Would you be upset? Poll

Original post by SoontobeMrsH

Dec 21, 2007 05:31 PM

This morning we found out one of FH's Best Men, got engaged last night

They are getting married in February, as in 6 weeks No she is not preggo. I'm b/c I think it's so Rude to get married in Feb. before our June wedding that we've been planning for years.

I know that I shouldn't be mad, but I'm curious to see..

Toucan311 Posted: Dec 21, 2007 07:59 PM

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Maybe if it was a week before or what not I'd be annoyed, but thats almost half a year away!

kslmbuggie Posted: Dec 21, 2007 08:06 PM

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there really is no reason 2 be mad, you should be happy for them. Get mad when someone gets married the same month as u....thats something 2 be upset about.

Belongs2DanBuckley Posted: Dec 21, 2007 08:15 PM

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Naaaaaaaaa...don't worry about it! A 6 week planning process is not going to trump your wedding you've been planning for years and by the time of your wedding its going to be old news...he'll have plenty of time to still live up to his BM duties...don't sweat it

kBr Posted: Dec 21, 2007 08:24 PM

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i wouldnt be mad.. i agree with almost everything thats already been said, so i wont repeat everything... but i wanted to give you a hug.

ps- my FH's COUSIN decided to get engaged like 4 months after we did... which was about 3-4 months after we chose our date and TOLD everyone our date...

they're getting married the exact SAME DAY as us.

BellaChandella Posted: Dec 21, 2007 08:25 PM

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No I wouldnt be mad because I got engaged Oct 28th and didn't have anything planned yet except a tentative date, and 2 weeks later my friend & BM, Brandi (brannjay) got engaged and set her wedding for May of 08. I wasn't mad at her or anything, if anything, I washappy for her since she's been wanting this forever. I'm happy that we get to plan at the same time and we can ask each others opinions and get honest answers.

Wifeynella Posted: Dec 21, 2007 09:04 PM

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i would be a little upset but not mad. lol

BoxOfRocks Posted: Dec 21, 2007 10:39 PM

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There's plenty of time between the first wedding and yours. It was your and DH's choice to have a long engagement. It's not as if you can call dibs on every moment before your wedding. Be happy for them.

drpepper318 Posted: Dec 21, 2007 11:11 PM

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Honestly I don't get why you'd be mad about this at all. If they want to get married in a couple of months, it's their business, not yours. It has nothing to do with you. Just because you had a long engagement doesn't mean other people have to, or that they should plan their wedding date around yours. And it's three months. That's a long time in between. It would be different if it were the same weekend as yours, then that would be a reason to be mad. But the way it is, it's selfish for you to think your wedding is more important that theirs just because you've been planning it for a longer time.

tlp123 Posted: Dec 22, 2007 12:09 AM

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I wouldn't be mad. Everyone has their reasons for getting married when they get married and everyone has a right to that. People don't decide when to get married around other peoples' schedules and lives.

SoontobeMrsH Posted: Dec 22, 2007 02:40 AM

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Posted by o8bride

i wouldnt be mad.. i agree with almost everything thats already been said, so i wont repeat everything... but i wanted to give you a hug.

ps- my FH's COUSIN decided to get engaged like 4 months after we did... which was about 3-4 months after we chose our date and TOLD everyone our date...

they're getting married the exact SAME DAY as us.

OMG that's insane!

MrsD71208 Posted: Dec 22, 2007 09:40 AM

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I think it's far enough away from your wedding and it won't obviously be such a big event if it's planned in two months....your day will still be special!

Autumn08 Posted: Dec 22, 2007 09:48 AM

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Honestly, I don't see any reason to be upset.

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Dec 22, 2007 09:48 AM

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I would be alittle annoyed..but try to be happy for them! maybe they are older? thats a good indication why they would want to be married

LauraD419 Posted: Dec 22, 2007 02:19 PM

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I might be a little mad, but I'd get over it. My brother was planning his wedding for a year when my cousin got engaged to her bf of 4 months and decided to get married 2 months before him. They didn't care but I was a little irritated at first (she got engaged not even a month after me and FH and kind of stole our engagement spotlight!) However, it was a blessing because we saw ALL of the things that went wrong with her wedding and figured out how to avoid this for our weddings.

Plus, in the long run, i am very happy for her!

little34 Posted: Dec 22, 2007 02:22 PM

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I don't think you should mad...I understand feeling down about it, but you don't own the year you are getting married..... it isn't like they are getting married 6 days before you or after you....then I would be mad.... but just be happy for them and look at this way, you can learn from all the mistakes they make or find ways to make yours better!

They are just as excited as you are to be getting married so be happy...it could be a lot worse!

jeffamanda080808 Posted: Dec 22, 2007 02:54 PM

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I'd be a little mad if I were you. People to have time to recoup after their wedding and get ready for yours.
My FH's friends got engaged after us and planned their wedding for 5 weeks before us...I was upset about that!