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I feel that if you spend the holiday with FH and his family you might make more trouble for yourself and its not worth it from whatyou are saying. Why dont you have the dinner with your family grin adn bare it and keep your mouth shut as much as possible. Iknow that is really not a solution but before your wedding and before more trouble can get started be the better person and just show up. Remeber you cant pick your family.

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Has your brother given you a reason? Is he like this with your other siblings? Have your parents invited everyone? I would hate to miss out on Thanksgiving with my family so, I think I would go despite your brother's being there. It may seem uncomfortable, but if it has to happen, a blow-up may be just the thing to clear the air. Could you talk to your brother ahead of time and mention you are concerned about his attitude towards you...?

good luck

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I TOTALLY agree with t there.....

Maybe you can do the split family thing.. talk it over with your mom and lay it out like this...

'mom, (FH name here)'s mom and dad invited us for thanksgiving as well.. as not to offend either family (FH) and I were thinking about splitting family time.. In other words Dinner at his mothers house and dessert with you and dad... You know I love your Apple crisp...'

So its not that offensive to your mom..??? Just a suggestion.. This is what we did when we were still dating to avoid unwanted circumstances... Feel free to FM me! Good Luck!!

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... That also gives your brother time to leave if he TRULY doesnt want to see you......

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... You know I love your Apple crisp...'

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... That also gives your brother time to leave if he TRULY doesnt want to see you......

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I like this logic.
Since he's the one with the problem, why can't HE spend the holiday elsewhere?

ETS: I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. It sounds like an awful situation.

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Posted by 2003OCT10

... You know I love your Apple crisp...'

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Thought someone would get a kick outta that!!!

It works though, because you dont come off on the DEFENSIVE side, and they dont get OFFENDED! Again-- Good Luck!!

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go and ignore everybody

Honestly, I would just go. If you start getting annoyed by whatis going on or said I would just go over to FH and his family and cut the holiday time between the two families this way you spend it with both and nobody can say later on that you always do this or that. I hope that madse sense for you

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monkey i think you should sit right next to your brother and kill him with kindness and have your fh sit on the other side of him. omg he will freak

and i love your apple crisp i really do.