So i'm back from Arizona. The trip was great-we had so much fun but we came back to some bad news. First off, i called into work on friday to let them know i wasn't going to be there today-i even followed through by calling on Monday to make sure they got my message. Then Monday night we get a call that FH's uncle has died. He had leukemia-we knew it would happen one day but not this soon. He died on saturday and they didnt want to call us then b/c they didnt want to ruin our trip and since we changed our plans-it would have been too much to swicth yet another flight. So we come home and we have the wake today. FH wants me to go to the funeral which of course i'm going to go-it's now my family too and i feel it's only right to pay my respects-especially b /c i knew his uncle-went to his benefits and such. I call my job to let them know what happened and would you believe i got s h i t for it! I'm beyond livid right now. They told me to not even bother coming in for the rest of the week and we'll talk on friday about what they're going to do with me next week. I'm a teacher in a daycare. Now i love my job-i love my room. BUT someone died. I'm sorry my cousin got married and i went away. Im sorry someone died...b/c apparently these things are not supposed to happen. I'm not supposed to take extra days off for circumstances beyond my control. Now i'm not about to sit down and get lectured-i won't do it. Im not taking days off to go frolicking with my friends. Why am i being punished-i gave them plenty of notice-i did what i was supposed to. OK this is turning into a letter in itself so i'll stop now-but thanks to who read this.
MrsDtoBe09
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That really stinks! Sorry about your fh's uncle.
Kristina2009
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Honestly - they are being very inappropriate. Everyone, no matter what they do, is in life, replaceable so I never understand when people are unreasonable about such things.
I am sorry for your and FHs loss. Your coworkers/bosses need to readjust their priorities in life.
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I am sorry!! That sounds like something my boss would do to me... he gives me an attitude even when I schedule a vacation day months in advanced. I gave him more than a years notice about my wedding and he is still giving me sh*t for it.
Just try to ignore them and not think about it. Family is more important.. bottom line...and its not your fault that these people do not understand that and have no hearts. Someone died, its not like you just dont want to come in. Try to calm down and when you see them on Friday explain that it was very important that you were there to support FH and such..
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wow, that's messed up that they're treating you like that when there's a tragedy in your family. i'm an accountant and when my grandmother passed away at the end of feb. i took 2 days off and i couldn't care less what my boss had to say cause things happen and i was not about to go to work and sit there taking clients while crying all day. they should have some compassion. i'm so sorry that you're going through this but family comes first.
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Utterhappiness
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Posted by Kristina2009
Honestly - they are being very inappropriate. Everyone, no matter what they do, is in life, replaceable so I never understand when people are unreasonable about such things.
I am sorry for your and FHs loss. Your coworkers/bosses need to readjust their priorities in life.
Couldnt have said it better myself!
Im so sorry about your loss and on top of that.. Im sorry that you have people in your life that could treat you like this eff them!
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i just cant believe they told me to not come in the rest of the week-what the h e l l am i gonna do thursday and friday????
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i just cant believe they told me to not come in the rest of the week-what the h e l l am i gonna do thursday and friday????
You are going to relax and have time for yourself. YOu can collect your thoughts also about the situation! Hey... everything happens for a reason ya know?! Take this an opp to think about what YOU want..turn it into a positive!
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I'm so sorry to hear about FH's uncle!
Also, I think it's terrible that you're going through this at work. I took some time off when my grandfather was sick and on his deathbed and my boss was VERY similar. They made it seem like I was letting my personal life get too in the way of my work, which is absolutely ridiculous considering a close family member was dying. My boss was ridiculously callous and unsympathetic and even said something like, 'My grandmother died last year and I came back to work the next day.' I totally understand how you're feeling and I think it's ridiculous that they would treat you this way!
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Im sorry to hear about ur Fh loss.. Bosses can be heartless sometimes. i to work in a Day-care and this has happen to the girl i work with when one of her friends died. My boss actually had the nerve to ask her if she was even that close to the person that passed away.. Ppl can be so mean! Best of luck and enjoy ur time off... :)
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we got back from the funeral a lttle while ago-fh was upset and i'm glad i made the decision to go with him. His family was appreciative of me being there. When we got to the church i was like 'i should go duck in the back huh' and they said no and i sat right up front with them. His grandma was like 'you're a part of our family now, you stay with us'. It was sad saying goodbyes but he's no longer suffering from the cancer. We're also planning on continuing his benefits and starting a foundation in his name. He was big on music and sang in bands and such so theyd like to raise money to be able to give scholarship money to music major students.
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wt an asses...they dont care for you...dont care for them..i mean take care of ur things..and ur fh...and if they are aassses to u..wtta hell...not ur fault that this happend...arent u eligible for days off...!!!!
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i'm so sorry for your & fh's loss. that is so terrible that your job is treating you like you did something wrong.. don't they understand what its like to lose a loved one?? that's so messed up.
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Wow! First off.. I am so sorry to hear of your FH uncle. Second, that is disgraceful that you would be treated like that at a time like this. I hope you really give it to them when you go back!!!!!!!
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I can't believe they reacted like that. I think some people don't have a grasp on priorities. I am sorry about your loss.
