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Re: FMIL VENT!!! (Repost from '06 Brides)
Sorry, she's wrong. She should have asked you what you wanted/where you wanted it. IMO, that's just plain RUDE what she did!
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Re: FMIL VENT!!! (Repost from '06 Brides)
you have every right to be upset . She sould of at VERY LEAST asked you about it!!!! I have the same problem with my FMIL i finally made Fh tell her how it is and is going to be that she dose not run the show, you have to say something now before it gets out of control TRUST ME!!!!! Good luck!
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Re: FMIL VENT!!! (Repost from '06 Brides)
My in-laws paid for the Engagement party and Rehearsal dinner BUT they asked us where we wanted it before booking anything. I went around looking for places for the RD and got prices then I sat with them and we went through it.
Maybe if you mention, 'Oh I was thinking of having the RD here, what do you think?' something like that. Mention that you want to be involved in choosing a site for both parties.
Where is FH in all of this, does he see how it annoys you?![]()
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Maybe if you mention, 'Oh I was thinking of having the RD here, what do you think?' something like that. Mention that you want to be involved in choosing a site for both parties.
Where is FH in all of this, does he see how it annoys you?
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Re: FMIL VENT!!! (Repost from '06 Brides)
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Re: FMIL VENT!!! (Repost from '06 Brides)
Personally, if someone else wanted to completely pay for and plan the engagement party or the RD, I would have been very happy about it - it would have been less work for me!
As it turned out, my sister had an E-party in her backyard for us, which she pretty much planned herself (asked me about a theme - we did a Luau theme) and I planned the RD myself and we paid for it.
As it turned out, my sister had an E-party in her backyard for us, which she pretty much planned herself (asked me about a theme - we did a Luau theme) and I planned the RD myself and we paid for it.
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Re: FMIL VENT!!! (Repost from '06 Brides)
You hae a right to be upset, but not very. If she was given the permission to plan and pay - I would be happy that I have one less thing to worry about planning-wise and monetarily! She is paying and should consider telling you things, but JMO: she has a right to 'surprise' you w/everything.
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Re: FMIL VENT!!! (Repost from '06 Brides)
I would be kind of peeved also... but i can also see it from her side... she probably thinks since she is throwing those things for you guys, she gets to plan them... I would tell her that you would like to be a part of the planning process to those events...
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Re: FMIL VENT!!! (Repost from '06 Brides)
Like I said on the 06 board, she should have asked you. While FH and I are pretty indifferent about that, FMIL has been really good at telling us what her ideas are.
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Re: FMIL VENT!!! (Repost from '06 Brides)
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FH doesn't want to get in the middle of us and I kind of understand but it's hard not to get upset at times. FH told his mom she upset me and she emailed me to apologize but still continues with the plans.Hopefully when we talk later this week we can settle this!!
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I hope you're able to settle this but to answer your previous question... I would be annoyed as well
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Re: FMIL VENT!!! (Repost from '06 Brides)
You definately have cause to be upset. However, remember that this is only one day (well three days in your case) ![]()
and I wouldn't start a war which is definately trouble to come.
I think its great that she is doing that for you, however, she should definately ask for your opinion and what you thought. Perhaps you can talk to her, politely, woman to woman, letting her now just how much you appreciate all that she is doing, but since this IS all about you and FH, you would really like to be involved in the final decision making. IF she is a reasonable person, she would understand.
I think its great that she is doing that for you, however, she should definately ask for your opinion and what you thought. Perhaps you can talk to her, politely, woman to woman, letting her now just how much you appreciate all that she is doing, but since this IS all about you and FH, you would really like to be involved in the final decision making. IF she is a reasonable person, she would understand.
