XOXO

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Posted by jenny2penny

I don't expect anyone to change who they are. he & I know what we both did wrong with the relationship.....but it's whether we can work through those issues, and compromise to fit together.

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Then if it is even the slightest bit in both of your minds about getting back together or working on it, bring him ... JMO

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Posted by jenny2penny

it's a combo both,,,
a great friend I hope to always have no matter turns out
a chance of rekindeling and seeing what's still there.

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It sounds like you have already made your mind up...just be careful

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Posted by HearzBellz

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Posted by jenny2penny

it's a combo both,,,
a great friend I hope to always have no matter turns out
a chance of rekindeling and seeing what's still there.

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It sounds like you have already made your mind up...just be careful

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exactly, nothing more i can say here

From your description, it's obvious which of those two people it should be (without knowing it was your ex). Person 2.

BUT, I have to be honest with you, Jenny. You can't deny that the fact that he is your Ex adds a whole new dynamic to this trip. I just wouldn't want you to get hurt.

And, IMO, if it's not something that you two have already discussed doing together or knew about for awhile, I wouldn't 'invite' him. Do you know what I mean? I mean, I don't think you should initiate.

But this is just my outside opinion and only you really know where your relationship stands with him right now.

It sounds to me as if your mind is already made up to bring the ex. Only you know what went on - we couldn't possibly know every detail - we just try to look out for your best interest - obviously there have been talks with the ex that we don't know about? Could it be - you have a life away from us???!!! J/K LOL
Anyway - I think you should bring him - it seems to be what you want and who knows maybe you guys can get a better understanding of what you need to do if you want to pursue the relationship. I agree people can't change who they are but it sounds to me like maybe the things that caused it to not work out can be worked on.
Just be careful - none of us want to see you go through another heartbreak.

Just playing devil's advocate - so no flames ok?

If you are thinking of rekindling - why does it have to be on a cruise? Why can't it just happen on a Wednesday at 8pm.
Can't you hold this off for a while?

Also would you think of going by yourself? I've never been on a cruise but I always thoughts there were tons of activities and you sit with other people at dinner..