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posted by mrswask

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All I know is almost 19 years later (eek) I still remember my favorite Bat Mitzvah present was from one of my mom's friends - she gave me a Benetton bear and a gift cert to Benetton. At that age, the $$ didn't mean anything to me because it just went into an account!

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Exactly! the money will go into an account --my parents deposited all the money i received from my baptism and communion and i am so grateful --i think this is a much better than giving some random gift.

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posted by reallybehind!

thanks, was that really necessary? $200 for a communion? i think that's nuts. for a wedding maybe, but a communion? an 8 year old getting $200? seems excessive to me, but whatever....

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i think you should cover your plate --i highly doubt they are paying $25/person.

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Posted by suebride

posted by mrswask

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All I know is almost 19 years later (eek) I still remember my favorite Bat Mitzvah present was from one of my mom's friends - she gave me a Benetton bear and a gift cert to Benetton. At that age, the $$ didn't mean anything to me because it just went into an account!

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Exactly! the money will go into an account --my parents deposited all the money i received from my baptism and communion and i am so grateful --i think this is a much better than giving some random gift.

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My point was - don't make it a random gift - put some thought into it. I think it would be nice for him to receive some things that he can appreciate NOW.

mrswask--
He is 8 years old! what would an 8 year old appreciate??????? a toy that he will get tired of in 2 weeks? i totally disagree --i think money is a better gift --his parents can put it away for him.

looking back --would you now rather have the money or your Benetton bear? just curious.

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Posted by suebride

mrswask--
He is 8 years old! what would an 8 year old appreciate??????? a toy that he will get tired of in 2 weeks? i totally disagree --i think money is a better gift --his parents can put it away for him.

looking back --would you now rather have the money or your Benetton bear? just curious.

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You know what - as a 13 year old - I appreciated the Benetton bear and being that I remember that 19 years later and not money amounts - I guess there's your answer. I don't know what an 8 year old would appreciate - I am not an 8 year old boy. I made a suggestion - she was looking for ideas. You have the right to totally disagree, but you really have no reason to be so antagonistic about it - it's a post about a PRESENT!!!

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Posted by suebride

mrswask--
He is 8 years old! what would an 8 year old appreciate??????? a toy that he will get tired of in 2 weeks? i totally disagree --i think money is a better gift --his parents can put it away for him.

looking back --would you now rather have the money or your Benetton bear? just curious.

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please!!!!!!!! i never saw any of my communion money!!! and the way prices of houses are going up on Long Island neither will these children!

Mrswask is giving an honest opinion!!!

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Posted by suebride

i am not being antagonistic --and how do you know that the child will never see the money?

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we dont know- i am sharing an opinion and thats all it is!!!

Reread your post - you definitely sound antagonistic.
I appreciated that someone took the time to think of me, my interests, my likes, and bought me something that I appreciated. That's why that person stood out - she was the only one who did that.

If he is going to get a check at some point and see this money - more power to him. I'm sure if you took a poll there were very few of us who were ever presented with a check or 'saw the money' from a Bat Mitzvah, Communion, Confirmation, etc

$150-200???? wow, you guys must be much wealthier than me!! last year my cousin had her daughter's communion party at the Millerridge Inn and received on average, between 50-75 per couple. a few of the older aunts and uncles gave $100 and my cousin felt AWFUL. she had the party at a hall b/c she came into some money and not b/c she wanted her kid to receive such big gifts.

i would give a bond, so that it's in the kids name.

cover your plate at a communion party? what has this world come to?

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Posted by suebride

mrswask & kdelace --i was just sharing my opinion as well --i believe that $50 from two people is on the low side. i think you should cover your plate.

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cover your plate!!!!!!!!! its a COMMUNION!!!!!!!!!!!!! you give what you can- the parents chose that place to have it- guests give what they can, not $$ to cover their plate.. that is ridiculous

kdelace --
what is your deal? am i not entitled to my opinion? yes, i cover my plate -- whether i am going to a communion, baptism or wedding!

kdelace, i completely agree!! covering your plate at a communion? that seems completely absurd to me...then again, i'm not part of the upper class, so maybe that's why i'm so shocked.

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Posted by suebride

kdelace --
what is your deal? am i not entitled to my opinion? yes, i cover my plate -- whether i am going to a communion, baptism or wedding!

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what do you mean what is my deal?
people shouldnt have to feel pressure to 'cover their plate'... whether its a communion, wedding.... you give what you can.. and the Watermill... that isnt a cheap place!!!

I would never try to cover my plate for a communion gift. It's not a wedding. The parents are not going to keep the money for themselves. You are giving money to the 7 year old, not their parents. I can tell you that for Kiera's christening, most of the gifts were between $50-100. Most couples gave between $75-100. We had some people that gave a lot more but that was the average.

I think that is fine for a communion as well. I also think a bond is a great idea. The kid will appreciate it later in life.