writing your own vows

so...I've always thought i would write my own vows. I just think that staring my marriage by communicating exactly whats in my heart and not reading it from a book is the right way to go for me...it just feels right...

HOWEVER

FH isn't into showing his emotions to the world and like the traditional route of 'this is what all the generations before us did...this is the way they want it done...lets just do it and get it done' kind of mentality.

i don't know what to do because I really would feel more comfortable writing my own vows...but I think it would be silly for me to pour my guts out and then all he says is 'i joseph take you melody...'

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Posted by Soon2beAlberti

i suppose i could work on that. I think i'll write something up and see.

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But FH should do it too. I think that its a good compromise

We wrote our own, and had the rabbi say them. He introduced it: 'Dava and Damian wanted to say something special to each other on this day, and tell each other, in front of all their friends and family, how they feel about marrying each other. Dava said about Damian, '........''

It was perfect. We got to say everything we wanted to say, but the rabbi did all the talking! We kept what we said a secret from each other, so it was a beautiful surprise. And the way the rabbi worked it into his ceremony, it just fit, and we were able to write over a minute's-worth of stuff to each other. There wasn't a dry eye in the house. And later the rabbi gave us a copy of what we'd written, so we'll always have it.