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Re: Can I ask my dad not to drink at the wedding?
maybe give him a limit, or give him a time for when he can start drinking like after your first dance with him
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that is a hard one...What if you tell your dad that you are limiting liquor intake to guests? I dont know what else you could do but lie or suck it up
My mom is like that-2 good drinks and she is done...she WILL NOT be drinking but she knows she is an *** when she drinks, so it makes that situation easier to deal with for me.
Do what feels right to you...if you feel he will embarrass you tell him and talk to him
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My mom is like that-2 good drinks and she is done...she WILL NOT be drinking but she knows she is an *** when she drinks, so it makes that situation easier to deal with for me.
Do what feels right to you...if you feel he will embarrass you tell him and talk to him
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Maybe you could just talk to him one on one. Maybe take him out to lunch and tell him how you feel about the things that he says when he's drinking. Maybe then he will limit himself without you asking him to.
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I wish I knew the right answer for you. We have an issue because my FMIL is an alcoholic. We are purposely having an afternoon wedding so there will be fewer people (we hope) getting insanely drunk.
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Do you have a good relationship with your dad? I would talk to him, just bring up the last two stuff that happened with liquor involved. If the conversation starts going bad then avoid topic. If he is listening and understanding I would let him know.
Good luck this is a hard one.
Maybe tell the bartender to cut him off.
Good luck this is a hard one.
Maybe tell the bartender to cut him off.
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maybe ask the bartenders to water down his drinks?
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Posted by SummerBride06
maybe ask the bartenders to water down his drinks?
This sounds like a good idea IMO
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Posted by SummerBride06
maybe ask the bartenders to water down his drinks?
OOOhhhhh... I love this idea! Thank you for the excellent suggestion.
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Maybe keep him busy with tasks....Dad, can you check on this or can you do that
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I think what you need to do is invite him over to your place. Give him a bunch of drinks and videotape him. Then at a later, sober date, show him the tape. I'm being totally serious. Maybe he really doesn't realize what he is like when he's drunk. But you can also say that you and FH are not going to drink that night because after spending so much money, you want to be able to remember every moment of it, and maybe that perspective will appeal to him. I'm so sorry you even have to worry about this!
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Why don't you say.... Dad me and FI have been thinking that this is a once in a life time moment and plan on not really drinking at the wedding and where hopeing that the parents would do the same, we really want everyone to truly remember this special time.
This way your not putting it all on him! Good Luck
This way your not putting it all on him! Good Luck
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I honestly don't think you can say anything to him, especially given the fact that he's paying for part of your wedding. Maybe you could designate a member of your family to 'take care' of him. My brother did this for my mom and my dad (they are divorced and sat in separate tables across from each other)...he made sure my mom didn't eat cheese (silly, I know but she's intolerant and still eats it ![]()
) and my dad didn't drink too much. My brother had an arrangement with the bartender...it honestly worked out great and both my parents had an awesome time at the wedding. Yeah, it's babysitting a parent, but oh well. ![]()
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Posted by SummerBride06
maybe ask the bartenders to water down his drinks?
I was thinking the same exact thing!
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I think maybe you should talk to your dad about it, but not put him on the spot. The 2 of you should go to lunch and have a serious, but casual convo about this and see what he says.
the watering down of the drinks sounds good too....
the watering down of the drinks sounds good too....
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Will he drink O-Douls? Maybe you can say you made sure the venue has it on hand for people that want to alternate with something non-alcoholic.
It's a sticky subject, but I can understand your anxiety. I would also ask one of his close relatives to be on watch for him. Someone who can casually say, 'how bout slowing down so you remember the night?' type of thing.
Good luck!
It's a sticky subject, but I can understand your anxiety. I would also ask one of his close relatives to be on watch for him. Someone who can casually say, 'how bout slowing down so you remember the night?' type of thing.
Good luck!
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You can of course ask him not to drink, but it doesn't really sound like that will get you anywhere.
I suggest a contingency plan. Someone to escort him outside when he starts getting loud (unless he is the type that will take a swing at whoever is trying to get him outside, because of course he is not going to miss any of his little girl's wedding). Making sure the videographer knows not to film him after he has had a few (this way you won't be reminded over and over). Watering down the drinks (both with bartender and wait staff), and talking to your maitre d' about the wait staff being extra slow whenever he orders a drink. Assigning him specific tasks that will keep him away from the bar.
Of course, you could chalk it up to being the thing that will 'go wrong' at the wedding and just decide you are going to ignore and/or overlook it, and enjoy the heck out of your day.
I suggest a contingency plan. Someone to escort him outside when he starts getting loud (unless he is the type that will take a swing at whoever is trying to get him outside, because of course he is not going to miss any of his little girl's wedding). Making sure the videographer knows not to film him after he has had a few (this way you won't be reminded over and over). Watering down the drinks (both with bartender and wait staff), and talking to your maitre d' about the wait staff being extra slow whenever he orders a drink. Assigning him specific tasks that will keep him away from the bar.
Of course, you could chalk it up to being the thing that will 'go wrong' at the wedding and just decide you are going to ignore and/or overlook it, and enjoy the heck out of your day.
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$$$ or not, you CAN ask him not to drink. He is giving you $ for your wedding, not [aying for the right to make you or your family look bad.
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I think if your father paid 20k towards your wedding, you DO NOT have any right to tell him anything. If you paid for your wedding then I would say yes but he paid a huge amount of money so that's JMO
