XOXO

june262004 Posted: Nov 11, 2003 02:56 PM

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Ok my friend that Ive had for ever kept implying that she should be my MOH. We had a falling out for a year or so. And thats why I didnt choose her to be MOH I picked someone that My friend forever doesnt really like. My FH doesnt really like My friend forever cause of the falling out we had. I have already asked my Friend to be MOH and my friend forever keeps asking me have u chose a MOH yet im scared to tell her its not her I dont know what to do.

Samanthas Mom Posted: Nov 11, 2003 03:02 PM

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whoever you feel comfortable choosing should be your MOH, no one should pressure you, Kristin, if you do not want the person who expects it to be her b/c of the falling out then you should tell her, it is your wedding

and besides if your FI doesnt want her to be the MOH and you dont as well sounds like your mind is made up, you should only ask this person if you truly want her to be your MOH not b/c she wants to be...................

Tell her, while she is a great friend you decided on someone else, if she is a true friend she will understand in the end

Suzanne Posted: Nov 11, 2003 03:05 PM

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Do you want this girl as your MOH? if you do then there is nothing wrong with having 2.(i did) If you do not, just explain the circumstances and let that be it. THe longer you wait to tell her the more hurt she will be.

In the end remember this is your day and you should have it totally the way you want to. no exceptions.

june262004 Posted: Nov 11, 2003 03:16 PM

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No I do not want as my moh I have already asked my Maid and Matron of honor. Well now im pissed. Im on the phone with my Maid of honor and she says ya well U know how u sent pictures of the dresses u like to all the people in ure BP I said ya she say well friend forever hit reply to all and said she was so excited about planning a shower and we need to start and heres my cell # bla bla bla IM SO PISSED!!!!!!!!!!!! I cant believe she did this my maid of honor said she doesnt want to do it alone she wants everyones help but i need to tell her cause shes still assuming its her!

eroxgirl Posted: Nov 11, 2003 03:47 PM

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You need to call your forever friend and tell her straight out, she's not your MOH, someone else is! The longer you wait, the more problems you have.

Is your forever friend part of your BP at all? Is that why you sent her pics of the BM gown? I don't understand why you're pissed...

june262004 Posted: Nov 11, 2003 04:02 PM

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sHE IS PART OF MY BP she took it upon her self to write a email saying how she would be planing all of my parties! She assumes that shes my moh. I dont know how to tell her that shes not my MOH

jenny2penny Posted: Nov 11, 2003 04:06 PM

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I would tell her straight out, so you know whether she will be there as a BM. I would say, did you pick out their dresses yet. You could maybe say,,,'what do you think of this dress to wear as my Bridesmaid?'

or 'as a bridesmaid, what do you think of the color -------?'

jenny2penny Posted: Nov 11, 2003 04:07 PM

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Also, I would state to her,,,her is the BM phone number, I do want you involved in the planning.

Samanthas Mom Posted: Nov 11, 2003 04:07 PM

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I would talk to her in private, meanwhile you should email everyone she emailed BUT her and explain who is your maid of honor so the real maid of honor wont be upset

june262004 Posted: Nov 11, 2003 04:17 PM

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I called my MOH and she tol me about the email and then I called My Matron of honor.

eroxgirl Posted: Nov 11, 2003 04:17 PM

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the ONLY way you should tell her is directly. Call her, and say 'I just wanted to make sure we're clear, XYZ is my MOH' and you can say something about her friendship being important to you, thats why she's your BM.

But since my whole BP is planning my shower together, if any one of them had the initiative to email another one saying 'here, call me to plan' personally, I'd be elated but my situation is completely different.

june262004 Posted: Nov 11, 2003 04:21 PM

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I said my MOH wanted everyones help. She was fine about that but she took it upon her self to email these people and imply she was the MOH

Samanthas Mom Posted: Nov 11, 2003 04:27 PM

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is this girl who I think it is? just curious its not who I know is it?

june262004 Posted: Nov 11, 2003 04:29 PM

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NO TAMMY that bi**H had the NERVE to call me 2 years after I got engaged (her family and myself have no idea where she is living all we know is shes in FL) and say ooo I heard u got engaged I better be in the BP. I laughed at her and havent heard from her since!