How long after you get engaged can you have an engagement party?
I seem to be reading all these plans for engagement parties at restaurants or halls with huge guest lists and favors for everyone which I feel inevitably will end up costing thousands of dollars...
I'd totally be cool with and would really just prefer having like a BBQ or something .-- just an excuse to get people together, have some cake and drinks, etc.
I'm not a native Long Islander and I know things are a little different here on the expectation level compared to in the midwest but am I totally way off base?
Will people find just a low-key bbq or get together as being cheap/lame?
dCa51899
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i've heard of/seen pix of many couples that have had a backyard bbq for their e-party and they all look great! i think its a great idea and would be lots of fun!
ETA: As far as how long you can wait after getting engaged, I don't know if it really matters. We had it 5 months after getting engaged, so it doesn't have to be right away.
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We had a tent party in my backyard. There are a few pictures of it in my album. I think it turned out nice. It was catered, and everyone had a great time.
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we actually wanted a backyard party but had no free weeknds over the summer so that it is why we ended up at at hall. I don't think people will think you are cheap or lame at all. it is your e-party you do what makes you happy!
Iluvpoodles
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Not at all..it can be as informal or formal as you want. I totally like the casual barbeque type party. Also, for favors you can do something as simple as cookies or chocolate. I did chocolate.
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I agree with the other girls. As informal or formal as you want! We just had at my parents house some close family and friends over and had it catered from a local italian restaurant..and kinda set up a buffet for everyone. It was very low key...but really nice...just another chance for the family to get together and see each other.
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you can have it as formal or informal as you want... i dont see anything wrong with a nice backyard bbq... we just had a nice dinner in a restaurant for only the immediate family and close friends... it's hard, especially if you have a large family so thats why we just limited it to the immediate fam... otherwise, you end up inviting everyone and it turns into a mini-wedding!
AngnShaun
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yeah this is totally a preference for you and your FH
Alyssa79
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we had a bbq/backyard party. it was actually one step away from a keg party basically. we are so low key/low maintenance that we wouldn't have had it any other way.
however after totalling everything up pricewise, it probably would've ran the same to have it at a restaurant
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I really think it can be as formal or as informal as you want it to be. And as far as how long after getting engaged... I don't think it really matters. Ours was 4 months after. But as long as you aren't having it like, the night before the wedding or something, I don't think it matters when.
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ive been to an engagement bbq and i didnt think any thing of it. i would have done one but i dont have a big enough bbq. you can make it as casual as you want
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We did a BBQ and I'm so glad we did because it was so much fun. We did a Yankee themed party...everyone wore their jerseys and baseball shirts. We were also able to invite just over 100 people and keep the cost under 2k. I dont think we couldve managed that in a resturant. Also- we could keep the party going as long as wanted. And people were there for almost 10 hours. At a hall or resturant, its over in about 4.
Also, you asked about how long after your engagement you can have the party. We had our party over a year later!
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This is something u can totally choose. I think a BBQ is totally great fun & laid back. Do what u guys want its all about u two!
