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kbeana24 Posted: Dec 09, 2006 04:45 PM

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Autumn08 Posted: Dec 09, 2006 04:55 PM

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I wouldn't do it tit for tat. Give what you truly feel is a fair gift. Technically etiquette says you do not have to give a gift although it is a nice gesture.

libby2595 Posted: Dec 09, 2006 05:05 PM

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have they registered, yet??

maybe you can get them something off their registry.

i'm in a similar situation. it $ucks

hayleyandsteve Posted: Dec 09, 2006 05:09 PM

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I honestly don't remember who didn't give us a gift for our engagement party....

The gifts didn't really matter to me... I was happy that everyone came and celebrated with us.

That being said, personally, I would give them the same gift regardless of whether or not they gave me a gift at our engagement party.

JMO!

Edited for spelling.

luvabul Posted: Dec 09, 2006 05:21 PM

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thats awful! ... 20 bux, u can barely go out to a dinner with that money

and yes i KNOW ITS NOT ABOUT THE MONEY!! - but if someone is financially well well off, its just appropriate to atleast give more than 20 bux, anyways, i would give them 40$ double what you gave.. .. JMO ..

daniebc16 Posted: Dec 09, 2006 07:33 PM

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I would just get them something nice that doesn't cost a lot of money...go their registry...

PegaLega Posted: Dec 09, 2006 08:19 PM

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Im a jerk, and I agree its not about the money-but thats just sad for someone who is now having a bigger party. Thats how I feel. I would maybe get them something small off their registry, thats me though!

Renee615 Posted: Dec 09, 2006 08:23 PM

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JMO, but I would give them exactly what they gave you..a $20 gift card.

drpepper318 Posted: Dec 09, 2006 08:31 PM

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I wouldn't get them anything too great since they were cheap with you.. just something small off their registry.

MimiMcG Posted: Dec 09, 2006 08:50 PM

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20 bucks!!!! that is sooooo rude!!!! ugh!!!

Ok, I know that some people may not agree with me, but this is something that really P*ssed me off!!! I know that 'etiquette' says that a gift is not necessary, but common sense and basic human decency says that if you are invited to an engagement party and especially if you are financially well you, should give a gift! Now, that gift should really be cash. I'm sorry, but engagement parties are usually given for the families to meet, and to help the future newly weds out a bit. I have gone to engagement parties, and I give a very generous cash gift. I reserve the gift gifts for the bridal shower, and the wedding I give cash. I was so shocked when some people gave us stuff that we did not even registered for... A clock, and glasses??? I don't know, but I was like, gee what if this stuff does not go with my decor. JMO

Any way, yes a cheap gift of 20 bucks is rude, but you should do the right thing, and give a gift that you yourself would like. That way you are the bigger person, and believe me, they will get the message....

snydl40 Posted: Dec 09, 2006 09:34 PM

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See I would give $50 and make them feel cheap.

LaurenF Posted: Dec 09, 2006 09:38 PM

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Posted by Renee615

JMO, but I would give them exactly what they gave you..a $20 gift card.

agreed 100%. or spend $20 on a gift off their registry. i would feel differently if they were not well-off financially, but if they had no problem showing up to your e-party with a $20 gift card, then you shouldn't be embarrassed to do the same thing.

MrsBrags7706 Posted: Dec 09, 2006 10:57 PM

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I'd give them $20 right back!
Im sorry, but its called recirpricating!

We did pretty good for our engagement party, considering it was less than 50 people. . . or about 50 people. However, at our wedding, Mine was at Villa Lombardi's, we had so many extra things there, a full venise, and my parents paid A REALLL LOT of $ per plate, and a couple gave us a gift that i didnr think was good at all, considering i have her wedding next yr. . . me and my Dh are like, 'well no, that amount is not right to give for a nice place, but we're recepricating!' and Im not argueing with the mR!

give thwm $20! ur married now! go buy urself something...start splurging ;o)

Danacm80 Posted: Dec 10, 2006 12:52 AM

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I'd give the same gift back.

nycgirl79 Posted: Dec 10, 2006 02:29 AM

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Posted by snydl40

See I would give $50 and make them feel cheap.

I totally agree. Give them more than they gave you, but not as much as you would normally give. I know I sound super childish and petty, but really, $20??! I don't think so. We had friends who are not well off at all give us more than that! I know that it's the thought that counts, but who from NY goes to an e-party and brings $20?

Mikeysgirl Posted: Dec 10, 2006 11:12 AM

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I would give them $20. If they felt it was ok ot give $20 then they probably think its ok to receive $20.

Meaghan729 Posted: Dec 10, 2006 11:17 AM

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how do you know that they are well off? have you seen their bank statements?

i know so many people that appear well off, but in reality they have no $ in the bank bc they spend it all (and then some)....

so with that being said - I would just go to the mikasa or pottery barn outlet and buy them a nice gift (martini glass set or a nice picture frame) that isnt $$$$.

mrsh2b Posted: Dec 10, 2006 11:24 AM

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Posted by Mikeysgirl

I would give them $20. If they felt it was ok ot give $20 then they probably think its ok to receive $20.

I agree.

DavaDay Posted: Dec 10, 2006 11:31 AM

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Etiquette says that engagement party gifts aren't necessary, and that only family and a few closest friends are expected to bring anything at all. Maybe it's different in NY than in the rest of the country, I don't know. The E-Party is just a chance for the families to meet, and an excuse for a fun party a year before the wedding. But the point is, since the gift is optional anyway, give or don't give them anything you want, and don't feel guilty about it.