Your guests vs your FH's

NYCGirl2008 Posted: Jun 16, 2008 11:15 PM

Your guests vs your FH's

How many of your guests are your hubby's friends and families and how many are yours? I have 240 guests, 180 are mine and only 60 are his. Is that messed up??? Should we invite more to make it even for him? It's feels odd.

Kittyg19 Posted: Jun 16, 2008 11:19 PM

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Our list looks very similar to yours. FH has a small family and I have a large family and prob like a lot of girls I kept in touch with friends from years ago moreso than him so we are inviting 220 and about 170 is mine. I know how you feel I started looking at the list to see if I was inviting people I really didn't need to and its not the case.
If he is ok with it don't just invite people to invite them I say.

AllyDrew1108 Posted: Jun 16, 2008 11:23 PM

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i can't imagine even knowing that many people. ha ha! fh has a very small family so i'd say like 75% of the guests are mine the rest are his.

needurhelp Posted: Jun 16, 2008 11:25 PM

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bigrd37 Posted: Jun 16, 2008 11:27 PM

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ours is the opposite. i have a very small amount of actual family and a lot of family friends and close friends invited and FH's list is pretty much ALL family and very few friends.

jeanyus27 Posted: Jun 16, 2008 11:29 PM

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dh had about 30 and i had 50. I still can't believe we ended up with that little, it seemed like there were so many people there. When i told someone after the wedding how many people were there, she started laughing and said 'really? i thought you had about 200 people there!'

chrissybean77 Posted: Jun 16, 2008 11:32 PM

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Mine is very similar to yours as well. Does your FH feel bad about it? If not don't worry I'm sure he understands the situation. I come from an extremely large family and FH has a very small family so no way our numbers would be even. My FH is okay with it b/c honestly where my family still even has a B list his doesn't at all b/c I wouldn't let them not include someone when we had so many. We invited 271(that includes with guests) of that number 80 are a mix of FH's family and friends. Which means that 191 are my family and friends. FH and I always joke that most of the side of the RH that is the groom's side will acutally be mine (mostly because of his 80 guests 60 are OOT and we are not sure if they will come). It will be okay as long as he has the people he wanted to invite.

wundmoretime Posted: Jun 16, 2008 11:33 PM

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Not sure of the difference, but I def have more.

Valerie-Joe Posted: Jun 16, 2008 11:44 PM

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Posted by bigrd37

ours is the opposite. i have a very small amount of actual family and a lot of family friends and close friends invited and FH's list is pretty much ALL family and very few friends.

Same here.

bluegreen08 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 12:03 AM

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about that for a number of reasons. 1) my dad has a huge family and FH has a small family, 2) the wedding is in NY so all of FH's family/friends are OOT, 3) my parents are paying and invited a lot more of their friends

wo0shply Posted: Jun 17, 2008 12:29 AM

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I have more than his...we have a HUGE family

Butterfly123 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 12:34 AM

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DH doesnt have a large family at all. Id say 30 percent of the guests were on his side, 70 on mine... I felt bad because he had to sacrifice cause of my side...

JodyLC Posted: Jun 17, 2008 05:21 AM

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Ours is also like this... FH is a pretty private person as far as friends go... He is ok with his list... He said he invited who he wanted there. So I left it as is.

roan126 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 06:24 AM

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I had a similar situation. I have a huge family and DH doesnt....plus most of his family cancelled at the last minute. I felt bad about it, but what can you do?

MrsD71208 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 06:49 AM

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His list is way bigger than mine, due to a larger family.

dajc23 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 07:03 AM

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My list is at about 110 and his is around 90..but we still have a B list that we might have to go to. Which is actually more my people lol
but its almost even I guess

MrsInglima Posted: Jun 17, 2008 07:53 AM

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About 80 are mine and 60 are his. I think since my parents are paying it's only natural that I have a few more. Plus FH isn't as close with his family as I am with mine.

Kimbalina Posted: Jun 17, 2008 07:55 AM

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for our families.. i out number him by 35

snowcutie82 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:28 AM

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we're basically half and half....but my parents' guests are allll family and not that many friends where fh's parent's side is like half family and friends and our friends are pretty much mutual so it works out.

but we weren't paying attn to that when we made the list. we just asked for a list of who was a 'must' invite.