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carlsbride Posted: Aug 31, 2005 03:15 PM

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hocus Posted: Aug 31, 2005 03:19 PM

Re: Anyone else have a mother who doesn't live here so doing the planning w/o her?

I am not an 06er but I have a similar situation. I live in New York and my mother lives in Baltimore.

I've done that majority of the planning myself -- which is good and bad. My mother was very exciting in the beginning, but her interest waned as the planning continued. In the end she left most of the tasks to me. Some of the things she was supposed to do, it took over because it was easier than getting on her case about them.

EmberLynn Posted: Aug 31, 2005 03:21 PM

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Mine lives two blocks from me, and she doesn't want to be bothered. She didn't even want to come to my E-party. She felt it was a waste of time!

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Aug 31, 2005 03:21 PM

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I live in MD, my parents live in MA and my FILs in NY. So we've been doing most of the planning on our own. FMIL helps, and it is easy for her since she lives in the state we're getting married. But I'm not that close to my mom, so I don't mind. I'm actually closer to FMIL. My mom did come in and help with the florist, though. To her, flowers are the most important part.

stephanief Posted: Aug 31, 2005 03:56 PM

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Posted by carlsbride

My mom lives in NC along with the rest of my immediate family. My FIL's are very excited about the wedding and want to help, but it is not the same. I try to include my mom as much as possible by sending her photos of everything and asking her opinion about stuff, but it is just not the same. FI is very involved with planning so that is great. My FSIL and FMIL are very familiar with weddings on LI and so they offer a lot of opinions, but they are overwhelming to me sometimes.
Just wondering if anyone else was doing this on their own w/o a sister or mom close by, and what they were doing to try and include them in the planning??

Hi, I live in NC but my whole family is in LI. My sister is helping me with the planning. She went to check out the hall for me and went to the tasting

I email my mom and my sister daily to ask them what they think of certain things so they definitely feel involved

Blu-ize Posted: Aug 31, 2005 04:19 PM

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My parents live in AZ and the planning was done here. It wasn't difficult and I called her everyday, but I really missed her not being here.

jens Posted: Aug 31, 2005 04:25 PM

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My mom lives in Florida, and the rest of my family lives about 2 hours away (4-5 hours from my wedding). I've decided its nice to have FI and I planning away. I send my mom & sister (MOH) pics/links thoughts everyday.
Thank God for email!

iffer042373 Posted: Aug 31, 2005 04:25 PM

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I live in NY my mom lives in PA I try to get her involved as much as possible. Its hard with her being there and me being here like I want her to be there and help me pick out my veil and tiara so I think she is coming to NY in October so I think I will go and look then there are jsut thing that I want her opinion on that I dont' want anyone else to help me with

Nadia Posted: Aug 31, 2005 05:22 PM

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My mom lives outside of u.s. So basicly I don't have family here and his family ( live in NY) doesn't care at all. and I don't familiar with u.s. wedding.
So we are the one who plan the wedding and pay for the whole thing. I wish my mom and my family is here.

sarahbelle Posted: Aug 31, 2005 05:30 PM

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I am definitely in the same boat. My mom is in SC. I try to send her pictures, but her computer is so slow that I stopped. I did mail her some pictures of me in my gown. Other than that, she asks about the wedding when I speak to her on the weekend, but there is only so much you can share long distance.

soontobemrsv Posted: Aug 31, 2005 05:35 PM

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i am in the exact same boat. my parents live in florida and the rest of my family lives in minnesota. i have my younger sister here in ny but she has her own hectic life to deal with. i am constantly emailing ideas and pictures to my mom, she gets really upset because she is not here to help me and plan together, but we talk very often and always emailing each other. i just wish i had my mommy here to plan my wedding with me..

THANK GOD FOR EMAIL....lol

SIBride06 Posted: Aug 31, 2005 05:42 PM

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Well.. my mom lives in Medford (LI) and I live on Staten Island. My situation is not as bad as some of you, whose moms live out of the state (or even out of the country!) I only get to see my mom like once a month.. its hard planning without her, but shes great with the internet, so we interact on a daily basis. Its not as bad as it could be, however, I wish she was here to help me do the little things.

akaMrsT Posted: Aug 31, 2005 06:14 PM

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My mom is in VA so I don't do much planning with her. I did go to try on dresses with her in VA (with my MOH's - sister & best friend). They are all in VA. I have one MOH here in NY and tried on dresses with her too - with mom on the phone

I am not really planning with anyone though and I prefer it that way. I shared some of my ideas with them all via e-mail but the only opinions I requested were for the bridal party dresses. My mom asked what I want her to wear but I told her to pick whatever she wants so long as it's not white or ivory (which photographs white)

Love_my_Freddybear Posted: Aug 31, 2005 08:59 PM

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Nope live with mamma dukes and she is a pain in my butt!!

kmkelly Posted: Aug 31, 2005 09:24 PM

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My mom is in Florida - I've done most of the planning with my FH, but dress shopping without my mom makes me a little sad.....

nickipa Posted: Aug 31, 2005 10:41 PM

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I live here on LI and my mom and sisters are upstate in Buffalo. Its been hard with the whole dress shopping thing. Friends and my FH sisters/mom have offered to go with me, but I want my mom to be the one who goes with me the first time, so we are going to meet half way to make it easier on both of us!! but email and the internet definetly help....i have sent her so many websites and ideas..its really made a big difference!

MsKitty1274 Posted: Sep 01, 2005 09:01 AM

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Me! My mom and step-dad live in Illinois and my dad and step-mom live in S. Carolina and it STINKS!!! I had to email my mom pics of my first dress try-on My FMIL just doesn't seem into the wedding, which is fine with me, I don't expect everyone to be into MY wedding like I am. But she never asks about anything. When I asked her to come to see the dress I picked out and to see the BM dresses (along w/ my mom and the girls) all she said was 'What about dresses for me?' Hi, that was this past April. Anyway, it's tough w/o my mom here, and I am so thankful for this site and you ladies!!!

-Jill

NPTbride Posted: Sep 03, 2005 07:41 AM

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Me! My family lives in southern New Jersey (outside of Philadelphia). I send them a lot of pictures but it is really hard. Especially the dress shopping. I wish they could be here to be part of my wedding planning experience.

CTarantino Posted: Sep 03, 2005 07:52 AM

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I read the topic of this post and was so happy to read others feel the same way I do...My Mom lives in Florida. It has been really hard on me and I feel like I am the only one who is going through this..until I read the other posts. It su..cks and I get really upset since FH is not into wedding planning, FMIL does not ask or wants to be bothered, in fact the Future in-laws asked if they had to attend the rehersal dinner and stay the whole time at the wedding. Sometime I feel we just should have eloped and went off cause I didn't want my wedding to bother so many people...My mom and I were not speaking to each other for a few weeks since when the BP/Shower weekend was planned is not good due to her husband's B-day. I cried for days with everyone complaining and bit c hing.
Sorry about the vent. I happy to see people doing it alone too. I have no sisters or close relatives to do this with and now I don't feel so alone. Thanks for the post!!!!!!!!