WWYD???? Need Help VENT!!!!

This is long story but.. FH has 2 friends he grew up with that are brother and sister.. we still keep in contact with them and their parents .cause FH does a lot of catering for the family . They have another sister who we dont really talk to and shes complete drama so FH didnt want to invite her to the wedding. He was adament about it and I said whatever you want because the guest list was already out of control and there were a lot of brothers and sisters that we just couldnt invite. but anyways... She wasnt invited to the engagement party and made a comment about that but whatever FH blew it off. Now FH saw her about a month ago and she had mentioned shes dating a new guy and she will prob be bringin him to our wedding.. FH didnt know what to say so he just changed the subject.. which he should have just said right then and there shes not invited! Soo now the invites just went out and she texted fh and said.. My whole family got the invite to the wedding.. what address did you send my invite too? SO ofcourse we are like is she kidding??? So FH writes back this whole thing hw we just couldnt invite everyone and we tried our best to cut the guest list down to accomodate our budget , blah, blah, .. So she says ' So my whole family is invited and not me'?? Fh writes back and says the whole speech again and said look shelby and I tried very hard to keep the guest list down and we had to make cuts.. we invites a lot of familes and not thier brother or sister and they just have to understand.. your makin us feel bad I really hope your not upset ...

So she writes.. ' too late already am , whateva, congrats!

I was with my family and they filled out their invite and asked me if I sent mine back yet and I said didnt get one they said call you .. and she said she was hysterical crying!!!!

Mind you.. we arent even close with her.. I am soo outraged that someone had the nerve to even confront us about it and make us feeel like crap about not inviting her.. Who does that??????????

I mean I understand if your offended but would you ever ask someone why your not invited???

I would never ask someone why I wasn't it - and right now - heaven help the person that asks me why they weren't invited!

You're never going to please everyone - no matter how hard you try - just make sure that you and FH are happy.

Hang in there!!!!!!!!!

i see nothing wrong with her asking about where her invitation was sent to (she honestly thought she was invited - especially since her entire family was invited)

however, when you told her you couldn't invite her because of budget reasons, she should have dropped it.

i'm sorry you're going through this ... but if she means nothing to you, then i wouldn't worry too much about having upset her.





ETA: you should stick to your guns ... if you can't afford to invite her, then don't .... or if you want, you can put her on a B list.

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

i see nothing wrong with her asking about where her invitation was sent to (she honestly thought she was invited - especially since her entire family was invited)

however, when you told her you couldn't invite her because of budget reasons, she should have dropped it.

i'm sorry you're going through this ... but if she means nothing to you, then i wouldn't worry too much about having upset her.





ETA: you should stick to your guns ... if you can't afford to invite her, then don't .... or if you want, you can put her on a B list.

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Im pissed that she asked where her invite was only because she was not invited to the engagement party but her fam was.. so she knew damn well that she wasnt invited and just wanted to make us feel like crap.. Its the type of person she is and the exact reason FH didnt want to invite her!

ahhhhh so awkward!!!! it is a sticky situation because it does seem like shes 'being left out' since the rest of her family is invited BBUUUUTTT obviously you aren't close with her so she shouldnt be invited.....you mentioned that shes drama so it makes sense that shes making a big scene like this...just ignore it and she'll get over it

She was hysterical crying and ure not even close to her? Yeah.... She's definitely drama! And I can't believe she confronted ur fh about it. Its one thing to ask about it but to be persistant is a bit much.

And no I wouldn't ask somebody why I wasn't invited to a wedding. I'd feel so uncomfortable asking that.

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Posted by Bride825

ahhhhh so awkward!!!! it is a sticky situation because it does seem like shes 'being left out' since the rest of her family is invited BBUUUUTTT obviously you aren't close with her so she shouldnt be invited.....you mentioned that shes drama so it makes sense that shes making a big scene like this...just ignore it and she'll get over it

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Im just upset cause I warned FH this would happen if we didnt invite her and I said lets just invite her so we dont have to hear it.. But he said absolutely not and now this happened!!

I def def def understand where you are coming from and she's 100% wrong for asking FH. Once I could understand cuz I might if my entire fam was but I wasn't. But i'd also be able to take a hint and leave it at that.

But, imo, and of course everyone is diff, I might feel a bit insulted if my entire fam except me was invited. Esp. if she's the only one left out. If there are other siblings not invited then she needs to know that and move on.

I invited one of my BM's entire fam (grandmother, parents, brother and his gf, and her sister) but I was/am still close wtih the fam.

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Posted by shelbylove918

Im pissed that she asked where her invite was only because she was not invited to the engagement party but her fam was.. so she knew damn well that she wasnt invited and just wanted to make us feel like crap.. Its the type of person she is and the exact reason FH didnt want to invite her!

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oh, then F- her!!! she's being disgusting! just be glad she won't be there at your wedding and starting drama there!!!

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Posted by shelbylove918

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Posted by Bride825

ahhhhh so awkward!!!! it is a sticky situation because it does seem like shes 'being left out' since the rest of her family is invited BBUUUUTTT obviously you aren't close with her so she shouldnt be invited.....you mentioned that shes drama so it makes sense that shes making a big scene like this...just ignore it and she'll get over it

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Im just upset cause I warned FH this would happen if we didnt invite her and I said lets just invite her so we dont have to hear it.. But he said absolutely not and now this happened!!

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no no no....dont be upset...you dont want to have someone at your wedding just because you were worried about what would happen if you didnt invite them...KWIM ??

holy mary, i can kind of understand taking it personally not being invited, but, confronting you and your FH about it, and then making a scene is just outrageous. she has the right to think whatever she wants....but to make a scene and send dramatic TEXTS no less is just childish and stupid.

wedding planning teaches us we can't please everyone...we just have to remember to breathe and let the small stuff GO.

if u are closer with her family maybe you should speak to them too so they can level with her.
my friend invited my bro and me to her wedding but not my other bro. she explained to us that since they werent really close they wouldnt be invited. my mom explained it to my bro and they understood. however my brother was not drama so he took it well.

I know we're going to have the same issue, but FH was close with 2 friends, and not there younger sister. But I'm sorry, you added me on Facebook, told your mother i was 'too annoying with my posts' ( ) who told my FMIL who thought that was stupid, so my sympathy is not with her. FH said he'd deal with it. Thank god for his backbone because mine, is a bit broken. lol.

I don't think you were wrong at all and I think it's rude to hint to someone to be invited to a wedding.

i just wanna hit some people across the face sometimes. whatever she will get over it. shes a big girl. people just have no common sense or respect for anyone anymore.

omg shelby same thing happened to me this past weekend with another drama queen!!! this people are insane!!!!

there is nothing that says you have to invite every person so no one's feelings are ever hurt.

One one hand, I get why she wondered where her invitation was just bc the family was invited, on the other, she knows she's not close with you, so why does she even care if she's invited or not?

and even if the drama queen is upset, she really shouldn't have confronted you. Now, she ends up looking like an idiot.

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Posted by allornil

there is nothing that says you have to invite every person so no one's feelings are ever hurt.

One one hand, I get why she wondered where her invitation was just bc the family was invited, on the other, she knows she's not close with you, so why does she even care if she's invited or not?

and even if the drama queen is upset, she really shouldn't have confronted you. Now, she ends up looking like an idiot.

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The sad part is she BELIEVE'S she is close to us!!!