XOXO

I would simply ask her 'what should I thank you for; it's not like you paid for the event or even gave us a card.'

BUT then again you might not want the drama that comes afterwards, after all it's your FH mother.

oh that's horrible
i wouldn't have given a thank you either-what are you going to write, 'thank you for not giving us a card or gift'?

even though that might be funny

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Posted by Mrs. Bernabe

BUT then again you might not want the drama that comes afterwards, after all it's your FH mother.

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For this reason alone, I would have sent a short thank you - 'thanks for sharing in our engagement celebration'. I'm not condoning your FMIL's behavior, and it sounds like you have every right to be upset with her, but why add fuel to her fire?

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Posted by KRISTIND

i take a cheap shot and say 'im sorry it was an oversight, i wrote the thanks yous from the cards!!!!'

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Good one!!!

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Posted by JACK808

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Posted by Mrs. Bernabe

BUT then again you might not want the drama that comes afterwards, after all it's your FH mother.

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For this reason alone, I would have sent a short thank you - 'thanks for sharing in our engagement celebration'. I'm not condoning your FMIL's behavior, and it sounds like you have every right to be upset with her, but why add fuel to her fire?

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I agree....

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Posted by JACK808

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Posted by Mrs. Bernabe

BUT then again you might not want the drama that comes afterwards, after all it's your FH mother.

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For this reason alone, I would have sent a short thank you - 'thanks for sharing in our engagement celebration'. I'm not condoning your FMIL's behavior, and it sounds like you have every right to be upset with her, but why add fuel to her fire?

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I thought of that, HOWEVER, I am constantly being the bigger person with this woman, only to have her turn around and talk smack at every opportunity she gets, therefore, I am DONE. ESPECIALLY after her horrid behaviour @ the party, that even non family members noticed and commented on. AFTER the party she was telling everyone that the handful of people that got the stomach bug, including herself and FFIL, got sick from the food at our party, AFTER telling me how good the food was, blah blah blah. She is so phony. I HAVE HAD IT!

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Posted by KRISTIND

i take a cheap shot and say 'im sorry it was an oversight, i wrote the thanks yous from the cards!!!!'

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This is EXACTLY what I would have done.

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Posted by Lsorrent

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Posted by KRISTIND

i take a cheap shot and say 'im sorry it was an oversight, i wrote the thanks yous from the cards!!!!'

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This is EXACTLY what I would have done.

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Not a bad idea.....but I haven't seen her since the party. Too much time has passed.

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Posted by Mrs Z To Be

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Posted by JACK808

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Posted by Mrs. Bernabe

BUT then again you might not want the drama that comes afterwards, after all it's your FH mother.

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For this reason alone, I would have sent a short thank you - 'thanks for sharing in our engagement celebration'. I'm not condoning your FMIL's behavior, and it sounds like you have every right to be upset with her, but why add fuel to her fire?

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I thought of that, HOWEVER, I am constantly being the bigger person with this woman, only to have her turn around and talk smack at every opportunity she gets, therefore, I am DONE. ESPECIALLY after her horrid behaviour @ the party, that even non family members noticed and commented on. AFTER the party she was telling everyone that the handful of people that got the stomach bug, including herself and FFIL, got sick from the food at our party, AFTER telling me how good the food was, blah blah blah. She is so phony. I HAVE HAD IT!

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I'm sorry you have to deal with someone like that.

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Posted by Mrs Z To Be

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Posted by Lsorrent

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Posted by KRISTIND

i take a cheap shot and say 'im sorry it was an oversight, i wrote the thanks yous from the cards!!!!'

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This is EXACTLY what I would have done.

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Not a bad idea.....but I haven't seen her since the party. Too much time has passed.

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you can write one now and hand it to her and say 'sorry its late, i must have missed it because i wrote the thanks yous from the cards'...just to take a cheap shot!!!!! or if she ever says something to you say it then

why do some future inlaws act the ways that they do????

AHHHH!!!!

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Posted by Mrs Z To Be

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Posted by Lsorrent

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Posted by KRISTIND

i take a cheap shot and say 'im sorry it was an oversight, i wrote the thanks yous from the cards!!!!'

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This is EXACTLY what I would have done.

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Not a bad idea.....but I haven't seen her since the party. Too much time has passed.

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you can write one now and hand it to her and say 'sorry its late, i must have missed it because i wrote the thanks yous from the cards'...just to take a cheap shot!!!!! or if she ever says something to you say it then

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I'm going to do that...screw her. Her behaviour is inappropriate and disgusting.....she is a liar, and will be unveiled eventually.
Edited for spelling.

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Posted by pa56

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Posted by KRISTIND

i take a cheap shot and say 'im sorry it was an oversight, i wrote the thanks yous from the cards!!!!'

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Good one!!!

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Lol, NICE!

Take the high road....let it go. Taking a cheep shot would be a way to go , however, you may cause some drama you don't need.You know what you are dealing with here. If not, this should give you a bit of insight into what makes her tick. Doing & saying nothing may have more of an impact.

As annoying as she is, you should try to find some way to make peace with her. You'll have to put up with her for a long time, and while she's in the wrong, what do you gain by putting FH in the middle?

Generally, people like your FMIL like to get a reaction out of people. If she sees that she's not getting to you, she just might stop.

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Posted by meg922

As annoying as she is, you should try to find some way to make peace with her. You'll have to put up with her for a long time, and while she's in the wrong, what do you gain by putting FH in the middle?

Generally, people like your FMIL like to get a reaction out of people. If she sees that she's not getting to you, she just might stop.

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I know but it is soo hard! I've been going through this for four years, and in the past, have tried to nicely patch things up...the real deal is that she expects me to kiss her azz, and I'm sorry, FH's mother or not, you don't show me any respect, why should I go abvove and beyond? As I type I can actually feel my blood pressure soaring.

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I know but it is soo hard! I've been going through this for four years, and in the past, have tried to nicely patch things up...the real deal is that she expects me to kiss her azz, and I'm sorry, FH's mother or not, you don't show me any respect, why should I go abvove and beyond? As I type I can actually feel my blood pressure soaring.

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Nobody's saying that you should kiss her azz. I know it's hard, but try not to let her get to you. Bending over for her and ignoring her are two different things. When you let her drive your blood pressure up and a wedge between you and FH, she wins.

My dad's mom never liked my mom. She even tried to throw their marriage license in the trash a few days before the wedding. My mom learned that just acting like nothing this woman said or did could bother her was the best way to deal with her.

come on you should of been thankful that she blessed you with her presence at your party! haha.....no but seriously that is messed up, if nothing else just a card would have been nice.......i feel like if she keeps acting this way there will be a blow out fight......i'm sorry you have to deal with someone like that. Just send her a save the date and be done with it......good luck