My girlfriend called me today to vent, which is fine because what are girlfriends for, right??!! She is married with kids and her husband only hangs out with single guys. She has no problem with that but because they live in a small apartment, there is no place for them to hang out when they come over so they are always hanging out in their cars. They are only listening to music or watching a DVD but it is getting to her. I try and listen and not butt in but I feel this is a '16 year old' thing to do. Something you do when you live at home and have no place to spend with your friends. In one sense, she is glad that he is right in front of the house and not at a strip club or gambling, etc. but it is still bugging her. Can anyone give me some advice. I hate to see her so upset. We have been friends since elementary school. Thanks!
JimmysBride
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I think Lauren came up with a good suggestion. I also agree that it's a little strange to be hanging out in cars but I would also prefer that over him going out all the time and leaving me stuck at home with the kids.
Maybe she could take advantage and go out too every once in awhile with (or without) the kids and let him use the apartment?
DjPiLL
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Yeah but like it was said above... all his friends still live at home. His home is taken with all the kids.
Its either hang out outside in front by the cars... or go somewhere (like a bar).
People are calling this car stuff strange... but if he was going out to bars and stuff... everyone here would be calling for his head cause he is now out 'partying'.
Hazeleyes33
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Thanks for all the responses! I am trying to help her so the more suggestions I get the better. 1-He is NOT hanging out with any girls. None of his friends at the moment have girlfriends. She has hung out with their ex's before so she has no problem with that.
2-None of her dh's friends have places on their own so of course they don't want to hang out at 'their place'. Occasionally she said they do but then she said she feels like she is always calling her dh when he is coming home.
3-I guess it is a guy thing. My dh has hung out with him at times and he finds nothing wrong with it either! These guys are very much into cars, music and movies and the occasional sport.
4-She said his friends usually come over after the kids are in bed so it doesn't interfer with that. I think when she gets bored, she gets mad that he isn't with her.
