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Jen2999 Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

omg.. you are NOT over reacting.. I would be flipping out.

Me and FH were together almost 6 years before he propsoed and I was SUCH a big whiny baby ever time someone got engaged or pregnant or ANYTHING for the whole year before.
cjb88 Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)



i totally know how you feel...i felt like i was waiting forever too... especially since people i knew who were together for a lot less time than FI and I started to get engaged...i got super jelous!! turns out FI was just being really picky about ring shopping and had to wait a bit for the ring to be ordered and to come in... he was also waiting for a special day to give it to me... so looking back at it now, i understand what took him so long...but boy while i was waiting did i feel tortured too!!!

Shorty McBride Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

I think what's really bothering me is that my sister purposely did this now so that she could show off her ring at MY BIRTHDAY, when she knows thats all I want....she admitted that she got it early to show off to all our family tonight.
who does that?
kissy27 Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

I would be upset too but don't ever count the idea out that maybe FH has the ring & he wants to surprise you...I went through this with FH...He always told my family & I he was not ready to get engaged yet bc he needed to finish up grad school & needed to get things 'financially set' Whenever a special holiday would come, like our anniversary or Valentine's day, I thought it was coming & it didn't...I would get upset but always remembered that he loved me & it would come sooner then later...Sure enough on 4/10/04 he surprised the daylights out of me...He has the ring for the past month & started to have it custom made in January but I never knew it! so keep your head up, he might want it to be a surprise..

Now onto your sister, I can see how you are upset...I can't believe she thinks it is not an engagement ring bc it is too small! But be happy for her, this is an exciting time for her too! I know you are upset & all but remember you already had the proposal & the only thing missing is the diamond in your ring! So technically you are engaged & don't sweat it that your sister got a diamond first!

Kim51103 Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

OMG girl....ur being soo FAIR!!!!
I am sooo sorry u are going through that.....thats just not fair!!!
Talk to him....and tell him ur ready to get that ring.....talk up girl!!!!! Tell him that u want to start planning....and see his reaction...
Awww girl im soo sorry!!!
marymoon Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

OMG. I would totally be upset. I think your sister is being a little 'you know what' to show off her ring at YOUR party. She's probbaly just jealous and wants the spotlight too. i think you have every right to be upset. If I were in your situation I'd be pissed off, and I'd also want to know where my ring was.

But I wouldn't worry too much about not getting the ring, maybe FH is planning on getting you something similar but more expensive, or maybe he's planning on giving it to you for your anniversary, maybe he's planning a big surprise trip or party for that time. I'm sure there's a good reason why you haben't gotten it yet. And who knows, maybe teling your mom may was just a front. You may still get it tonight.

Hang in there
beautyq115 Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

So your sister is officially engaged???


I would be upset too..believe me. Maybe your fiance was telling his Mom that to throw you off???

Stefanie Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

I understand how you feel!! I don't think that you're being selfish OR catty. You deserve your ring!!

My best friend is going through the same thing. Her boyfriend (of 7 years) has not given a ring because of financial reasons and all of a sudden his sister gets engaged yesterday! They have only been dating for 2-3 years. She never worked a day in her life and her mother and father paid for everything. She is devistated! She knows that SHE should be the one getting the ring. Now it seems that this will 'light a fire' under her boyfriend's you know what to GET GOING already!!!

Don't worry...it will come soon!!
sarahthegreat Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

Posted by shorty the pumpkin

I think what's really bothering me is that my sister purposely did this now so that she could show off her ring at MY BIRTHDAY, when she knows thats all I want....she admitted that she got it early to show off to all our family tonight.
who does that?


who does that?? my older sisiter is the same way...she got engaged again to the same guy, (long story which is not at all relevant to this post) umm, so she got engaged last august and planned a wedding for this august, my wedding is aug 2006. she always has done this, she thinks because she is older, she's entitled to that. please don't feel bad about the whole situation. honestly, i don't think your sisters wedding will ever come about. i mean, 19 is far to young. where are they going to live? what do they do for a living, can they support themselves? not that i'm wanting your sister to fall on her face, i don't even know her. but do you think that she will get married?
sarahbelle Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

I would be SO pissed at my sister if she thought my birthday was a good time to show off her ring (and even more so if I was still waiting for one). I was a big fat baby before I got my ring. Don't worry - you are not catty. Waiting for a ring is totally stressful!

LuckyMe Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

If it makes you feel any better your not alone. I posted about this a few months back. My ring is literally sitting in a cabinet right next to me I still havent gotten it. We have been together 4years and 2kids. Actually it was given to me at his company christmas party, he handed it to me in the car as I was getting out and said here since you said you had no jewlery to wear I knew he just wanted me to wear it to show it off so I did and gave it right back when we got home and told him thanks that's the way I've always dreamt about being asked and broke down crying!! Needless to say he told me he would ask me the right way. He even made me think about a year ago that I was getting it at Disney by my favorite place(Cinderellas Castle, never happened). Before that I overheard him tell his bestfriend he was gonna ask me at a Yankee game on the scoreboard yeah well game came and went and nothing. So imagine how thrilled I was when it was given to me in a car and told because I had no jewelry. Men can be such peepee heads As you can see Im pissed and so should you be!!
Shorty McBride Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

So my party came and went last night, and still no . But everyone looooved my sister's! grrrr I'm bitter.
marymoon Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

When iswas your birthday? HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Hang in there.

Maybe you should have a serious talk w/ FH. I know I said yesterday to be patient, but I would really wonder why he's so hesitant to give you the ring. Either that or he has something really great planned. Best of Luck
Shorty McBride Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

Posted by marymoon

When iswas your birthday? HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

Hang in there.

Maybe you should have a serious talk w/ FH. I know I said yesterday to be patient, but I would really wonder why he's so hesitant to give you the ring. Either that or he has something really great planned. Best of Luck


it was yesterday... and thanks

I cried a little last night, I think he saw it...he said 'don't worry, it'll be your turn soon...'

lets just hope so.
marymoon Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

So he definite;y knows how you feel and the ball is in his court. I'm sure he has some great surprise planned

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
marymoon Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

I wantto ask you one more thing. Does your FH know that you don't consider yourself 'officially' engaged. Does he feel the same way? I know that long before i got my ring, we knew we were going to get married, but we both knew it wouldn't be official until he got down on one knee with the . Does he feel the same way or was the proposal on Thanksgiving THE ONE? I mean I'm really just wonderng. It sounds like thanksgiving was a real proposal. I don't think you need to hold off all of your wedding plans for the diamond ring. I know how important it is to you, but it's not everything.
VogueBride Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

I know how you feel....and im sorry. maybe...maybe...he has something planned and hes good at keeping secrets to surprise you!?!?!? i hope it works out..and if you feel comfortable talk to him about how you feel...it will work out!

DjPiLL Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

I'm waiting for a ring to actually start planning.





Geeez.... I am glad people these days still get married for the love and not for materialistics.
hmpena Posted:

Re: Please tell me if I'm being catty and selfish and jealous and everything else that no one wants to be... (long, sorry)

I can understand you being upset about your sister. I would be upset if my sister did this to me.

I also understand that you are upset with your FI. But try not to be. Hopefully he is planning something wonderful and wants to surprise you. He knows how you feel and is hopefully waiting for the right time so that it is special. I was upset with my FI because I was sure that he was going to to propose when we went away for our anniversary to Vermont. Needless to say I was upset when I didn't get the ring. I got over it and kept telling myself that he was going to do it when I least expected it. Sure enough, a few weeks later, he caught me off guard and proposed. It was much more special than I could have ever hoped for. So your time will come! Just think, you already know that you are getting married and you have found a wonderful man. Try to be happy with that for now. You'll have the ring soon!

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