XOXO

May152005 Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:18 PM

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Bebalina Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:19 PM

Re: Would this bother you or am I over-analysing?

no your totally not over- analyzing.... if you were just the girlfriend then i'd say yes, but ur the fiance, they're in ur bridal party....i say u have every right

CaCRmr Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:20 PM

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It's ok to be hurt, I would still have him in your pictures although he didn't have you in his (be the better person)

divabride Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:21 PM

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I'd be upset too. You have every right to be. But I wouldnt say anything because nothing can come of it. Sorry

Kriss2c Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:21 PM

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I'd be upset.

CubanBride Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:23 PM

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I will be the odd person out and say you MAY be overanalyzing.

What about anyone else who might be engaged? Were they in the photos. We is only blood relatives in the pictures?

You may want to consider these things first, before jumping to any conclusions. Tell us what the situation is.

Remember, you are NOT family yet. As much as that may seem cruel and unusual, its a fact. You are a FUTURE family member. If they only had actual family members in the pics, then that may be how they planned it. Or it could be they didn't think of it. Also, were you engaged before they finalized the photos with the photographer? That's antoher thing to take into consideration.

halloweenbride04 Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:23 PM

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FSIL got married last April and I was not asked to be in family pics either and I felt the exact same way. We were not engaged yet but we were living together. I told FH how I felt and he said he didn't even think of it, so maybe she didn't either. I didn't hold it against her but I was hurt.

May152005 Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:23 PM

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PrincessPeanut Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:24 PM

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I'm so sorry about that :( I would be very hurt as well. You aren't just a random date or girlfriend- you are a future member of the family.....I'd be upset as well and you have every right to be.

chichila15 Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:25 PM

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I'd be upset, too... you're family now, too.

FLaCaTaCa Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:26 PM

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I would be upset! My FIL's have this strong belief that marriage equals you being part of the family....so even as a fiance and even after all I do for them ( I am not patting myself on the back, I am just stating)...I am not considered family. I must say it does hurt me too.

They took pictures for VDay of all the kids (he has 12 brothers and sister (my fiance)) and they gave wallets to my fiance's Sister in law because she is married and I didn't get any. I was a little hurt because I really wanted them and I was not entitled to one because I wasn't family. I have a big problem when they do things like that but....they are just like that and there is no changing them.

I know how you feel and I am sorry!

Donna Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:26 PM

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Posted by halloweenbride04

I told FH how I felt and he said he didn't even think of it, so maybe she didn't either. I didn't hold it against her but I was hurt.

Only you know your relationship with them but coming from a bride's perspective it really could've just been an oversight. I realized from my wedding day that I don't have a pic of just me and my brother. Unfortunately these things can happen.

May152005 Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:33 PM

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vhollo01 Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:36 PM

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I would be very hurt too... but it may have been a complete accident. So much stuff is going on during the day for the couple getting married it is easy to see how you could have been left out. I think it actually should have been your FH's responsibility to go and find you if you werent in the room while the pictures were being snapped. Maybe the family expected him to take care of you, and if he didn't mention it, maybe it wasnt their place to press the issue. Just a thought...

patti08 Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:37 PM

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I would be bothered by this too.

nferrandi Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:41 PM

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I would be hurt too, but I bet it wasn't intentional. Just do what you want and feel is right at your own wedding. Quite frankly, I would actually be a little annoyed at your FH. He should have invited you into a picture or two. I know that if I got called up for a family photo I would take FH's hand and bring him with me. I was doing that long before we were engaged.

BCTM33 Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:41 PM

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I don't think I would be really offended, but I would definitely think that I should be included. My FH's family has included me in everything since we moved in together, but not really before that...

hsdfl Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:42 PM

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I would be upset too! Here is a big hug
Shame on them for making you feel that way.

FutureMrs Posted: Jun 28, 2004 12:45 PM

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Alot of times it is the photographer that makes those kind of calls when it should be the bride and groom. Maybe that is what happened and that they were so busy with their wedding that they didn't realize it.