XOXO

julykbride Posted: Apr 04, 2003 11:58 AM

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Olgaki Posted: Apr 04, 2003 12:01 PM

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That ****s!!! Your FI should be on your side and trying to understand what you were going through!!! You just don't want her to feel out of place - that's noble. You could just not care =P

dubliner Posted: Apr 04, 2003 12:05 PM

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Ugh - your FH shouldn't have put you in that position. mail the picture anyway and I guess the rest is up to her.

Try not to stress about it. I know I'd be stressing, but sometimes you have to choose what to stress over

sanmik Posted: Apr 04, 2003 12:08 PM

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Just talk to your FSIL and tell her that you were just concerned because you don't want her mom feeling out of place or ackward. She is going to have attention on herself because she is the MOG. I don't know if she's from out of state, but let her know that evening weddings are more formal and the dress she's intending to wear is pretty but more for an afternoon wedding. Just try to be more diplomatic and tackful, you don't want to appear snobby or picky. Good Luck.

Scoop Posted: Apr 04, 2003 12:10 PM

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Don't worry yourself over this. Let everyone wear what they want. Everyone will be looking at you anyway.

butterfly20 Posted: Apr 04, 2003 01:09 PM

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somtimes fiances just shove the foot in their mouth thinking they are helping. try not to be to upset at him, I dont think it will look so bad if your FSIL relays it back to your FMIL...

michele31 Posted: Apr 04, 2003 01:09 PM

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I think you FH was just trying to help. I would tell the FSIL that the wedding is not casual by anymeans and that you do not want your FMIL to be upset if she is underdressed. Tell her that both mothers need to be in similar style gowns. Perhaps his mother doesn't have the $$ to buy something else. You cannot say more than that. Just let her wear what she wants and she can deal with how she feels then. You are only responsible for what you wear.

AlisonMT Posted: Apr 04, 2003 02:27 PM

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Hey Karen. Well, maybe I can add some levity. At least your FMIL HAS a dress. Mine refuses to even start looking!!

IrishTracy Posted: Apr 04, 2003 02:41 PM

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WHY DO MEN SPEAK!!!!

that sounds like something my FI would do!!!

Sunny Posted: Apr 04, 2003 03:45 PM

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Mine would do that, too. And when I yelled, he'd say 'What??' like I was crazy.

pschica Posted: Apr 05, 2003 10:59 AM

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i would definitely talk to your fh abotu this and let him know that just like you would 'never' betray his trust to your fmaily, you exepct the same from him...he probably didn't realize what he did but in order for you guys to be happiest he must know the line between conversatiosn you both have and those that you have that he can share with others....

hopefully this will iron itself out.....it wa snice of you to worry that your fmil would feel not dressy enough....if it ever comes up again present it in a manner that shows it was out of concern for her comfort....