XOXO

I'd suggest talking to your parents in person. Both of your parents, and not your FH. This is how we did it because neither of us really wanted to be put in an awkward position. I would lay it on the table and say what you've been saying here--that you'd appreciate some help before the wedding, if they could provide it and explain why it needs to be before the wedding. I think you should talk to your mom at the same time, because it could just be your dad being clueless, offering you the money ahead of time.

And, although you sound like you really do know this, keep in your mind when you meet with your parents that they aren't obligated to help you with expenses, it would just be REALLY nice. (I know they promised, but if they reneg on that, going in with a good attitude can minimize hurt on both ends...)

Good luck, hopefully it can be cleared up with an honest, face to face conversation. I think a lot of people have parents who were vague on how much the contributions would be and when they would come. Sitting down and getting it all out there will hopefully help both you and your parents.

im sooo sorry jenise!!!!!!!

here are some

i don't know any adivce i could give you that would help in your situation. i am sorry. but hang in there and i hope everything works out for you!!!!!

can you think of anything that could have taken place that would have caused this change in plans for them? it seems strange only b/c they sound like they said several times how they planned on helping...i'm sorry

sorry to hear that. hope everything works out.

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Posted by bella1028

can you think of anything that could have taken place that would have caused this change in plans for them? it seems strange only b/c they sound like they said several times how they planned on helping...i'm sorry

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That's what I was wondering... or is any reason why they might not seem interested in the wedding planning or might not want to participate? I really think you should talk to them in person about this.

I'm so sorry date twin!

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Posted by ILOVEBRIAN2008


if i flat out ask for it, they will get mad and not give anything..yeah it s ucks but thats why i have to ask in the nicest way possible

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Posted by AMGBride2008

I think that maybe if you word it differently... ask them if they are able to help you out with some of the pre-wedding expenses... just flat out ask if they can give you money... don't ask if they know what they'll be able to give you... KWIM?

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my parents can be a bit crazy and if i flat out ask for it, they will get mad and not give anything..yeah it s ucks but thats why i have to ask in the nicest way possible

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i understand...you may have mentioned this...but do your parents know how involved FH's parents are? have they mentioned it?

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Posted by hyphenbride

I'd suggest talking to your parents in person. Both of your parents, and not your FH. This is how we did it because neither of us really wanted to be put in an awkward position. I would lay it on the table and say what you've been saying here--that you'd appreciate some help before the wedding, if they could provide it and explain why it needs to be before the wedding. I think you should talk to your mom at the same time, because it could just be your dad being clueless, offering you the money ahead of time.

And, although you sound like you really do know this, keep in your mind when you meet with your parents that they aren't obligated to help you with expenses, it would just be REALLY nice. (I know they promised, but if they reneg on that, going in with a good attitude can minimize hurt on both ends...)

Good luck, hopefully it can be cleared up with an honest, face to face conversation. I think a lot of people have parents who were vague on how much the contributions would be and when they would come. Sitting down and getting it all out there will hopefully help both you and your parents.

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Jenise i think this is really good advice, it's actually what i was thinking. i think a little family pow wow would be a good idea

good luck sweetie, i hope everything works out!

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Posted by cbcf

im sooo sorry jenise!!!!!!!

here are some

i don't know any adivce i could give you that would help in your situation. i am sorry. but hang in there and i hope everything works out for you!!!!!

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Ditto on all of that....



I am so sorry.

Please let me know if I can do anything....even just help you de-stress....

i agree to what was said above Jenise. I think trying to talk to them in person will work best. be honest and sweet about it.. Also i would bring up how you feel (that they always talked about being part of your wedding and helping to pay for the wedding and you feel like they arent that into it.) show your emotion and how it is making you feel. like someone else said - they are not obligated to pay but it would be really nice for them to help out.

GL hun, i know this is a tough situation to be it

I am so sorry Jenise. I read through every ones responses and I have to say, maybe just ask your mom to be more involved in planning,, not so much the money part of it. But more about details and fun things. Maybe then she will see how much it means to have them a part of this day!

Hi Month Twins!

Yeah talk to them in person. I had to talk to my mom because she was exhibiting the same behavior. I found that she felt bad because although it appears that she could help, she has all kinds of bills and is almost in debt.

So she decided to just not be involved because she felt bad. In the beginning, she came w/ me to pick out my dress and asked for our website. But now that the big bills are rolling in, she really needs to pay her own.
Your parents maybe in a better situation and just may not understand-that's why I think to lay it out would be great...If not, then loans may be the answer...But first, I suggest talking.