Wrong choice!!! ???

minniemouse Posted: Apr 15, 2004 10:02 PM

Wrong choice!!! ???

Have any of you thought you may have chosen the 'wrong' bridesmaid??
I think I did and it's too late.
I don't feel the support from one of them.

wc0143 Posted: Apr 15, 2004 10:03 PM

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I plead the fifth ...

Kriss2c Posted: Apr 15, 2004 10:07 PM

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I just made my best friend MOH over my sister, because of some nasty things sis said about me and FH.

Julestrd Posted: Apr 15, 2004 10:30 PM

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Posted by Kriss2c

I just made my best friend MOH over my sister, because of some nasty things sis said about me and FH.

Oh you too!!! I can't believe some sisters sometimes can you and she HAS to be in my wedding my mom is insisting on it

jill13bean Posted: Apr 15, 2004 10:40 PM

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ummm really didnt have a choice they are just not being so helpful or cooperative... or excited
they say theyy ar e excited but teh only 2 that have not done anything

IMgetinMarried Posted: Apr 15, 2004 10:42 PM

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I know the feeling. I should of had one bridesmaid and one best man, and ended. I think some things would have been much smoother.

Hang in there, and try and make the best of it.

juju Posted: Apr 15, 2004 11:17 PM

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I did. ONe of them at least. No support at all. It seemed as though she just showed up. During the whole planning, she didn't call to see how I was doing with the planning. Did I mention she was my moh? She lives in TX and all I expected was a few phone calls to see how I was doing. That is what I did with one of my GF when I was maid of honor for her wedding.

If you don't want this girl to be a bridesmaid.,...you should definetly ask her not to be in your wedding. If you do keep her, you can probably bet on her not calling at all after your wedding. That's what happened to me.

smitten Posted: Apr 15, 2004 11:22 PM

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been there!

Monkeybride Posted: Apr 15, 2004 11:36 PM

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sort of....at least i wish i could do one more but it's too late now

pschica Posted: Apr 15, 2004 11:42 PM

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i didi - my moh was horrible - so much dramam and she doesn't speak to me anymore...

ps - she was my sister to top it off....

AtticaQT Posted: Apr 16, 2004 01:01 AM

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Posted by wc0143

I plead the fifth ...

ditto!

MrsBrad Posted: Apr 16, 2004 01:43 AM

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Luckily no, but its because I almost did. I have been friends with one girl forever and I just know if I picked her in the end it wouldnt be worth it. So moral is, girls if you havent picked your BP yet be careful - make sure these are ppl who will always love and support you.

daisybride Posted: Apr 16, 2004 06:55 AM

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I totally did. I have too many stories to tell, but I know more than one was the wrong choice. My advice to anyone newly engaged owuld be don't get caught up, think about who you are going to ask first.

nov.bride Posted: Apr 16, 2004 07:37 AM

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One of my friends has a pretty big wedding party and a few months into the planning 1 friend has been outshining eveyone. It actually all started once my friend got engaged. You know how people lose touch and then get back on touch.
This one friend of ours is now back in the loop.
She is always there for my friend etc.
My friend decided 2 months before to ask her to be in the bridal party. She is going to buy her dress and pay for the rush delivery etc.
I think it was a great idea and well deserved.

bobbsbride Posted: Apr 16, 2004 08:54 AM

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I still really like the dress I picked but 3 months later I saw something else that I really love!! Oh well!

katebloom99 Posted: Apr 16, 2004 09:01 AM

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Choosing BMs is so hard. But do you notice that its nat as hard for the FHs to choose their BM? Guys are so muich more lais back and don't have so much drama.

I am still waiting to ask 2 of the friends I think I want as BMs, b/c I am not positive that I won't have the same problems you are having. Girlfriends can be so frustrating!