XOXO

About your question- what do I write in the thank you's....

What else would you write besides thank you? I don't really think it is appropriate to aknowledge if a gift was cheap or not in the thank you (if that is what you meant)

Million-you need sleep or a chill pill or whatever. I'm sure your party was beautiful & sounds like you spent a lot of time planning it...BUT people always talk about HUGE e-parties were couples expect CASH gifts & then have a huge wedding 1 year later & want more & honestly for mortgage paying people with kids (and others)it's too much. I do agree with you that some of those amounts seem low if those people are very close to you & your Fi.
I will tell you now as others here have...you probably will not get 1/2 of what you spend on your wedding in gifts-especially based on what you've said here.
You should plan on writing gracious thank yous & remembering that you chose to have a formal e-party-your guests gave what they could.
and if you vent how you REALLY feel, don't expect everyone here to agree with you.

First of all...We had a our eparty at the local fire house in a back room. Theres no need to have a 'wedding like' e-party but that is ure choice! NY is the only state that it is expected to actually give ant kind of a gift for an e-party. If u read any kind of wedding etiquette book it will tell u this. I cant believe that u would be upset because people didnt give more then 40.00 wah..... Im sorry I will say it Ure a spoiled Brat..... I always speak my mind

I am really sorry about what happened but I have to echo the other posts.

Etiquette actually says that guests DO NOT HAVE TO GIVE ENGAGEMENT GIFTS!! Only wedding and shower gifts are required.

While sometimes I forget this myself, a party is not a fundraiser.

Never mind...ill just put an end to this...
to all the ladies who were understanding about me venting ~ Thank you and i wish you the best

to the rest who resorted to name calling, I hope it made you feel better, now grow up and go back to 3rd grade, this boards not for you, its titled BRIDES HELPING BRIDES...JMO

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this boards not for you, its titled BRIDES HELPING BRIDES...JMO

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Can I ask what you meant by this? Are you trying to say that Newlyweds are not supposed to come over here to help?

I will give you a piece of advice that I learned the hard way. If you ask for opinions you are going to get them. If you are not ready to hear the truth, then you should not ask. The girls on this board will tell you what they think HONESTLY. I have asked for opinions before, in a vent and got some truly honest answers, that at the time really hurt to hear but in the same respect really made me stop and think.

I hope that you are feeling better today.