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As a single person I give $100. If I am with a guest, I give $150. If I am RELATED and going as a couple, I give $200. If I am loaded, I give my left arm.
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Posted by Goldi1021
As a single person I give $100. If I am with a guest, I give $150. If I am RELATED and going as a couple, I give $200. If I am loaded, I give my left arm.
That sounds reasonable to me. I haven't been to a Bat Mitzvah in years, and never without my parents!
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I'd probbaly give a savings bond. Maybe a $250 bond ($125)
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The savings bond is a GREAT idea- I would just adjust the amount depending on whether you are going alone or as a couple and what your financial situation is.
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I just cashed my Bat Mitzvah bonds a few years ago. LOL.
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right..the savings bond is great, because it matures in 7 years I think..when they're 20, which is usually when people are starting to branch out on their own, either for college, or a place to live after. I know FH is going to put his bar mitzvah savings bonds toward the wedding..so they come in handy. it's also better because then they can't spend it foolishly. I'm a big fan of savings bonds...ALSO...in F's family he got a LOT of cash, and his dad took it all from him to pay for the party!!!!!![]()
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thanx for the feedback girls!
i'll ask my mom what she thinks about a savings bond (sounds like a good idea)
i'll ask my mom what she thinks about a savings bond (sounds like a good idea)
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If I remember correctly, there is a tradition of giving a monetary gift that is dividable by 8... There is definately a tradition with a number and I think it is 8 but I am not sure.
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If you give money, it should be in multiples of 18. the 1st letter and 8th letter in the Hebrew alphabet mean life. It is customary to give bar/bat mitzvah gifts in multiples of 18.
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hope that helps
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Posted by shamrock12472
If I remember correctly, there is a tradition of giving a monetary gift that is dividable by 8... There is definately a tradition with a number and I think it is 8 but I am not sure.
It is actually a number that is a MULTIPLE of 18. Traditional Jewish people, namely the Orthodox, give multiples of 18 as a gift and it is acceptable as well as meaningful. $36 or 'double chai' is appropriate for a child guest to give to his or her friend who became a Bar or Bat Mitzvah. Adults generally give more. Conservative and Reform (not REFORMED - OY - sorry but this drives me NUTS) don't always follow that tradition.
Just a little FYI :
The number 18 is 'chai' which is a combination of two hebrew letters 'hey' and 'yud'. Hebrew numbers are comprised of Hebrew letters. The two letters together look like a little horse. The symbol is often worn around the neck as a piece of jewelry (much like a star of David) and symbolizes good luck. It is part of the phrase 'l'chayim' which means 'to life'. It is also parts of the Hebrew names Chaya and Chaim - names that are often given to children or adults who are quite ill as a blessing. My father, who had no middle name in Hebrew or in English, had been given a middle name of Chaim as a blessing from a Rabbi. It helped.
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Where is it? If you're really close and it's at a nice place, it's the same as a wedding. 3 of my cousins have had bar/bat mitzvahs in the last few years, each at the Garden City Hotel. Gifts were checks. Although the savings bond is a nice idea in theory, nobody really likes getting a gift that they have to wait 7 years to cash. If you give them a check the parents can put it in a higher yield account to save for college.
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Posted by Goldi1021
Posted by shamrock12472
If I remember correctly, there is a tradition of giving a monetary gift that is dividable by 8... There is definately a tradition with a number and I think it is 8 but I am not sure.
It is actually a number that is a MULTIPLE of 18. Traditional Jewish people, namely the Orthodox, give multiples of 18 as a gift and it is acceptable as well as meaningful. $36 or 'double chai' is appropriate for a child guest to give to his or her friend who became a Bar or Bat Mitzvah. Adults generally give more. Conservative and Reform (not REFORMED - OY - sorry but this drives me NUTS) don't always follow that tradition.
Just a little FYI :
The number 18 is 'chai' which is a combination of two hebrew letters 'hey' and 'yud'. Hebrew numbers are comprised of Hebrew letters. The two letters together look like a little horse. The symbol is often worn around the neck as a piece of jewelry (much like a star of David) and symbolizes good luck. It is part of the phrase 'l'chayim' which means 'to life'. It is also parts of the Hebrew names Chaya and Chaim - names that are often given to children or adults who are quite ill as a blessing. My father, who had no middle name in Hebrew or in English, had been given a middle name of Chaim as a blessing from a Rabbi. It helped.![]()
You know, I never thought of the chai as looking like a horse! However, I realized one day, while looking at a chai backward that it spells 'yuch'! I always find that amusing.
We often try to give multiples of 18 as gifts, or instead of $100, we'll give $118, just to add on chai!
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Posted by Jax430
You know, I never thought of the chai as looking like a horse! However, I realized one day, while looking at a chai backward that it spells 'yuch'! I always find that amusing.
We often try to give multiples of 18 as gifts, or instead of $100, we'll give $118, just to add on chai!
People who aren't familiar with the symbol often ask me why I am wearing a little horse. I do like the idea of adding chai.
