL myself, she would have been totally ok if we had not invited her children. I am sure FSIL will understand. I assume based on your wedding date that your godson is under a year old. By the time he hits the 'terrible twos' they may really be looking for an adult night out!
There will be people that will be upset you just have to be okay with that.
no cause i know some people ( like myself) figure adults want time to mingle lol ..and who wants screaming children running around on their wedding day??? I went to a wedding that had a lot of kids and everyone was tripping over them, 1 had a temper tantrum on the dancefloor. i was throwing things!! i dont want that! As of right now we are having kids but there arent alot of them and they are all pretty good. so i think we will deal. If this would have been 2 years ago it would be no kids cause my aunts kids liked to kick and punch people
Posted by Lori-Chris2008
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by kkss1419
Posted by Future Mulligan
its just worrying me that FH is afraid she will be upset and he doesnt want to make her cry.....he said he doesnt know how she will react........i told him that i cant see how she could be that upset - its a night out for her and its OUR wedding and they should respect that AND they didnt have ANY children at their wedding either - so they should be understanding.....i think FH thinks its bad b/c its his nephew/godson and i think he is afraid of what his parents might say about it.....
I don't know how your FH or his family is, but my FH felt there would be people that would be upset about not inviting kids to the wedding. He was most afraid of his sister's reaction. The resolution for us was to put the kids in the BP (they are older, will be 6 & 9). As it turns out after speaking to FSIL myself, she would have been totally ok if we had not invited her children. I am sure FSIL will understand. I assume based on your wedding date that your godson is under a year old. By the time he hits the 'terrible twos' they may really be looking for an adult night out!
There will be people that will be upset you just have to be okay with that.
exactly you can not make everyone happy. You should just make you and FH happy!
Posted by Future Mulligan
i didnt think it was a big deal but FH is making me think its a big deal - in my family its always been no kids at parties.....my Mom was MOH for my Aunt (who is my godmother) and my sister and I were not included in her ceremony or wedding and it wasnt a big deal - its just something thats known in my family.....
i think FH's family is different - they always have to 'do the right thing' if you know what i mean![]()
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Posted by Future Mulligan
Posted by Lori-Chris2008
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by kkss1419
Posted by Future Mulligan
its just worrying me that FH is afraid she will be upset and he doesnt want to make her cry.....he said he doesnt know how she will react........i told him that i cant see how she could be that upset - its a night out for her and its OUR wedding and they should respect that AND they didnt have ANY children at their wedding either - so they should be understanding.....i think FH thinks its bad b/c its his nephew/godson and i think he is afraid of what his parents might say about it.....
I don't know how your FH or his family is, but my FH felt there would be people that would be upset about not inviting kids to the wedding. He was most afraid of his sister's reaction. The resolution for us was to put the kids in the BP (they are older, will be 6 & 9). As it turns out after speaking to FSIL myself, she would have been totally ok if we had not invited her children. I am sure FSIL will understand. I assume based on your wedding date that your godson is under a year old. By the time he hits the 'terrible twos' they may really be looking for an adult night out!
There will be people that will be upset you just have to be okay with that.
exactly you can not make everyone happy. You should just make you and FH happy!
thats what i told FH yesterday......i said i will not be happy if he is there and i will not walk down the aisle - bottom line......its our day and i dont think people should fight us on it, its what we want - its ONE day - they should be able to respect our wishes....if they aren't happy too bad for them - i want to enjoy my day and have it the way i always pictured it.....i just thought i was evil for thinking those things!
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by Future Mulligan
i didnt think it was a big deal but FH is making me think its a big deal - in my family its always been no kids at parties.....my Mom was MOH for my Aunt (who is my godmother) and my sister and I were not included in her ceremony or wedding and it wasnt a big deal - its just something thats known in my family.....
i think FH's family is different - they always have to 'do the right thing' if you know what i mean![]()
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Alot of people are offended if you dont invite their children , especially if they are family, some people think why wouldnt you want your family there (even if they are kids) as in 'whats wrong with my child'
Posted by Future Mulligan
Posted by Mizzdimple
Posted by Future Mulligan
i didnt think it was a big deal but FH is making me think its a big deal - in my family its always been no kids at parties.....my Mom was MOH for my Aunt (who is my godmother) and my sister and I were not included in her ceremony or wedding and it wasnt a big deal - its just something thats known in my family.....
i think FH's family is different - they always have to 'do the right thing' if you know what i mean![]()
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Alot of people are offended if you dont invite their children , especially if they are family, some people think why wouldnt you want your family there (even if they are kids) as in 'whats wrong with my child'
I see what you are saying.....I can see how people coud think that.....I just dont like the way parties look when there are children running around - that goes for any partyand I like kids - but just not at functions where there is alcohol haha!
In my opinion I totally agree with you when you say weddings are for adults. I just asked my cousins daughter to be our flower girl (she will be 2 1/2) I know her parents will definatley wisk her out of church if she even peeps thats just the kind of parents they are they have control over their kids with is a good thing. Other then the bridal party there will be no kids at our wedding because i think its a place for adults especially when there is liquor around and flowing freely may I add lol
Posted by angl2001
no cause i know some people ( like myself) figure adults want time to mingle lol ..and who wants screaming children running around on their wedding day??? I went to a wedding that had a lot of kids and everyone was tripping over them, 1 had a temper tantrum on the dancefloor. i was throwing things!! i dont want that! As of right now we are having kids but there arent alot of them and they are all pretty good. so i think we will deal. If this would have been 2 years ago it would be no kids cause my aunts kids liked to kick and punch people
Posted by ant n tilde
Posted by angl2001
no cause i know some people ( like myself) figure adults want time to mingle lol ..and who wants screaming children running around on their wedding day??? I went to a wedding that had a lot of kids and everyone was tripping over them, 1 had a temper tantrum on the dancefloor. i was throwing things!! i dont want that! As of right now we are having kids but there arent alot of them and they are all pretty good. so i think we will deal. If this would have been 2 years ago it would be no kids cause my aunts kids liked to kick and punch people
see in my family all of the children are invited and we have experienced the opposite
the children have danced, ate, enjoyed themselves and then fallen asleep in the corner
i guess it depends on the kids that you plan on inviting - i guess my family has exceptionally great kids!kidding!
