YOUR NOT GOING TO BELIEVE THIS!!!

babygirl71777 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:34 PM

YOUR NOT GOING TO BELIEVE THIS!!!

ok i had my engagement part back in july and just got pics from a bunch of girls from work and my fmil and boy was i not happy!!! the girls from work were acting like a$$holes!! excuse my french but i got yelled at from my fmil and my own mother that day for there behavior and i was so lost cause i had 130 people to talk to and wasnt with them all night. now ive been to a wedding with them in july before my engagement party and saw how they acted there and it was to late to disinvite them( i know that sounds wrong but you have no idea what they were doing!!) they were humping the floor a girl was faking giving her BF a blowjob( sorry ladies if im a little graphic) faking an orgasim. screamin and acting like 10 yr olds and these girls are 24 25 30 all over in ages and actin like this at a wedding so the bride came over and asked them to stop and they didnt. she didnt know what to do. i would of kicked them out! so at my engagement party my mom said she spoke to them and they calm down, but what i didnt know is that they went in front to act dumb and take dumb pics in front of my FH house with all the kids playing basketball out there. they dont act like this at work and never thought they would be this out of control at a engagment party or a wedding. ive been out with then tons of times and never did they get this out of hand. i dont want them at my wedding and they were at my engagment party and they know when the wedding is. how do i tell them they arent invited?? am i wrong im just scared on what they will do. i mean come on my mother had to tell them to calm down 25-30 yr olds?!WHAT SHOULD I DO!! AM I WRONG FOR FEELING THAT I DONT WANT THEM AT MY WEDDING!

jgl Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:40 PM

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wow that is so wrong. they need to grow up. I think you should def tell them how pissed you are and how inappropriate you thought their behavior was. If they don't get it.. they may just decide to decline your invitation, and you would be okay with that!

EverlovingEv Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:42 PM

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Explain how you feel about what happened. Ask them to behave at your wedding and tell them that if they are not comfortable with acting like adults, then they shouldn't come.

ewickens Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:43 PM

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This is your wedding, I repeat, this is your wedding - you have EVERY right to disinvite people to your wedding!! In this case, just nix them in the bud, they shouldn't be invited and you'll be (and your family) a whole lot happier!

Shell84 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:45 PM

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just don't send them an invitation

sfmullen Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:45 PM

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OMG I totally hear what you are saying.. are you afraid to loose them as friends?
I totally would just say you think their behavior is disgracful and you dont want that at your wedding. so you wont be inviting them. They will probably get pissed and be mad at you but I would def not have that at my wedding!

CASJLL Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:46 PM

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um...wow

milana Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:47 PM

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Its very simple...i would uninvite people to my wedding who dont know how to act like civilized human beings at my engagement party.

sugarkube4 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:48 PM

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That's so disrespectful.. I am appalled for you.. I am sorry your friends have no regard for your party or your happiness.. I would NOT be sending them invites bc they will be 100% WORSE at your wedding..

babygirl71777 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:49 PM

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Posted by sfmullen

OMG I totally hear what you are saying.. are you afraid to loose them as friends?
I totally would just say you think their behavior is disgracful and you dont want that at your wedding. so you wont be inviting them. They will probably get pissed and be mad at you but I would def not have that at my wedding!

i dont care if i lost them as friends, i just feel like they gave me a gift for my engagement party they should be invited to the wedding???

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:51 PM

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I wouldn't send them an invite. I would drop the pics and whatever gifts they gave you on their desk and say very sweetly - 'and this is why you're not invited to the wedding - please note the family in the background of the picture of you giving your BF a fake bj.'

Queensbebe Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:52 PM

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can u just tell them that u are really trying to cut back on the guest list and that ure not inviting coworkers?

babygirl71777 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:54 PM

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Posted by Queensbebe

can u just tell them that u are really trying to cut back on the guest list and that ure not inviting coworkers?

its so hard. they talk more about my wedding at work then i do lol my mom told me to say that but i feel funny. would you?? im ashamed to even show these pics

NY031978 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 09:55 PM

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is it bc they had a few too many????

AeroJenn Posted: Oct 31, 2006 10:00 PM

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Wow...im almost speachless....but i have enough words left to warn you to DEFINATELY disinvite them. They're going to be worse at your wedding and you dont need that embarassment again. I wouldnt just not sent them an invite, because something tells me they'd show up anyway. I would talk to them and tell them that based on their inappropriate behavior, they are no longer invited. But....something tells me these are the type to crash a wedding anyway...

babygirl71777 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 10:00 PM

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Posted by NY031978

is it bc they had a few too many????

haha best part is.............. they werent drinking. a few of the other pics i cant post some of the other girls were but not heavy. ive been out with them before to bars and they dont act like that when they are drunk i mean like 5-7 shots in lol so no it wasnt because of them. im telling u we have fun at work and laugh but we dont do things like this!!

babygirl71777 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 10:02 PM

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Posted by AeroJenn

Wow...im almost speachless....but i have enough words left to warn you to DEFINATELY disinvite them. They're going to be worse at your wedding and you dont need that embarassment again. I wouldnt just not sent them an invite, because something tells me they'd show up anyway. I would talk to them and tell them that based on their inappropriate behavior, they are no longer invited. But....something tells me these are the type to crash a wedding anyway...

oh god i hope not lol i am thinking on telling them i have a big guest list and we can afford all these people and we need to invite family only and childhood friends?? is that wrong?? i hate the feeling of having to come back from a great honeymoon and seeing them after they werent invited to my wedding when thats all they talk about at work.

snydl40 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 10:08 PM

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Tara-Don't invite these girls-it will only lead to unneeded frustration. If they say something, tell them you couldn't afford everyone and had to go back and just make it close friends and family. What morons!

libby2595 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 10:09 PM

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i scrolled to see the pics first.. so i thought it was going to end up being a funny post.... boy was i wrong

i am so sorry that they did this to you and that they put you in this position. i'm not one for controntations, but you're going to have to put your foot down to be respected.

i hope that you're able to speak your mind and still have peace at work