yes or no

A lot of people are telling us that favors are optional but I don't feel comfortable with it. What do you ladies think?

yes they are optional
i would rather get nothing than something that is cheesy or i'd never use or want

sorry, JMO

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Posted by lb9977

I've never been to a wedding where I loved the favor. FH and I are going to do a donation in lieu of favors. His mom has Lupis and we both think that the money will be better spent if we dontate it.

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My mom has Lupus too

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Posted by lb9977

I've never been to a wedding where I loved the favor. FH and I are going to do a donation in lieu of favors. His mom has Lupis and we both think that the money will be better spent if we dontate it.

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That is an awesome idea.

this is how i see it - If it is something i like or would use, chances are I HAVE IT - if it is something i dont have or use, why would i want it?

for example -
salt and pepper shakers
measuring spoons
cheese grater

these are things that most people have in their homes

i like edible favors

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Posted by tdebe

Favors aren't required like they used to be. Most people don't even like or use what they receive and probably wouldn't notice if they weren't there. I'm probably not doing favors. I don't want to spend money on something just to give something. If I can't find anything that I think is really worth giving out, then I'm not gonna stress it.

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agreed
i am doing favors (goody bags) but of all edible stuff mostly with a few things that everyone could always use

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Posted by Snowflake08

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Posted by tdebe

Favors aren't required like they used to be. Most people don't even like or use what they receive and probably wouldn't notice if they weren't there. I'm probably not doing favors. I don't want to spend money on something just to give something. If I can't find anything that I think is really worth giving out, then I'm not gonna stress it.

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agreed
i am doing favors (goody bags) but of all edible stuff mostly with a few things that everyone could always use

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good thinking!!! i was actually planning a 'sweets' station. I'd probably put a bag with it so they can take it home... or just do a goodie bag.

We are also going to do a donation. I wanted to do something for the environment/wildlife and FH wanted to help wolves lol

We settled on:
The Wildlife Conservation Society
North America Program
Great Lakes Wolf Project

We are just going to have little cards printed with that information. I think most people would rather not get the cheap favors that just get thrown away after a couple days (unless your my mother.. she keeps them in the closet until they are so covered with dust that they are virtually unrecognizable )

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Posted by lb9977

I've never been to a wedding where I loved the favor. FH and I are going to do a donation in lieu of favors. His mom has Lupis and we both think that the money will be better spent if we dontate it.

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i've heard of that 'donation in lieu of favors'
that's really sweet.

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Posted by graezie

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Posted by Snowflake08

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Posted by tdebe

Favors aren't required like they used to be. Most people don't even like or use what they receive and probably wouldn't notice if they weren't there. I'm probably not doing favors. I don't want to spend money on something just to give something. If I can't find anything that I think is really worth giving out, then I'm not gonna stress it.

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agreed
i am doing favors (goody bags) but of all edible stuff mostly with a few things that everyone could always use

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good thinking!!! i was actually planning a 'sweets' station. I'd probably put a bag with it so they can take it home... or just do a goodie bag.

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i am having a winter snowflake theme
i got snowflake coasters (ebay) im getting snowflake chocolates and chocolate lollipops, snowflake wine stoppers, chocolate biscotti, chocolate covered pretzels, hot cocoa, coffee and tea packets and snowflake cookies

thats all ive thought of so far!!

Unfortunately, this is NY.. Manhattan and Long Island are why its called the 'wedding industry'

Favors traditionally are not necessary, but today it is expected., just how it is. but it wont MAKE your wedding...so if you dont want to, I say dont do it..its up to you.

You can always do something edible, or give a donation

they are definitely optional

they are super important in my family though - go to an italian wedding, you are probably going to go home with a pretty good favor!

I personally love them and this is why I am willing to spend some extra cash and get something good!

But donations are ALWAYS wonderful!

thanks for all the input ladies! i'll share it with FH. hugs to all of you!!!

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Posted by ant n tilde

they are definitely optional

they are super important in my family though - go to an italian wedding, you are probably going to go home with a pretty good favor!

I personally love them and this is why I am willing to spend some extra cash and get something good!

But donations are ALWAYS wonderful!

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Yes, I agree. I am already being told my FMIL that we are taking a trip to Lenox to look for favors. Personally I am not a fan of edible favors for a wedding.

i want to make sure people use what i give them, rather than end up in a junk drawer or g-d knows what / where

i have favors that i never unwrapped, left on tables, etc