A very good friend of mine as well as my DH are tall and thin. I could never understand how being called 'skinny' would hurt or be an insult until I met them. To me, being told I look skinny is the ultimate compliment.
It was so completely enlightening to hear their side!
Growing up, I was teased endlessly about my boobs...I was an early developer. It's tough wearing a bra in elementary school
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Yeah I used to be real skinny and now the laugh is on them. I think people do think when they say you are so skinny blah blah that it doesn't hurt.
For example my niece dad missed my wedding and my mom was showing him the pictures. He has not seen me in a while and since I have gained 20 pounds He goes 'oh my god I can't believe this is Neva she used to be a string'
I really think some how people think I would hear that and say 'thanks, i have always aimed for that look'
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People are just rude. People teased me all the time saying that I was a man. It ****ed, *******s. Cant help it if I was built broad.
You learn to let things roll after a while
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jennbaby
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you are so right beachbride. Does your FH know she does this? If he doesn't let him know it hurts you. She seems jealous that she is overweight. So many people who comment to me are overweight in some shape or form and you know what? They need to shape up before they talk to me! As for boobs I was blessed with larger ones but even if I wasn't, I am me, God made me the way I am, and for others to comment, they are rude, jealous and or/classless people.
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The weight comment (whether you are too fat or too thin) is definitely hypocritical. Overweight women do not like people commenting on their fatness (in fact it is quite offensive) SO why is it OK to say to someone 'wow you are too thin'?????
jennbaby
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stacedz you hit it right on the head EXACTLY!! Why can't people realize this? I say no class!
Ronnie&Theresa
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Lets see..
I get is your hair real all the time. I said No I wear a wig..
All the time they ask 'Are they real' .. Well what nerve... Even if you think they aren't would you dare ask a stranger.
Are you in Porno?
You look like you will Tip...
You know I never let people walk all over me..
I have been asked to leave stores bc I have told the people off in such a manner!
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Back-handed compliments. My favorite. I used to be very skinny when I was a little younger. People used to ask friends/family members if I had an eating disorder becuase I ate like a pig and looked like a twig. When I started to gain weight people started saying to my face 'You look so much better. Healthier. Before you looked so unhealthy and anorexic.' Gee, thanks.
I also hate when people ask me if my greenish/blue eyes or my curls are 'real.' Clear contacts, no perm.
I never really gave much thought as to why it bothers me, but I guess the bottom line is that it disturbs me that when (lets be honest here) a woman sees something about another woman that she finds beautiful (ie.. eye color or hair), and rather than just commenting on how beautiful you are or one of your features is, she implies that it must be unnatural, purchased, enhanced, etc.
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Thats funny, I have very large pupils sometimes. people are always asking me if Im on drugs. That is just very rude. I actually always ask my eye dr what is with my eyes people are always making comments
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OMG! I can relate to this topic. A few years ago I went through the adult acne phase and went on accutane. But it takes time to work. Well everyone at my company was like... 'What happend to your face?' Like I did not know I was breaking out.... 'If you use aloe it will cure that'. 'You had beautiful skin what happend???'. And these were grown women. I tried to keep a stiff upper lip but when I went home I was a hermitt.
stacedz
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And we wonder why we live in a society that there is so much pressure on women to be thin, beautiful...comments like these, do this to us! Ok, getting off my soapbox...
MichelleW
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One time at the gym this girl commented on my breasts and said they look great, who did them .. I said G*D..lmao
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Theresa, Why would you be upset over the 'tip over' comment? I used to get it all the time and never thought of it as a negative comment. The fact is, my boobs are large. There's no hiding it.
As for the Porno remark, I can't say I've ever gotten that, but I was mistaken for a Scores girl and I took that as a compliment.
It's funny, as much as I get annoyed for people pointing out my height everyday (or inquiring/commenting about other physical charactistics), all I come back to is it could be worse. I think about the people who are disfigured, etc. and have to go through that crap. Compared to them...I have it real easy with nothing to complain about.
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I am tall and big boned and one time this random ****head at a party goes 'Wow honey...you sure are healthy. I bet your Daddy ate his Wheaties!'
OctBride03
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OMG Rachel, people just don't know when to keep their mouths shut! I can't stand people sometimes! He is a ****head!
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I am 23 years old and 5'0 and I look very young. I was volunteering at my old HS last year and the security guard asked me for my hall pass.
Brian and I went to a comedy thing and the guy was not funny. he looked at me and then brian got up to go to the bar and the comedian said wow look at him he's big, got milk then looked at me and said oh yea he's got milk (i am very big busted)
i was told to shop in the kids department for shoes
i am a size 5 1/2 shoe and the sales person told me oh no they dont make that in little peoples sizes. i was like lady i am a health 5 foot lady not some 5 year old kid.
