Would you care?

I know at times with wedding planning we all get a bit petty. So I am wondering if I am having one of those times right now. Here's the situation: My best friend is my MOH. She is also in a wedding two weeks before mine. She is a BM in the wedding, but that bride considers my best friend to also be her best friend. (This does not bother me). So the other bride and I have been engaged the same amount of time, and everytime we see each other she asks me tons of questions about my wedding. So being as excited as I am, I tell her all the details. But in return she never mentions a detail about hers. She is keeping her wedding a top secret event. Well, this is what makes me mad. We are inviting each other to our weddings, hers is first, so I planned on going. But now she has moved her honeymoon so that she will be leaving the day before my wedding! So she is going to miss mine! The worst part is I told her I was honeymooning at Sandals st. lucia, and now she is too! So, we are going to be there for at least 5 days in common! Now I am so upset. She didnt tell me she was changing the date of her honeymoon, and now I think I may see her there. My MOH feels she did this so that she will miss my wedding, and get to St. Lucia first. Is this stupid? Am I being petty, b/c now I dont even want to go to her wedding knowing she wont be at mine!

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OMG !!!! Well, I say it's absolutely your choice whether you want to attend hers or not. It is not a necessity, although if you don't go, you may want to send a gift.

I can't believe she was being so secretive, then stole your HM idea !!!!
I must admit, I'd be as upset as you, especially now if you will run into her at your HM.

I say just forget about her (easier said then done, I know. . ) and focus on yourself only. If you can't get it out of your head, you can always ask her about it.

Good Luck whatever you decide to do. Let us know how it pans out.

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Sounds liek she has taken some of your ideas and incorporated into her wedding. I agree with liz...concentrate on your wedding. I wouldnt not attend her wedding because she is going to be missing yours.
Who cares if she is going to the same place as you for your HM. You will have just a agreat as time.
Dont stoop to her level.Let us know how it goes.

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Wowzas! Sounds like someone used you to help plan her own wedding! I'm sure it's hard, but try to take it in the form of a compliment... As far as being in St. Lucia's at the same time, I would not worry about it. You could always say a friendly hello when you see her (if you see her) and say, we've got to go, it's time to do that thing honeymooners do, and walk away... You could also turn it into a big game, everytime you bump into her you have to run to the bar and have a shot. LOL!! Seriously, don't sweat it so much.

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LOL wedbabe !!!!!!

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OMG, this sounds like me & my cousin!!
I got a good one for you....
My cousin was engaged for 2 years, no sign of a wedding in sight. Then I get engaged. We starting wedding planning right away and originally planned my date for yesterday September 21. I told her. We then pushed it up till May so we wouldn't be overwhelmed with finances.
So what happens? She books her wedding. She makes the date Sept. 22nd.
TODAY is her wedding day & I will be no where near it but thats a whole other thread.

I told her I am getting a 3 tier detachable cathedral train, she got one...I told her I got a stapless dress, she got one, I told her I am doing bubbles, she is doing them.. and the list goes on. and heres the absolute best..Her and her FH, which I hooked them up by the way , said they will go to florida for their honeymoon. They really have never been out of NY, and are both afraid to fly. so they figured they could drive to Fla.
I told her we are going to Aruba because we love it there.
Well guess where shes going tomorrow?
Yep Aruba.
Now I am glad I won't be there today (as I said she hurt me but thats another thread), because all of our family would have thought I took all her ideas.
Make you feel a little better?
Its not the same circumstance but people can be rotten.

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Of course I dont know the girl, but I cant see changing the honeymoon to miss a friends wedding. ( I almost did make mine longer to miss a cousin of his wedding, but his family is another story. We didnt end up going anyway.) Do you consider her a good friend or friend at all or is she just a friend of your friends and you just see each other through your friend? I wouldnt say much about your wedding plans anymore if she is not sharing any of her plans with you. The part that would bother me the most would be her being at the same resort as you for five days. That would REALLY bother me. For your honeymoon you want to get away from it all and it to just be the two of you, let alone see someone who is aggravating you. I have been to two sandals. You WILL see each other at the pool, nightly entertainment, etc. Are you leaving for your honeymoon the next day? Maybe you could leave a few days later and miss her most of the trip. I got married on a Saturday and left on a tuesday for my honeymoon. Try not to let people bother you. As you get closer, believe me, some people really get to you even more! Good luck! Have you updated any of your plans at Flowerfield? I miss the planning.

jennbaby

jennbaby,
You should send her a bill for all your help and services you provided your cousin

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I agree with Diane. I think she is probably taking some of your ideas and incorporating them into her wedding. Sounds sneaky to me.

But, it's not something you can control, so try not to dwell on it. Instead, just think about your wedding and your day and smile. Your wedding will be better than hers anyway

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Well ladies, as usual you have made me feel better. I wish I could change my honeymoon days, but I am a teacher and I have to go over easter break. I am going to do my best to not let this bother me. But I will not be attending her wedding, I will send her a gift. She is more like a friend of a friend. But since my best friend is so close to her, I have tried to be friends with her out of respect. Well she will not be hearing any other details of my wedding, that is for sure!

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I am sorry, that really stinks! Tell her to get her own darn ideas! LOL

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This post gave me a good laugh.
Christy and Jennbaby, you should be flattered that these girls are trying to do everything you do. Shows you got taste and they are clueless !

Christy. good for you for not going to her wedding. That is ridiculous, what she did. I wouldnt go to her wedding either. and dont go nuts on her gift, she may even 'forget' to get you one. Not that it matters but its the fact that the THOUGHT might not even there from someone like her. And maybe you can try to change your honeymoon plans, and when she asks why, say something like 'We got a BETTER DEAL WITH a BIGGER SUITE, blah blah...feed her all the @#$ she wants...hah..'

Jennbaby, your story was funny too. Again, be flattered that this girl is copying you. (and yes im sure its annoying too). Just imagine how miserable and insecure she must be, sitting home, wondering about all the details of YOUR wedding, pretty sad!

Have fun enjoying your big days, dont let these petty 'girls' ruin your planning or your day.