WOW!! so annoyed right now::kinda long vent

hmm cant believe I missed this. Thats what I get for going to sleep early.
Starting to make me think about a wedding party I am in that I honestly think will be 100 times worse than this situation. Maybe I should avoid this

OMG I just caught up with all of this and in the midst of laughing (freakin alpacas!), I'm also thinking I have been in similar situations, so here come my two cents...

Seriously Amber? Posting a rebuttal on LIW? You're looking for trouble and you know it. Don't start saying how you had to defend yourself and tell everyone what REALLY happened. Everyone pads the truth and you probably both did, so how are we supposed to judge anyway?

Nicole got on LIW and posted her thoughts and feelings and regardless of it being wrong or not, we tried to make her feel better because she was obviously upset about it! Most of us don't know you and therefore, do not care about you. It's not personal, it's just the nature of the message boards. Ok, you both had gripes about the other. Big Whoop, which friends don't? Was your wedding ruined because of Nicole? Don't think So. Will you have terrible memories of the day because of Nicole? Probably Not. Aftermath SchmafterMath. This is obviously a pride issue with you because you couldn't stand it that perfect strangers thought you were a B****. Maybe we do, maybe we don't. Doesn't matter.

Am I siding with Nicole? Maybe, but it doesn't matter because honestly, all i know are your actions and they speak quite loudly.

Fun reading...

I can't believe this thread is still going on!

Well... considering the value.. yes yes I can.

I just wanted to point out that... this thread here started June 11th!!!! That was way before the Amber thread started on the other board (yesterday!). And there was another one from a week prior to this. So who began posting first???? Personally I think you both started posting about one another without the other knowing it.
And clearly this thread has a lot more insults and nasty comments in it. Regardless, why use LIW to attack one another?? Even if you came across a thread where the other bride said she contemplated kicking a BM out... you JUMPED to the conclusion that it must have been YOU she was talking about. WHY IS THAT??? guilty much?? And even if it was you she was talking about... CLEARLY there were issues that you BOTH needed to talk to eachother about, rather than use LIW as a way to get back at one another.

Either way... the ONLY reason someone would post this type of stuff on a public forum is for the other bride to see. So in that respect BOTH are guilty.

I also think it's shameful to actually insult the decor of the wedding. Stick to what you are upset about. Don't try to really insult the person with matters that have NOTHING to do with your issues with one another. That's just low.

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Posted by Im getting Married

I may be the odd one here but besides the cake thing (I guess everywhere has different traditions, I have never heard of this but whatever) I have seen many girls on here pissed that their BM(s) did not seem that interested or where not asking every week what was going on with the wedding. I think this girl has a valid point if you lost the info for the rehersal than why not contact another BM (the bride is usually really busy and stressed at that time)

I am sure if this was most of you, you too would be peeved as well.

JMO

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ITA.

I have to say, I'm 29, and have been in NUMEROUS weddings, having been MOH twice last year. Once for my sis, the other time for my best friend.

I saw what they went through by having BM's that just did not give a flying f*ck about anything.
I made everything SUPER easy for all of them.
I took care of the shower, the invites, the favors....because it is supposed to be the one of the best days of the brides life....and that's the purpose of having a bridal party...the people that you choose to stand by you on your day. It is an honour to be chosen. (At least that's how I feel).

Having said that, I have a lot of friends and cousins that I WOULD have put in my bridal party...but after seeing how some of them behaved throughout the whole wedding planning process for my sis, and best friend, why bother??
They not only did not care, but made sure everyone knew it!!
I mean c'mon..at least PRETEND to care!!
You think I ALWAYS wanted to go dress shopping? Or cake tasting? Or did not have my own stuff going on?? Of course not!! I was excited, but sometimes preoccupied! Did the brides know that? NO!
I am ONLY having my sister.
She will always be there for me, and besides, I can totally tell her where to go whenever I want to.
I feel sorry for anyone that has added stress from unhappy BP members.
I also feel sorry for the people that have to deal with real Bridezilla's!
The bride here does not sound like one at all!
I hope you girls can work it out!

I don't care how much of a Bridezilla you think the bride is being, when you agree to be a BM you have responsibilities and obligations. Personally, I think it is immature to skip out on the wedding, not attend the rehersal dinner, etc. Also, I think it is so rude to intentionally not give someone a gift when you attend their wedding.
This whole situation makes me

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Posted by MarjorieFrank

I don't care how much of a Bridezilla you think the bride is being, when you agree to be a BM you have responsibilities and obligations. Personally, I think it is immature to skip out on the wedding, not attend the rehersal dinner, etc. Also, I think it is so rude to intentionally not give someone a gift when you attend their wedding.
This whole situation makes me

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I couldn't possibly agree more!!!! I thought the EXACT same thing on all of those points as I was reading!!!!!

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Posted by MarjorieFrank

I don't care how much of a Bridezilla you think the bride is being, when you agree to be a BM you have responsibilities and obligations. Personally, I think it is immature to skip out on the wedding, not attend the rehersal dinner, etc. Also, I think it is so rude to intentionally not give someone a gift when you attend their wedding.
This whole situation makes me

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i didnt skip out on the rehersal dinner or the ceremony! i dont know why everyone thinks i didnt go to rehersal dinner! i went!! the only thing i DIDNT do was help her make decorations and put favors together because like i said, i go to school full time, work 3-4 nights after school, work every other weekend all weekend, study, and do homework. Ive also been back and forth to the doctors and crap the past couple months getting my head checked because i suffer from migraines. speaking of migraines..those put me down atleast once a week..for sometimes days at a time. ... i was there for the important things...

'well, her wedding, was heII....first of all, i never have liked her MOH..but i was nice to her because they were friends...well, the day of the wedding she was THEE biggest B!tch to be ever. and did my 'friend,' the bride, speak to me at all?? nope. not at all. so i was fed up with it and FH & I peaced out at like 6:00...very earlyy....i was so mad i didnt even give her the card & money i had for her...i figured she didnt deserve it..'

That's your quote. You wrote that you skipped out at 6...very earlyy and you were so mad you didn't give her the card or money.

We think it because you wrote it.

I dont really understand why people think being in a wedding comes with all these responsibilities and obligations. I have a million things to do -- beyond planning my wedding. That being said, I dont think any of my bridesmaids need to go above and beyond for my wedding. Buy the dress...and show up! That's all I expect...and it's all anyone has ever asked of me...including my own sister!

I dont think Nichole should be faulted for being too busy! It's not her wedding. She cant stop working, going to school etc to make decorations, attend cake tastings etc. And I assume Amber knew of Nichole's situation PRIOR to asking her to be in the wedding.

I dont think any of this needed to be dragged out on LIW...but that's what happens on these boards. We are all guilty of venting -- this one just happened to be more obvious to the person that was being vented about.

Bottom line -- most of us will never know who was right or wrong in the situation. But, I dont think Nichole should be made out to be the bad person b/c she is too busy to revolve her life around someone's wedding. I barely have time to plan my own wedding...and I dont go to school and work weekday and weekends!

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Posted by KerriJohnS

'well, her wedding, was heII....first of all, i never have liked her MOH..but i was nice to her because they were friends...well, the day of the wedding she was THEE biggest B!tch to be ever. and did my 'friend,' the bride, speak to me at all?? nope. not at all. so i was fed up with it and FH & I peaced out at like 6:00...very earlyy....i was so mad i didnt even give her the card & money i had for her...i figured she didnt deserve it..'

That's your quote. You wrote that you skipped out at 6...very earlyy and you were so mad you didn't give her the card or money.

We think it because you wrote it.

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I have to point out...she doesnt ever mention skipping the rehearsal or the ceremony. She left the reception early.

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Posted by FallBride2010

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Posted by KerriJohnS

'well, her wedding, was heII....first of all, i never have liked her MOH..but i was nice to her because they were friends...well, the day of the wedding she was THEE biggest B!tch to be ever. and did my 'friend,' the bride, speak to me at all?? nope. not at all. so i was fed up with it and FH & I peaced out at like 6:00...very earlyy....i was so mad i didnt even give her the card & money i had for her...i figured she didnt deserve it..'

That's your quote. You wrote that you skipped out at 6...very earlyy and you were so mad you didn't give her the card or money.

We think it because you wrote it.

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I have to point out...she doesnt ever mention skipping the rehearsal or the ceremony. She left the reception early.

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To me, leaving the reception super early is skipping out. Esp when you are a BM.

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Posted by KerriJohnS

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Posted by FallBride2010

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Posted by KerriJohnS

'well, her wedding, was heII....first of all, i never have liked her MOH..but i was nice to her because they were friends...well, the day of the wedding she was THEE biggest B!tch to be ever. and did my 'friend,' the bride, speak to me at all?? nope. not at all. so i was fed up with it and FH & I peaced out at like 6:00...very earlyy....i was so mad i didnt even give her the card & money i had for her...i figured she didnt deserve it..'

That's your quote. You wrote that you skipped out at 6...very earlyy and you were so mad you didn't give her the card or money.

We think it because you wrote it.

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I have to point out...she doesnt ever mention skipping the rehearsal or the ceremony. She left the reception early.

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To me, leaving the reception super early is skipping out. Esp when you are a BM.

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I agree with that. Just clarifying the ceremony and rehearsal part...since she's being accused of it...but never mentioned skipping those

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Posted by FallBride2010

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Posted by KerriJohnS

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Posted by FallBride2010

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Posted by KerriJohnS

'well, her wedding, was heII....first of all, i never have liked her MOH..but i was nice to her because they were friends...well, the day of the wedding she was THEE biggest B!tch to be ever. and did my 'friend,' the bride, speak to me at all?? nope. not at all. so i was fed up with it and FH & I peaced out at like 6:00...very earlyy....i was so mad i didnt even give her the card & money i had for her...i figured she didnt deserve it..'

That's your quote. You wrote that you skipped out at 6...very earlyy and you were so mad you didn't give her the card or money.

We think it because you wrote it.

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I have to point out...she doesnt ever mention skipping the rehearsal or the ceremony. She left the reception early.

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To me, leaving the reception super early is skipping out. Esp when you are a BM.

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I agree with that. Just clarifying the ceremony and rehearsal part...since she's being accused of it...but never mentioned skipping those

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haha. I think what happened was someone (one of them) posted about the RD invite being lost and it came through as though she missed the RD because she lost the invitaiton. I don't know waht the point of mentioning that was if it wasn't to say she missed it. It sounded like she was giving a reason as to why she didn't attend.

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Posted by KerriJohnS

'well, her wedding, was heII....first of all, i never have liked her MOH..but i was nice to her because they were friends...well, the day of the wedding she was THEE biggest B!tch to be ever. and did my 'friend,' the bride, speak to me at all?? nope. not at all. so i was fed up with it and FH & I peaced out at like 6:00...very earlyy....i was so mad i didnt even give her the card & money i had for her...i figured she didnt deserve it..'

That's your quote. You wrote that you skipped out at 6...very earlyy and you were so mad you didn't give her the card or money.

We think it because you wrote it.

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I LEFT THE RECEPTION EARLY!!!!!! i went the ceremony and attended the FULLL thing...i went to the rehersal the day before and attended the WHOLE thing! just the stupid reception, where i was having a lame time!

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Posted by Nichole2010

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Posted by MarjorieFrank

I don't care how much of a Bridezilla you think the bride is being, when you agree to be a BM you have responsibilities and obligations. Personally, I think it is immature to skip out on the wedding, not attend the rehersal dinner, etc. Also, I think it is so rude to intentionally not give someone a gift when you attend their wedding.
This whole situation makes me

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i didnt skip out on the rehersal dinner or the ceremony! i dont know why everyone thinks i didnt go to rehersal dinner! i went!! the only thing i DIDNT do was help her make decorations and put favors together because like i said, i go to school full time, work 3-4 nights after school, work every other weekend all weekend, study, and do homework. Ive also been back and forth to the doctors and crap the past couple months getting my head checked because i suffer from migraines. speaking of migraines..those put me down atleast once a week..for sometimes days at a time. ... i was there for the important things...

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No offense but I have pretty much the same schedule as you and I have planned pretty much my entire wedding in like 4 months. MY MOH is pregnant so I don't expect alot from her. And if I choose to have BM's I don't expect them to do much except show up, attend RH dinners, and be respectful and like someone else said pretend to care about my wedding the day of. I find not giving a gift bc she didn't talk to you enough to be beyond rude and I'm surprised she has even spoken to you since.

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Posted by FallBride2010

I dont really understand why people think being in a wedding comes with all these responsibilities and obligations. I have a million things to do -- beyond planning my wedding. That being said, I dont think any of my bridesmaids need to go above and beyond for my wedding. Buy the dress...and show up! That's all I expect...and it's all anyone has ever asked of me...including my own sister!

I dont think Nichole should be faulted for being too busy! It's not her wedding. She cant stop working, going to school etc to make decorations, attend cake tastings etc. And I assume Amber knew of Nichole's situation PRIOR to asking her to be in the wedding.

I dont think any of this needed to be dragged out on LIW...but that's what happens on these boards. We are all guilty of venting -- this one just happened to be more obvious to the person that was being vented about.

Bottom line -- most of us will never know who was right or wrong in the situation. But, I dont think Nichole should be made out to be the bad person b/c she is too busy to revolve her life around someone's wedding. I barely have time to plan my own wedding...and I dont go to school and work weekday and weekends!

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ita

although, imo, the gift thing is a little eh. i'd mail it and have that be that.

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Posted by AdriandSteve

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Posted by FallBride2010

I dont really understand why people think being in a wedding comes with all these responsibilities and obligations. I have a million things to do -- beyond planning my wedding. That being said, I dont think any of my bridesmaids need to go above and beyond for my wedding. Buy the dress...and show up! That's all I expect...and it's all anyone has ever asked of me...including my own sister!

I dont think Nichole should be faulted for being too busy! It's not her wedding. She cant stop working, going to school etc to make decorations, attend cake tastings etc. And I assume Amber knew of Nichole's situation PRIOR to asking her to be in the wedding.

I dont think any of this needed to be dragged out on LIW...but that's what happens on these boards. We are all guilty of venting -- this one just happened to be more obvious to the person that was being vented about.

Bottom line -- most of us will never know who was right or wrong in the situation. But, I dont think Nichole should be made out to be the bad person b/c she is too busy to revolve her life around someone's wedding. I barely have time to plan my own wedding...and I dont go to school and work weekday and weekends!

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ita

although, imo, the gift thing is a little eh. i'd mail it and have that be that.

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I'd probably send the gift too. Well, maybe not after all this drama, but I would have prior to it : )