My dad passed away over 20 years ago and when he died my momput her e-ring in storage. She always knew it would be for me and when FH and I were together for 3 years and knew we wanted to get married she offered it to him to propose to me.
I love my ring. It is so beautiful- 2ct oval stone with baguettes in platinum. I always said I would never change the setting because it was cool to have a piece of jewelry that my father chose - since I barely knew him (I was 5 when he died).
Lately I have been thinking of changing the setting. The platinum is a little dull (after all the ring is over 25 years old!) and b/c of the way the ring is set it doesnt shine as well as it could. I would love it to be set higher and stand out a little more. The diamond has so much potential and I was thinking of changing my setting when I went for my wedding band so they fit next to each other perfectly. My mom says I should do whatever I want with it becasue it is my ring!
Am I being ridiculous? What would you do?
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My e-ring was my grandmother's ring (not an e-ring). But i love it and would not change a thing about it - it's so different.
But you should do what you want especially if it's ok with your mom.
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Could you maybe put a different stone in the old setting that way you could still wear it and wear your e-ring with your new setting? I think it would be ok to change it as long as you feel ok about it.
lullabella
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Sorry but I wouldn't even think of doing that. It kind of defeats the purpose of wearing your mom's ring if you change it.
Bunnymonkey
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sounds like you love the way the ring looks, you just want to accentuate different aspects of it.
I say re-set it in practically the same format, just in a new band of platinum and a little higher, so that when you lookk at it, it is still the same ring your father chose, just customized for his lovely daughter.
Jan05Bride
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Posted by Bunnymonkey
sounds like you love the way the ring looks, you just want to accentuate different aspects of it.
I say re-set it in practically the same format, just in a new band of platinum and a little higher, so that when you lookk at it, it is still the same ring your father chose, just customized for his lovely daughter.
I agree. If you are essentially keeping the 'look' of the ring but just enhancing it then go for it.
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Personally, I don't think I would be able to change it.
The platinum could be redipped or polished to brighten it up. Maybe the jeweler could raise the center stone for you a bit?
The ring sounds gorgeous and it so nice to have something so meaningful from both of your parents
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Posted by Bunnymonkey
sounds like you love the way the ring looks, you just want to accentuate different aspects of it.
That's exactly how I feel!
I do love the way the ring looks...its not like I want to change it from having side stones to being solitaire or even shange the type of side stones...all that I would keep the same, just brighten up the platinum and the look of it a little so it looks new but still has the same cherished gift feeling. I guess I just have to think about it some more!
Thanks for all of your opinions!
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JMO - I would never change it. Did you try taking it to a jeweler. I just found a jeweler that I love - FM me if you want to know. I had my E ring cut down 2 sizes (yes I'm 5'6 with hobbit hands I guess!) and the jeweler let us sit back in his room while he did it. He could probably buff it or something to make the platinum shine. good luck
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You can wear your mom's ring and save your ring for you child.
FYI: Plat. needs to be polished once every so often, not just cleaned. I learned this b/c I just got my wedding band and after they cleaned my e-ring it still looked like _rap next to the wedding band. I don't think its that expensive to polish either.
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Posted by Bunnymonkey
sounds like you love the way the ring looks, you just want to accentuate different aspects of it.
I say re-set it in practically the same format, just in a new band of platinum and a little higher, so that when you lookk at it, it is still the same ring your father chose, just customized for his lovely daughter.
i agree.
JimmysBride
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My opinion, but I personally wouldn't change a thing about a ring like that... so much history, so much sentimental value... you can pass it on... to me those values far outweigh the 'look' of the ring...
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Posted by lullabella
Sorry but I wouldn't even think of doing that. It kind of defeats the purpose of wearing your mom's ring if you change it.
I don't think that's necessarily true. I'm wearing FH's grandmother's diamond but in a setting that's right for me. It's still the sentimental value but it makes it mine as well.
If your mom's ok with it, go for it.
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Honestly, I wouldn't even consider gettinga new setting. If I were you, I would just have the ing redipped so that platinum would be fresh and shiny. Other than that, I probably wouldn't do anything else.
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My e-ring was my fiances grandmothers. It is a tiffany setting (single round stone is a simple platinum band), however I was having a really tough time finding a wedding band because the setting so was old.
I recently change the setting so that I could have a matching band.
I struggled with this decision for awhile, but it was the best decision for me. It really comes down to you. Ask your mom her opinion.
JLP
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You could take the ring to a reputable jewelrr and see what they recommend. They might be able to polish the platimun and change things slightly, while preserving the integrity and sentimentality of the ring.
Vicky1706
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Thanks for all of your input. I appreciate it!
OSCARtheGROOM
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My mom passed away when I was 15. When my sister got married(she's the only girl) my dad took the diamond out of my mom's engagement ring, and put on to a necklace. My sister wears it all the time. Maybe that can be an option if you decide to change your setting. Good luck!
