My brother dated a girl for about 6 years and they brokke up about 7 years ago. i became very good friends with her and he was ok with it. i even lived with her for 2 years. we still keep in touch and are very close. i asked my brother and his new gf of 6 years if they would mind if i asked her to be in the party and they reacted with 'well its your wedding' and 'well if thats what you want' should i not ask her because of my brother and his gf or should i realize that this is MY wedding not theirs and do what I want?
grkbarbie
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i dont know.. i mean... it is YOUR wedding.. and im sure his current gf might be feelin a lil blahh..will she be in the bridal party as well?
it really depends how his current gf is..
i'd feel weird if fh's sister put 1 of his ex's int he bridal party..
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yes my brother and his gf are in my BP. its a weird situation cuz they all know we've been friends for a while. his current GF says that when the 2 girls first met that the ex said some things about her behind her back...but that was over 5 years ago. The x is over the situation, she lives with her new bf and was previously engaged so its not like there are feelings there. FH says its my wedding and how much will they really be together? just gettin dressed, at my shower (but theres lot of other people there). FH suggested asking the girl (the x) if she would even be comfortable doing it
SummerBride10
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I think if everyone involved is comfortable with it than ask her to be in your BP. After all, it is your wedding, and she is a good friend!
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I would find out if the x would be comfortable or not first, if she has no problems with it, then i would ask her. its your wedding, you should have all the people that you want in your bridal party and as long as everyone knows about it ahead of time, i don't think it should be too much of a problem
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I think you should really sit down with your brother and see what he thinks. Im sure his gf told him how she really feels. If everyone is fine with it then why not but if she is, you might want to rethink it. I wouldnt want any of my fhs exs in the bridal party.
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Posted by SummerBride10
I think if everyone involved is comfortable with it than ask her to be in your BP. After all, it is your wedding, and she is a good friend!
Ok so i agree with half of you Colleen ... Its your wedding ... if they arent comfortable they can s*** it up for the few hours they will be with each other ... You obviously like he girl since your considering her for your bridal party and i kno that out of respect for your brother you want everyone to be ok with it ... but if that is who you want then oh well .... and im sure if anyone has a problem with it they will say something
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Posted by CristinanBen2010
I think you should really sit down with your brother and see what he thinks. Im sure his gf told him how she really feels. If everyone is fine with it then why not but if she is, you might want to rethink it. I wouldnt want any of my fhs exs in the bridal party.
but its not FH's ex. its my brother's ex. my brother is ok with it, it was his gf. but we spoke and she said she would never tell me not to have someone in the party. so i asked the girl...she'll have to deal
HallsLady
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Posted by CloudNine
Posted by CristinanBen2010
I think you should really sit down with your brother and see what he thinks. Im sure his gf told him how she really feels. If everyone is fine with it then why not but if she is, you might want to rethink it. I wouldnt want any of my fhs exs in the bridal party.
but its not FH's ex. its my brother's ex. my brother is ok with it, it was his gf. but we spoke and she said she would never tell me not to have someone in the party. so i asked the girl...she'll have to deal
Well your brother's GF needs to get over it Like Reymiliz said she can s u c k it up for a couple of hours. However though you have know that most likely there maybe an unnecessary awkwardness between them all on that day. Either way it's your day and they should respect your decisions entirely.
